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As I sit here dealing with the fall out of my life trying to come to grips my daughters future... this song plays in my head.

Bon Jovi Wild Is The Wind (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-MCWUw0AqMk#normal)

Thank you for stopping in at my pity party, please don't drink the kool-aid... it's bad.

I tried, God knows I did, I don't know what else I could have done. More importantly I supect my most Herculean efforts would have fallen short. You can't make another person care. She left last night, I won't chase her this time.

 :'( oh man sorry to hear it  :'(

you at work tonight maybe i will stop in ?

Sorry man,
Let me know if there is anything I can do for you.

No couldn't drag myself in to much on my mind.

Zaster, I may take advantage of your offer if you're free tomorrow.

You better or I'll kick your ass.....wait maybe I need to rephrase this...I forgot about the age difference. ;D

 :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(

You will get through it, Hon.  All your friends and family are behind you.   Like you, I feel the most important thing is Alyssa. 

Since you posted the Bon Jovi video, I am this close to posting Donna Summer's "I Will Survive".  But I will refrain.  Love ya.

Ew, please do... refrain. I'm so not in the mood for that, still mourning a bit don't need the rally cry yet. But when I'm ready it will probably be the Cake version... their good, but I vibe the Cake and not wanting the full strident vocals right now. Youtube it you'll like.

Hang in there amigo.  If you need to get away, I know of a few of us up in CO to hang with!!

A friend of mine sent me this recently after some rough times...It rang true for me.

Kenny Chesney (feat Dave Matthews) - I'm Alive - CMA Awards 2009 (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eQV8bpNbrHs#normal)

     I'll stand with DDGM, if You wanna get out  , I'm sure We can find some mental diversions around here, warmer weather is coming....Chin up, stay focused, things will get better.

Scottish,

I don't know what to say in support of ya except to say that you're in my thoughts today.  I can't imagine the pain, disappointment, and worry that must be occupying your thoughts at this moment. 

If you need some quick distraction, let me know.  WSB starts Sunday and you're more than welcome to come over to the house to watch (that invitatation is hereby formally extended to the rest of you Hooligans, as well) and comiserate.  If turning wrenches helps ya I'd be happy to help you work on a bike (I'm pretty good at it most days) or you can help with reassembly of the HD racer project, which will commence tomorrow.

Warmest wishes,

Cloner
ABQ, NM

 :'( hang in there, and were always here if ya need anything....dont heistate to call...

i know its always lame and always repeative to say, it gets better with time...

It's getting better. I'm starting to think about running down to TD's and getting a new one.  [evil]


Apparrently forgetting to eat for two days will make everything gloomier.

im sure u can wrastle some of the boys and make a guys nite of it  [laugh]

yes, plz do eat  [bacon]

Yeah, I also rode my bike about 20 miles in the last two days. Between the excertion and lack of food I was starting to feel like I was on a indian vision quest.

and did u see anything in that vision?  [popcorn]

bacon? hookers? motos? panty hose? maybe a watering hole?  ;D

was there a short bus anywhere in your vision?

What I saw iin that vision must be told in person... not even the NMMR is ok to speak of such things.  [cheeky] I really am feeling better, as far as Drea is concerned.... well she's someone else's headache now. I started packing her stuff and it's like I'm packing baggage. I feel lighter with everything that leaves.

I'm talking with her now and we trying to hash out a custody arrangement. She's proposed one, it gives her 60/40 custody, but three days a week she'll be in daycare and there are only three periods through the week where I wouldn't have her that I'm not working and she'll be in day care at those times.

If she's talking rationally about custody you have to count yourself lucky.  Lots of folks end up  [bang] over that issue, along with division of community property. 

Holler if you need luck scouting at TDs.   [evil]

I haven't met Scottish, don't really know what this story is about, but I suspect a breakup. Having survived those moments in my life, I can say from experience that things get better- a lot better- as time passes. Every negative situation creates the opportunity for a more positive future,

It's true.

OOOOOOH TD's...never been.   I heard they are the best you can rent!  Next time I am in town,  I am taking you out!!

titties and beer....titties and beer....sing along boys  [drink]

Should be 60-40 in favor of you.  Seriously.  Don't agree to anything less than 50-50, Anson.  We need to talk again.  You're stressing Grandma Gloey out.   :-[   I know you will do the best thing for Alyssa.  Guess we could take this offline, huh?   :-\

You guys down there supporting him in this crisis is beyond words for me.  It's why we are so much more than just a local board.  Thanks to all of you up here in Colorado (and New York), too.   :-*   You are the best of friends.

Ahhhhh!!! There's the problem I thought it was rent to own. Apparrently my lease expired and I never realized I needed to turn the unit in.

Yes thank you everyone, as for custody nothing is in stone yet. I'm still deciding, Geoff thinks I need to go for absolute full custody. He was pissed I was even considering this.

Here are my dilimas and why I am mulling it over. I can A) Go for full custody, risk losing but creating a real hostile situation either way. or B) except her deal which would allow me to be with Alyssa for a good chunk of my time off through the week and hopefully keep things civil between her parents.


