Raux, every good rider that has ever giving me any kind of coaching, street or dirt, has said to keep your elbows up in an attack position, keeping more weight on the front wheel. If your elbows are down, and your front wheel starts going away, it's gone, if your elbows are up, you might have a chance to catch it before you hit the ground.
That might be the case for dirt and city, but for the twisties and track .... I'm pretty sure the consensus is elbows loose and low.
Monsters have an identity problem in that respect - the OEM bars won't allow a natural whole-handed grip without also pointing the elbows out. For longer rides and spirited/track riding - with the elbows down/loose - the hands will only be in partial contact with the grip, thus the pain issues.
thanks. geez i wish i could figure this out though. my hands are going numb too much
The solution is, most probably, changing the ergonomics of your grip. Rizoma for sweep and added height. Suburban Machinery Bars for sweep only.
Clip ons for sweep, but usually comes with a lower grip result.
You should also check if rotating the levers will help - the wrists should always be straight.