Make the Call...........Please.

[badgalbetty]

I lost a friend to suicide on Sunday.

I am utterly devastated by this.

This is the second suicide I have known.........the first was a former spouse, so I know first hand how much it hurts.

I had known Helen for 30 years.

Promise me this boys and girls, if you ever get to that point in your life where you think that life is not worth living , please call someone.

Your family and friends do love you,no matter what you think.

Everything in life is fixable and even if you think its not................ please please please call 911

I am so sad that she did not make the call.

I have cried so many tears and still they come.

Here is something for you if you are lost.............and dont know what to do or where to go.

coldplay fix you

You can always e mail me, and I will do my best to put you in touch with someone locally in your area that can help you.

Suicide is never never an option.

BGB

[Oldfisti]

+11tyb


So sorry for your loss.


I lost 2 aquaintances to suicide and although I was not close with them both affected me greatly.


It hurts people that you would never even think it would.

[Big Troubled Bear]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss, I can only share with you, it`s been 11 years and it still hurts

[Speedbag]

So sorry to hear. 

A friend of mine gave up on the world just over 20 years ago, and I still think about it.

[stopintime]

I'm very sorry.

Not as close, but it happened to a friend about ten years ago.

His ten year old daughter said - "at least I know that's what HE wanted to do"  

[DesmoDiva]

Very sorry for your loss.   


Having almost lost myself to sucide, I understand how helpless these people feel.

I also know now how much a complete stranger is will to do to make sure you live another day.

Please... please... reach out to those around you. 

[swampduc]

I'm so sorry, BGB. I lost one of my closest friends a short while back to a drug overdose that *may* have been suicide, and I think about him every day. Lean on your friends at this time, and thank you for posting this. If it helps just 1 person...

[angler]

My heart goes out to you.  Lost my father 9 years ago (Easter Sunday) to acute lead poisoning.  We knew he was in trouble, but he was seeing a professional and had no idea the problem ran so deep.  He had just started a course of meds and it is likely the meds gave him the energy to carry through with the ideation.  I wish we had known this about many anti-depressants.

It was one of the toughest things I've ever been through, although, 9 years later it, I realize it helped me deal with my own demons and it still keeps me focused on what's important.  

[sbrguy]

sorry for your loss, hope you get through things as best you can.

we all have to remember none of us can/will ever know what is "really" going on with someone else in their own minds and situations, even if we are right there next to them 24/7 for their entire lives there is still no way for us to "literally know" what that person is thinking or going through.  We can delude ourselves and say/think we have went through the "same thing as them" and tell them "the right thing to do" but really none of us will ever truly know what goes on inside of another person's head all the time. 

best wishes and get through the situation as best you can. 

[Howie]

It saddens me to hear this.  My condolences to you and all affected by this tragic loss.

[mitt]

Suicide sucks. Sorry to the OP.

mitt

[somegirl]

I'm so sorry for your terrible loss.  ((hugs))

[Grampa]

 

[whackie]

Having almost lost myself to sucide, I understand how helpless these people feel.

i give you credit for saying that, i know how hard it can be to admit it. i've been through 2 bouts w/ depression.

the first one related to my marriage, either it ended my marriage or the depression was helped along because of my marriage. came pretty close to taking my life one night, only thing that stopped me was my bro calling me up randomly. never told him what was happening, actually nvr told anyone. but i got on meds. eventually i got off them by becoming an exercise-aholic. endorphins rock!

the 2nd bout i saw a shrink n was on meds. probably happened because i hurt my knee n couldn't excerise for a very long time. at the same time, life kinda went to shit. but the reason i got out of it was i found one friend. just one friend, that went through the same thing. he probably went through it worse than me. i could talk to him about it and everything that i felt was normal to him. together we worked through it. i learned from him how to cope.

i think a lot of ppl just don't talk about it. there's a shame about mental illness. i think the biggest thing i learned from my friend was follow ur instincts. he does this thing where if u think about someone, even randomly, give them a call. reach out to them. that was always his thing. to this day, even though he's on the east coast n i'm in hawaii, he calls n says he thought of me. usually he's spot on that's something's up.

[badgalbetty]

Thank you all for your thoughts and comments and experiences. I am very proud of you all that have shared something so deeply personal such as a bout of depression and or an attempt at suicide with us all. You have a lot of courage to admit it.
Thank you.
Nothing in life is a given except that one day it will end. Doing it by your own hand is not the way.
Life is too good to waste too short to squander and far too wonderful to end it .
Thank you for your stories, most of you have not heard mine.
One day I'll tell you all when its time, but at the moment , my thoughts are with my friends Helen's family, with her son Austin and my friend Nick her ex hubby.
Helen I miss you so much.
You guys ride safe,
BGB