We're not segregated... I'm not even a girl. They were just trying to point you in some helpful directions. The ladies here are quite knowledgeable and have had running dialogues about getting quality gear that actually fits women.
For a pant suggestion - I've sold my soul to the Italian devils at Dainese. They have a ladies version of the Firefly which matches your Leather, stretch knees and no slider critieria:
http://www.dainese.com/us_en/motorbike/p-firefly-pelle-lady.html?gender=1&cat=21As far as stores - not that it might help you much being way over there.. but I like:
Revzilla.com - good prices good selection, many times have videos of the gear
NewEnough.com - good prices, not a large a selection, but top notch customer service. Has detailed photos they shoot, with notes on the features and their thoughts on fit, value etc for every item they sell.
Kneedraggers.com - Large selection, good prices. They ship *very* quickly to me. Which won't be a plus for you...
Motowheels.com - a board sponsor. Lots of shiny Dainese stuff.. just watch your wallet as they sell a lot of goodies for your bike too.
Though if you want more general input from the masses, there's a Gear section of the board
http://ducatimonsterforum.org/index.php?board=6.0Folks will have some thoughts for stores if you ask there as well. If you're looking for a particular brand people can help you hunt down vendors for that brand as well.
Good luck