how would one check to see if it's too much spring for me? sit on the bike and how much should it sink?
You'll need some help.
First you lift the bike to extend the suspension fully and measure. Make some marks so your measurements are repeatable.
Then have a friend hold the bike upright. Climb on with all your gear and bounce the suspension to settle things. Sit as you normally ride.
Then have someone else take a measurement in the same place.
You're looking for 1 1/4 - 1 3/8 inches
Same thing in the rear.