dating....

[TiNi]

ok so I can't let this one go. ilikedon'tknowwhyyousaysuchthingsandlikegeneralizeallwomenintoonecategorybecause,youknow,um,notallofusarethatwayandtalkandtalkanddon'tshutupnordowefeelitimportanttotellyoulikeeverylittlethinggoingoninourlivesbutlikewhenyousitthereatdinnerandjusttextandpostonforumsandignoreuswellwe'rejusttryingtolikefindsometopicthatmightbeofinteresttoyouthatmaybejustmaybeyoucouldparticipateinconversationcuzwhenwegetlikemarriedandhavebabiesiwanttoknowwhatkindoffatheryou'relikegoingtobeandifyoucan'tliketalktomeatdinnerwheni'mtellingyouaboutwhatsnookididonthelatestepisodeofjerseyshore,heylookachicken,thenhowamigonnaknowifyou'regoingtolikebeinvolvedinourkidslivesandreadthembooksandteachthemhowtocall311or911whensomeonelikepunchesourminivanortipsyourmotorcycleoverandwehavetolikecallthepolice.......

what she said

[Ddan]

You forgot

- Outside your local Planned Parenthood office (my personal favorite)

Family reunions

[TiNi]

Family reunions

[zooom]

You forgot

- Outside your local Planned Parenthood office (my personal favorite)

unless you are Jay cruising with Silent Bob ( yes, I had to go with the Dogma movie reference!)

If You're not single you have no dog in this fight, just say'n 

not true...see excerpt below

So, you have multiple reasons nowadays for dating... what is a date nowadays and how do people do it? Whether you have people who have been together for years and need to reconnect or reignite on a "date night" .....

now add in your 0.02 as you certainly do indeed have a dog in this fight as it were...

[RAT900]

you actually read through all of that? 

You ARE marriage material!!!

[RAT900]

Family reunions

I was dis-invited from a family reunion hosted by our surname Genealogists (I gave them a pile of research on my family branch)

for suggesting that I would bring condoms with the family crest on them

they thought our branch fell off the tree around 1860....I am sure they wish it had now

stuffy self-important bastids...

we're so make the beast with two backsing inbred I am surprised we don't have hip dysplasia

[The Bacon Junkie]

you actually read through all of that? 

You ARE marriage material!!!

Is that a proposal? 

[RAT900]

Is that a proposal? 

nah I am just pimping you to the members 

[The Bacon Junkie]

nah I am just pimping you to the members 

I like your idea better than mine...   

[fastwin]

I was dis-invited from a family reunion hosted by our surname Genealogists (I gave them a pile of research on my family branch)

for suggesting that I would bring condoms with the family crest on them

they thought our branch fell off the tree around 1860....I am sure they wish it had now

stuffy self-important bastids...

we're so make the beast with two backsing inbred I am surprised we don't have hip dysplasia

[KnightofNi]

very interesting topic.

I have found myself wondering what the hell do do with girls myself.
The dinner and a movie thing just seems so out of date and boring now. i am trying things like going for a bicycle ride, taking a short class on something (dancing, rock climbing, bomb making, ect..) or even going out to see a band. on a real date i will either cut way back on the drinking or avoid it. (unless it's going poorly, then i drink like a fish to make it better or worse depending on your POV  )

traditional dating seems to be long gone. it may be the circles i run in, it may be my age and the mindset of those at the same point in their lives.
agreed that a bar is not to pick up someone for more than a few nights encounters.

now I need to make a disclaimer. i am not looking for anything substantial. i am looking for a warm body that is relatively attractive to make myself feel better about my own position in life right now. I'm in what Rat defined as the hooking up before the nervousness part. it seems a lot of people just want to get laid. the end game is to gain access to the emotions, but the actual sex part starts off as relatively emotionless. then again, see my previous statement on emotional involvement.
I believe the actual dating part comes into play when you see the person and feel something in a place other than your pants. when you want to see them because they are fun to hang out with and not because they are willing to get naked with you. when actual friendship starts to creep in and you notice more emotion that's when it becomes more of a dating situation.
or the sex part is the dating and it goes to actual relationship afterwards.
I'm very confused by it all and talking through it here hasn't helped me. lol

[yamifixer]

I have never understood the dinner and a movie date. Here is a person that you want to spend time with and talk to so you go and sit silently in the dark with for 2 hours. Is it just me?

[He Man]

ok so I can't let this one go. ilikedon'tknowwhyyousaysuchthingsandlikegeneralizeallwomenintoonecategorybecause,youknow,um,notallofusarethatwayandtalkandtalkanddon'tshutupnordowefeelitimportanttotellyoulikeeverylittlethinggoingoninourlivesbutlikewhenyousitthereatdinnerandjusttextandpostonforumsandignoreuswellwe'rejusttryingtolikefindsometopicthatmightbeofinteresttoyouthatmaybejustmaybeyoucouldparticipateinconversationcuzwhenwegetlikemarriedandhavebabiesiwanttoknowwhatkindoffatheryou'relikegoingtobeandifyoucan'tliketalktomeatdinnerwheni'mtellingyouaboutwhatsnookididonthelatestepisodeofjerseyshore,heylookachicken,thenhowamigonnaknowifyou'regoingtolikebeinvolvedinourkidslivesandreadthembooksandteachthemhowtocall311or911whensomeonelikepunchesourminivanortipsyourmotorcycleoverandwehavetolikecallthepolice.......

hahahaah  I think we need to break up. dont worry we can still be friends.

Seriously though, i didn't mean to generalize women like that, there are definitely some really cool down to earth girls, but as many as there are good wholesome girls to date, theres just as many who live in a fantasy world with no  ethics or any sense of pride for who they are.

btw, How the hell do you punch a minivan???

[Monsterlover]

ok so I can't let this one go. ilikedon'tknowwhyyousaysuchthingsandlikegeneralizeallwomenintoonecategorybecause,youknow,um,notallofusarethatwayandtalkandtalkanddon'tshutupnordowefeelitimportanttotellyoulikeeverylittlethinggoingoninourlivesbutlikewhenyousitthereatdinnerandjusttextandpostonforumsandignoreuswellwe'rejusttryingtolikefindsometopicthatmightbeofinteresttoyouthatmaybejustmaybeyoucouldparticipateinconversationcuzwhenwegetlikemarriedandhavebabiesiwanttoknowwhatkindoffatheryou'relikegoingtobeandifyoucan'tliketalktomeatdinnerwheni'mtellingyouaboutwhatsnookididonthelatestepisodeofjerseyshore,heylookachicken,thenhowamigonnaknowifyou'regoingtolikebeinvolvedinourkidslivesandreadthembooksandteachthemhowtocall311or911whensomeonelikepunchesourminivanortipsyourmotorcycleoverandwehavetolikecallthepolice.......

Longest word i've ever seen

[Adamm0621]

Is it considered a date if you pay them upfront for services to be rendered, but afterwards they try to give you your money back and hand you their phone number?