Got the Blessing

[teddy037.2]

on another note, and this is a general question for those that have, or feel they should ask...what if you ask her parents for permission or their blessing and they say no? do you go through with it anyways? do you walk away from it all? do you just start crying and tellign them how they screwed up their daughter's life enough already and ask why they can't just let her be happy?

i've always wondered the same...

but I'm never getting married, so I guess it doesn't matter much 

[DesmoDiva]

i've always wondered the same...

but I'm never getting married, so I guess it doesn't matter much 

That's a pretty bold statement, Teddy.   

Though I guess it no different than I chose not to have any children. 

[teddy037.2]

That's a pretty bold statement, Teddy.   

yeah, but I have a glorious history, full of bad decisions lol so I'm done.

ok, so maybe it's not glorious.  It's cool though. I'm not going to hide in the woods and type up a manifesto or nothin', I'm just fine with being single.

[DesmoDiva]

[snip]  I'm just fine with being single.

As long as you're happy.  

[teddy037.2]

As long as you're happy.  

[r_ciao]

Congrats! and keep us posted on how you actually do it and her reaction.  Positive I'm sure.

[DW]

Pretty simple really.  Involve the motorcycle in some significant way.  Take her on the most scenic ride you can find.  Stop at a place with an overlook and pop the question.  Keeping the bike involved attaches all sorts of gushy feelings to it.  Besides, she will probably hold on very nicely on the way home.

Then a few years later when you find that bike you really want, she may be more inclined to let you buy it.

Hey, it worked for me.

[Setsukosan]

Just an update, I will be asking her on New Years Eve... is that too cheesy? 

Engagement Ring:


Wedding Band:


Together:


kind of a bad picture of them together, looks better in person =/
oh well, let me know what you think.

[swampduc]

No, it's not cheesy. Beautiful rings. Good luck!

[DesmoLu]

Congrats.
I proposed at the top of Yosemite Falls in waterfall season (it was late April). Course, I didn't go through with the wedding, so you might wanna go another direction 

damn, I didn't know you were such a romantic! that's a good one!

Congratulations, Setsukosan!! New Year's sounds great, best of luck to you both and keep us all posted. God knows we love the sappy stories 

My single suggestion would be that, whatever spot you pick, do it in a place that you would want to revisit, even with future kids and such. I knew an old couple that went to the same restaurant every year on their anniversary for 50+ years after he had proposed there. Now THAT is romantic!

[Bun-bun]

on another note, and this is a general question for those that have, or feel they should ask...what if you ask her parents for permission or their blessing and they say no? do you go through with it anyways? do you walk away from it all? do you just start crying and tellign them how they screwed up their daughter's life enough already and ask why they can't just let her be happy?

As a parent, it is your job to say yes. Afterwards, you can go to your offspring and tell them that you will NEVER allow her to marry that bum.

Just an update, I will be asking her on New Years Eve... is that too cheesy? 

Good idea. Makes for a great start to the new year. Marry her on a holiday too, makes it easy to remember the anniversary!

My single suggestion would be that, whatever spot you pick, do it in a place that you would want to revisit, even with future kids and such. I knew an old couple that went to the same restaurant every year on their anniversary for 50+ years after he had proposed there. Now THAT is romantic!

That didn't work out too well for me. The restaurant was bulldozed a few years back. It's a strip mall now.

[Nitewaif]

Pretty simple really.  Involve the motorcycle in some significant way.  Take her on the most scenic ride you can find.  Stop at a place with an overlook and pop the question.  Keeping the bike involved attaches all sorts of gushy feelings to it.  Besides, she will probably hold on very nicely on the way home.

Then a few years later when you find that bike you really want, she may be more inclined to let you buy it.

Hey, it worked for me.

Very slick.  I like the way you think.

[Setsukosan]

that sounds like an awesome idea... I have been wanting a 999 recently...

[Le Pirate]

You could always go my route. I never actually "asked her to marry me."


She found out that I was trying to decide what ring I was going to get her (damn autofill on the firefox search box gave up my secret  ). She ended up looking at rings with me....I bought one and she put it on.


It's now a running joke that we never actually got engaged.