Hi there
I just felt a need to share with people a little more distant as well as, of course, immediate family, friends, coworkers etc.
My idea is that it's sometimes easier to share if you're not face to face, tears running and all.
My dear mother passed away tonight. It was quiet and peaceful. God bless her and rest in peace.
I'm not expecting anything, but I consider some of you guys/girls as at least a part of my network - maybe even friends.
Some of you might have advice on how to deal with close ones passing away.
(I appologize if this made you uncomfortable - feel free to ignore it and take care of your own life [thumbsup] )
Hey buddy sorry to hear. I don't have any profound wisdom but my mother passed away when I was in my early twenties. She was sick and suffering for awhile and it was terminal so my father made the decision to pull the plug. It was hard for me but it didn't really sink in till weeks later. Everyone deals with it different. Good luck and just live it day by day.
Jon
My deepest condolences Lars.
May she rest in peace.
My mom passed a few years ago after being ill for years.
I guess you have to remember the good things and that life is for the living. No gems here either I guess.
Sorry to hear of your loss, Lars. :'(
Get up and take each day as it comes. Some will be easier than others, but push on.
We're here if you need to talk.
+1 to all the above.
So sorry to hear about your mom :(
I am so sorry for your loss. Time does make the pain manageable. I lost my mother many years ago. The loss is no less, but the pain has subsided.
Lars, condolences from the wife and I. Internet hugs to you and your family.
Very sorry to hear of your loss.
I lost my dad@13 years ago(alcohol related). It isn't easy, but as they say, time heals all wounds. RIP
Lars,
My advice is to find someone you can hug, and go do that. As often as needed.
((e-hugs from SoCal))
--Stuart
Sorry to hear abouy your loss, my deepest condolences to your loss,
My mother passed away after what seems to me a life long battle against cancer just over a year ago, it would have been her birthday this past saturday.
If it makes you feel better the pain does go away, but not the memories.
Condolences as well from upstate NY.
If you were close to her you will probably never get over it, but you will eventually get used to it.
Take solace in her memory and celebrate the life she lived.
My heart goes out to you, your family and all who knew her.
Big hugs
- Bill
Sorry to hear about your mother. I can sympathize as I lost my mother in 2004. Take care of yourself and spend time around people you love.
You and your family have my sincerest condolences.
My mother passed away 9 years ago this month to cancer. I think of her every day, but I've found that as the years have passed since her death I remember her in a sort of joyful way rather than in sadness. I suppose that comes from loving someone, and knowing they would want you to continue feeling their caring after they are gone.
If I can give any advice at all it's simply to go out and try to do something fun. Enjoy life as she would have wanted you to.
I'm sorry for your loss.
Not that I have any advice that really hasn't been said... And I can't technically say I've lost a parent yet, though I'm in the process. My Dad's got a brain tumor, and it won't be long.
Though you've really already done it, talking about it does help - and yes, it can be easier to do so on a place like then, than face to face at times.
Just remember her well, and try to be the person she thought you were. It will hurt for some time, but time heals.
Remember the things you loved about her, all the little things that made her special, and have someone close to hug.
May she rest in peace, Drew
I'm very sorry, Lars :'(
Some losses do take a while to really be felt. Prayers sent for you and your family.
Dude I am so sorry for your loss.
I lost both of my grandparents who i grew up with in 2 months last year. Talking to people like this really helps but it really helps me to take the time and think about them every once in awhile. Sometimes when I am having a frustrating day I think about what they would have said to me if I were able to talk to them and I get this good feeling. The memories never fade but the pain does somewhat. All you can do is try to help her memory live on by doing things she would have wanted you to do.
Condolences from my and my family.
When my grandfather passed a friend gave me some advice that helped me a lot: He asked me if my grandfather would want me to be sad about his passing.
Good thoughts going out to you and yours in this difficult time.
Prayers going to you and yours. :'(
I'm so sorry for your loss, sending ((hugs)).
I can't add any to what's already been said, just my condolences.
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It's difficult to describe the warmth I feel from your posts.
Taking it slow - a few tears on my own, crying with family and friends, some good memories, planning the practical challenges AND new inspiration to live my life to it's capacity.
I have a fresh memory of how she didn't protest to my new Monster.
I expected a few worried headshakes, but didn't get any.
