not allowed to ride

[RetroSBK]

I always make it a point to ask guys that tell me that  "Does she have a special spot in her purse for your balls?"

I have never understood how a guy woudl let another person, wife or not dictate the lifestyle they lead. I guess some lead and some follow.

Id say a bunch of really inflamatory pro man stuff right now, but I think every guy that "gets it" is already thinking it.

For me personally, when I got married, my wife and I would ride two up at trackdays, I even built a 996 with handles in the tank! Having your passeneger have her knee on the ground is pretty awesome! Our last two up trackday was when she was 4 months pregnant with my oldest. A month after she was born I got asked if I was going to stop riding. The answer was "Joint custody?" Now I take my seven year old on the back of my busa as often as I can...

[flynbulldog]

I have a neighbor who's wife sold his bike while he was out of town on a business trip...

He watches several of us leave on rides every week and I know he'd like to have a bike again but hey, he always has golf 

[sroberts152]

I used to feel sorry for people like this.  Now, I just smile and nod at people when they tell me their spouse won't let them or they won't let their spouse or they have kids.  All excuses for not being able to ride well or not being able to be your own person and do what makes you happy or not having your spouse trust you.  Plus, it keeps them out of my way when I am lane sharing on my way to and from work.

[JEFF_H]

http://ducatimonsterforum.org/index.php?topic=31913.0

[Holden]

What about when your wife would never even think of asking you not to ride, but it still makes her worry/uncomfortable/stressed out?

Should that really be treated any differently from her asking you not to ride?

[DucMouse the Mighty]

be with someone that likes riding too....

[NFG]

I'm always a bit surprised by couples who maintain a consistently adversarial relationship.  Here in Australia it's particularly prevalent, and the number of men and women who pass my office yelling and arguing with each other is surprising.  TV commercials are full of it, and wherever you go people talk about how they're prohibited from doing this or that other thing.

I picked a woman who didn't do that.  It wasn't hard, I just wouldn't put up with anyone who put limits on my behaviour.  I do not respond well to authority, but I certainly allow that some men need it.  Women too.  I dunno how they can claim to be happy, but whatever.

I listen to my wife though.  When we could finally afford the Ducati, she was supportive, but cautious.  I took the course, I bought all the gear, and she knows I'm a cautious driver.  I've no doubt I could still have bought the thing if she disapproved, but I do doubt I'd have wanted to.  We're a team, and if one or the other feels strongly about something, we'll be very sure our own feelings are stronger before we act on 'em.  Usually we compromise, as teams do.

It's not complicated.  =)

[Speedbag]

Since my brush with what could have easily been death two months ago, initially my SO had voiced serious concerns about me riding anymore. Gulp.

When my bike got fixed, the only way at the time to get it home from the dealer was to ride it. She wasn't thrilled at all, especially since she would be following me and we would be taking the same route I had the deer incident on. Double gulp (I was a little freaked as well).

However, she could tell I enjoyed the ride home and knew/knows it's a part of who I am. She still doesn't like it (probably more than I'm aware of), but accepts the lunacy.

[Scotzman]

Not to throw it in your faces or anything, but my wife got me my bike for Christmas a while back and might be more proud of it then I am. The only thing she asks is not to let her see or hear about wheelies.

[somegirl]

MrI forces me to ride the Duc (he keeps taking my car).

[DesmoLu]

My wife and I don't get to decide what the other is allowed to do. I don't understand why anyone would want to be in a marriage with someone whose choices they don't basically trust and respect.

You would think that's the way it should be... its good to know there are still "real" marriages out there. Seems to me a lot of them, particularly in the higher income circles, are just functional contracts where the trophy wife gets to decide a lot things provided she bends in a lot of ways 
sad, but actually an accurate observation.

[mstevens]

You would think that's the way it should be... its good to know there are still "real" marriages out there.

Maybe 'cause we got married as teenagers and were married through college, medical school, residency, etc. Maybe 'cause she's really interested in taking things apart (usually that can't be put back together, like mice or guinea pigs) and doesn't mind "guy stuff" while I'm happy to go to a spa and do "girl stuff" (as long as no shoe-shopping is involved). Maybe 'cause she's so low-maintenance that when she does want something it's important. Maybe 'cause she is a trophy wife and very bendy... Most likely just 'cause she hasn't got around to killing me yet.

Seems to me a lot of them, particularly in the higher income circles, are just functional contracts where the trophy wife gets to decide a lot things provided she bends in a lot of ways 
sad, but actually an accurate observation.

I get your point, though. I look at friends and patients, both men and women, and constantly wonder why on earth they put up with the crap they do. I just hope my son finds someone sane. At the moment he's only attracted to utterly insane girls, but maybe that's because they're all 14.

[No_Normale]

I just hope my son finds someone sane. At the moment he's only attracted to utterly insane girls, but maybe that's because they're all 14.

Uh yeah- 14 = not a normal age especially girls...

And my two cents about women allowing or not allowing there partners to ride- I cringe when I hear this. Seriously, if you don't trust them to be safe and do the right thing then why the heck are you together? Is your partner a little boy who needs rules and regulations? I don't mind parenting my child but a grown human being? Come On!

And men that use this excuse or allow their girlfriends or wives to make this decision for them ...hmm,  I think some of them use it because they are afraid or scared to actually do something they might enjoy. Two miserable people make a better relationship?

Bah- I hear this all the time and all I can think is... you haven't lived!

/gets down from soap box

[RUFKM]

Been there-done that.  20 years = rode.  20 years with wifey = didn't ride.  2 months without wifey = S4RS.  Life is good!

BTW new girlfriend = "is what is".

[sroberts152]

Mrs. 152 comes from a family of riders and gets bummed out when we don't ride places or family get togethers.  We left our wedding (10 years ago) on her step-dads Virago.