The problem I have is which benefits Alyssa more. Civility between her parents or a complete lack of influence from her Mom. The other thing I'm looking at is that with us split apparrently Drea's income is low enough that she qualifies for state help with daycare expenses. We've been wanting to put her into daycare for the social aspect for awhile but couldn't afford it. Including the time she'd spend there I'd actually spend more time with her on a weekly basis than Drea. Drea would be with her 4 nights and saturday. I'd pick her up Saturday after work have her for two full days uninterupted then drop her off Tuesday evening as I went into work. The only extra days I could have her would be wed-fri am. Those are the ones she will be in daycare... which I approve.

Now if I fight this and go for full custody, #1. even with the ammo I have it's gonna be 50/50 at best that I win. That's just the way it is for Dads. The benefit would be she'd come home to me every night (which I want so badly). Then I'd have to apply for those same benefits (which is doable, I'll eat whatever pride I need to for her). But a no doubt hostile environment between her parents, and a lack of a woman figure in her home life.

I'm just trying to find the balance of the greater good, for Alyssa. I know what I want, but what is best for my little Darling?

I am so sorry to hear this.  I went through a divorce 5 years ago.  Fortunately I didn't have to deal with a custody battle but it was still one PITA.  I'm physically closest to you   . . .   wait that don't sound right, but you know what I mean.  If you need anything, transport help, bike wrenching, baby sitting, whatever, just yell.  I'll do what I can around my work schedule.

I'm expecting Dr. Phil to weigh in on this trainwreck any time now.   :o

Whatever you decide, all are good points to consider.  Rosemary and I were wondering why it has to be stated, the percentage.  Why can't you keep it flexible and work it out as you go?  That's what your dad and I did.  Don't get locked into a number, especially anything less than 50%.  Glad you are feeling better.  

And keep that crazy Kawboy away from my granddaughter.    [cheeky]

WHAT?  WHAT??  W H A T ??  Babysitting??   We'd just sit down watch motogp and have a beer together.  I'd even teach her to be  Jorge fan.     [beer]

Scottish,  I know you don't think so but things could be worse.  Consider the following:

Next time your having a bad day imagine this: your a Siamese twin your brother on your shoulder is gay, your not, he has a date coming over and you have only one ass.

Great.  Things seem to be getting back to normal as the threadjacking is resumed.  You're a pretty good ole' guy, Kawboy.  Thanks for the comic relief.   :)

LOLOLOL.  wow.

Scottish,  gimme a call this weekend.  My brother just went through this with a very VERY similar situation.  I have some info, etc that could help but is best discussed and not typed on a public board.

In the meantime....hold tough and like Kawboy said, thank god you dont have a gay Siamese twin on your shoulder.

Wow.  Just... wow.

Scottish, I'm sorry I missed wrenchin' on the car with you & Zaster today, I tried to get there.
I did get to watch rescue try to extract a person from a rolled over car for about 30min.
 Just another example of "it could be worse", I guess, not really how I look at things, but that gay twin analogy is worth thinkin' about... for 2 seconds at most  [puke]

No offence, but I'm more upset that I missed Pam's enchilada's.   :'(

Hang in there, Bubba!

Awwwwwwwwwwwww, c'mon DDGM!  We're just one big happy family here now, aren't we?  Nobody snoops the NMMR unless they are bored and feel like entering the Twilight Zone of the DMF.  Share!   Actually, I know he will be glad to get some advice from someone who's been through it.   [coffee]

Im happy to share, its just too much to type.  I have fat lazy fingers  [thumbsup]

Pam and Karl... thank you for giving your weekend to me. I'll never be able to thank you enough, especially with Karl having that crappy cold.

In addition, thank you to everyone who's reached out to support me as I go through this crud. I've invested so much time trying to fix this whole deal that I'd forgotten exactly how many wonderful people I have in my life. Thank you all, seriously you can't imagine the uplift it gives me.

Can't think of a better way of spending a weekend with a friend and my favorite lady by our side [thumbsup]

You guys rock.   :-*

Just to let everybody know, we signed the papers this morning. Assuming the court approves everything it all went as planned. Which is as well as can be expected.

....wow!!!....that was fast.....took me two years???

ya just what i was thinking! good luck  [thumbsup]

We don't really have anything to fight over... speeds up the process. Either way on to the future! I'm gonna put some ideas I talked to Stu about.

thats good to hear  [bacon] [moto]

Just wanted to let everyone know, I'm doing much better.





Also a little FYI. Apparrently it's really over when you are unfriended from Facebook.  :P



 [roll]

I noticed that.  I was unfriended sometime last week.  That's okay, like you said, onward.  [coffee] 

So I've got a new place, things are settling into a new comfortable pattern. My life is actually looking up, I have a strong interest at work for getting me into management. That should definitely improve the financial situation. I'm re-expanding my social network... and I've got some hot young thing with a fantastic... er, personality chasing me.

Life goes on, my wounds are healing, the hardest part is now on my daughters shoulders. She's sweet by nature but it seems there is a bit of sadness in her lack of understanding. Then again it could be me super-imposing my feelings on her moods.

So glad to hear you are healing.  As for your little sweetheart, you probably already know that kids are VERY resilient.  Just keep loving her with all your might.  She'll be fine.  You're a good father.  [clap]