I think she understood what my Ducati-smile was all about.
my deapest condolences,
sometimes being alone helps and sometimes you need a room full of friends and family, everyone handles it different.
Bro hugs from central Cali
Condolences mate, all I can add is through my own experience with time the pain fades, it's still there, as are the memories of the times both good and bad that you shared together.
i'm sorry to hear it mate :(
our thoughts from all us Aussies are with you.
i lost my father when i was 12. as others have said, it takes a long time to sink in, and time again for the wounds to even begin to heal. i'm just grateful for the time i did have with my dad, and the memories i have. all you can do is remember them :)
I am sorry for your loss. It is incredibly difficult but it is gets easier to cope with in time. You will never forget, you will cry for quite some time, but one day the good memories will become more prominent and they will make you smile. Be kind to yourself and don't be afraid to talk to her, she will be with you in spirit.
Sorry for your loss man. My father passed away Dec 09 - long battle with illness. I had prepared myself but it was still hard. I got a lot of great memories, photos, and more importantly his tools. I said my goodbyes and apologies to my dad at his funeral - never too late to say those things, especially I love you. There will be hard times coming too - will, insurance, other paperwork - that give a sort of finality to it all. Just look at the beautiful things she brought it to your life. Don't be afraid to be sad or cry.
Hugs Lars. Like many here, I've been there in the recent past too.
Cry when you have to and don't be surprised if you need to smile or laugh at some memories either.
Heather
Hey Lars
My very sincere condolences! Even after losing a daughter to S.I.D.s I wouldnt even attempt to try and advise anyone how/what to do except for love the memories and cherish the person that she was! Smile at the funny and dearest times that will one day push the pain of loss into the background!
It does help to know that there are friends all over the world that are feeling for you at this time, take comfort in all our best wishes. [thumbsup]
I raise a glass to your Mum! [beer]
Having never been in this position I have no advice, but you have my deepest condolences.
Don
Sorry for your loss Lars , I can kinda relate my dad passed away not to long ago its ruff, but you will get threw it. I'm sure she is in a better place now. Thats how i got threw things just thinking the pain is gone and there in a better place.
Hey Lars, sorry haven't had that experience yet and i know im not looking for to it, but Betty and I send a dearest regards to you and your family, and if you need a shoulder to cry on im here, just PM me anytime Lars :-* :-*
So sad. Sorry to hear. :-[
Quote from: stopintime on January 27, 2010, 03:03:24 AM
My dear mother passed away tonight. It was quiet and peaceful. God bless her and rest in peace.
(I appologize if this made you uncomfortable
Don't even worry about that!! ^^ NMC is for any and all topics.
BIG HUG
This makes me sad to hear. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
I just spoke with a friend today whose father is ill. We discussed our feeling that no one is ever really prepared for the loss of a parent. It is one of those things that most of us are going to go through, yet it is still shockingly difficult.
I wish you peace.
no advice, just a [drink] and an ear if you need it; condolences.
Aarash
I am really sorry to hear this news Lars. My deepest condolences and sympathy go out to you and your family in this time of need. Like so many other people on here, I lost my mother a few years ago and a very lengthy (just about 30 years) battle with cancer. If you ever feel the need to unload or just have someone listen for a while, please feel free to let me know.
May she rest in peace.
sincerest condolances mate, lost my dad suddenly a few years ago and it was truly heartbreaking, remember all the little quirks and funny habits that made her your mum and know she's at rest. but remember, mums spit on their hanky to wipe away sauce on your face and always check on your girlfriends so be sure she's still keeping an eye on you.
paul.
Hey Big Fella ... obviously nothing I can really do but remind you the forum is here for you ... we experienced the power of this lot last year. Support is something they do very well.
It certainly helped me to be able to unload a whole heap of emotion on-line and more or less in private. It made it a lot easier to deal with 'reality'. Brimo posted up a link in Ozmo-land because many of us don't venture out of there very often. But I think the number of messages from down this way and elsewhere shows what a big part of this dysfunctional global family you are.
Thinking of you mate.
Lars, so sorry to hear about your loss. My sincere condolences.
I'm not sure I can add any more than others have, other for you to know that there's one more person on the other side of the world thinking about you at this time.
Nick
Lars that's very somber news.
In my experience the best way to deal with is remember your loved ones as much as possible.
Memories are our most cherished things when it comes to dealing with a loss.
Very best to you.
Matty...
Condolences Lars. Its always difficult coming to terms with the loss of someone close. Especially a parent, sibling or child. Its something that we have all either experienced or will likely have to experience as we grow older.
I hope you find solace in your memories of your mum, sometime the smallest thing brings memories rushing back that can be very overwhelming. Trust in your feeling and take heart from them because your deep sorrow is testimate to how loving your relationship is with your loved ones.
Good luck and remember to celebrate her life and not her passing when these feeling arise.
Danno
sending another eHug and my deepest condolences :'(
melissa
My condolences stopintime. I've lost my father last year and my brother this past September. I don't know you but please allow me to share your sorrow. I've learned that sadness and memories are not bad things. Again I am very sorry.
tod
So sorry to hear, I can relate to how you feel. :( A year later and I'm still not over losing my Dad.
You have my sincerest condolences.
Tried to write something yesterday, but it all sounded trite. I lost my father unexpectedly 9 years ago and it is still raw sometimes. Spent an evening with my mom and sister over the holidays going through boxes of old family pictures my mom had found. Tough but good. Sending strength and sympathy your way. I hate that my father died and the turmoil that followed. However, it was one of the best things that ever happened to me in some ways. I found it very motivating and it helped me identify what was important in my life. I now have a much better relationship with my surviving family than I have ever had. Hoping you find the silver lining.
Sorry to hear about your loss. My mother passed away almost 25 years ago and there are still time that I miss her so much it's a tangible feeling. Don't rush yourself into doing anything; take your time and grieve however you need to do it.
Sorry to hear of your mom's passing. My Dad died about 30 years ago. It no longer makes me sad but I can still feel him. I picture the odd way he did things. I see bits of him in myself. I am good at the things he was good at and I have the same weaknesses. The pain you feel now will ease and your mom will live on through you. You will carry on her DNA and her spirit.
My dad died unexpectedly and suddenly four years ago this coming April.
It took a while, but now I can remember him and smile.
Let yourself feel what you feel and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
My deepest condolences to you. It is difficult, I know.
Deepest sympathy Lars from Babs and myself. As a couple of pensioners we've both been through what you are now experiencing so we can relate so all I can say is never forget her as you only have one mum, mine died 24years ago but she still influences discisions.
Take care of yourself, time is a great healer.
BTW Stewart (Capo's) mum died at the weekend.
Keep your chin up and we'll see you in misano in june.
Lars,
i'm sorry i didnt write earlier. my deepest condolences. let me know if you need anything.
Raux
My deepest condolences.
My father-in-law passed away last week and it has been very difficult on my wife. He had been ill for a long time and it was his time for the suffering to end. The only advice I can give you is have friends and family nearby. My wife will have overwhelming emotional breakdowns and the only thing I can offer her is solace and support. She's trying to cope in other ways while I'm working - writing is the most effective therapy that she's been utilizing. She gets her feelings out on paper and it seems to help. Beyond that, time will heal your wounds.
RIP.
Virtual hugs being sent to you. Sometimes it feels good to go to a private quiet spot, remember the good times, and have a good cry. Hope you find strength and tranquility soon.
Ciao!
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Fantastic. About 600 views and 60 replies.
Another DMF sunshine performance [thumbsup]
The response has been overwhelming - thank you!
Just the idea that people out there care is extremely heartwarming.
It's inspirational.
I've read it again and again, taking the advice to heart and it has actually helped a lot already.
My sister read it and was moved. I told my father about it and he was moved. I've been moved - profoundly.
For what it's worth, I'm sure my mom would have been too.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you [thumbsup]
Very sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom.
I lost my Dad over Thanksgiving. He was killed when a deer tried to jump over the road, struck him from the side and knocked him off his bike. The only comfort that I can find in any of what happened is that he died instantly upon impact and didn't suffer. He rode a Ducati as well and had a real passion for riding. He was my best friend and he's on my mind every second of the day.
Try your best to take care of yourself...eat something...and try to get enough sleep. I know that sounds obvious but I still have trouble doing that myself. I've come to realize throughout all of this, that there is only one thing we can really do and that is to live our lives in such a way that would make our parents proud.
Again, very sorry to hear about your loss.
Really sorry to hear of your loss as well Benjamin. It is never easy having someone that you love taken away from you, but at least in your case, your father was doing something that he loved when it happened. RIP.