Sooo... I'm struggling a little bit.

[ducpainter]

... I have an aunt that's 3 years older than me. Her heart has failed. She's decided to go out on the day she came in. 

How the make the beast with two backs do you make that decision?

I struggle with the concept.

For the record this is going to happen on November 6rh.

Freaks me right the make the beast with two backs out.

[LMT]

I like the idea of picking our death date. I want to go out on my terms and while I can still make a decision.



 

[herm]

My aunt's husband was diagnosed with Parkinson's. He was the definition of fit and active, even in his late 70's when he was diagnosed.

He refused to let it claim him, and (with my aunt's blessing) ended his life as soon as the disease started to interfere with how he wanted to live.

I have always thought that he was very brave for making that choice, rather than holding on too long. 

[Howie]

I don't know if this will help, but here goes:  My friend's grandmother had a stroke she was 90 something, but before that was in really good health and was always helping fellow seniors at the facility she lived in.  He visited her he found out all she was eating was one grapefruit a day because she really liked grapefruit, but her intent was to die from malnutrition.  He learned to accept her decision. 

My father had a serious stroke, no brain activity.  My mother hid his DNR, so he spent five days on life support.  I understood and didn't blame her, but it certainly was a bad decision.

[Randimus Maximus]

A while after my dad's passing, my mom told me that both of them have/had DNRs. 

I didn't know that they did.

My mom was upset that it wasn't honored for my dad - he had gone into cardiac arrest and several attempts at revival occurred.

We're all compassionate when someone euthanizes a beloved pet. 

I know it isn't remotely the same.

Just adding to the convo.

I hope.

Life is weird.

[LMT]

I really enjoyed the movie Brand New Testament.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Brand_New_Testament

[Stella]

I've been periodically looking into the same choice as your aunt for if/when the day comes that I do want that option and I'm so grateful legislation here is moving/has moved in that direction (even with ridiculous restrictions).

My heart hurts for your anticipatory grief, Nate.   

[ungeheuer]

My heart hurts for your anticipatory grief, Nate.   

+1

However, the stories shared here certainly are that of the empowered.  I mean, what a fabulous luxury to have that choice.  I'll certainly make the same choice if I'm presented with the option.... 

[DarkMonster620]

Really have no idea what to say ... I wished I had that power and choice.

You know we are all here so, you are a text away for help

[ducpainter]

Well...today is the day.

I spoke to her yesterday afternoon. She's very comfortable with the pharmacy that will be involved, and she's ready.

We have a lot of history. We were more like brother and sister. Her siblings are all girls, and mine all boys.

We shared some great times, and one horrific one. I'm gonna miss her

[LMT]

Hug to you Nate from afar. 

[Popeye the Sailor]

Hugs Nate.

[Howie]

Oh man.  Our thoughts are for you Nate.

[1.21GW]

Tough day.  My thoughts are with you.

[DarkMonster620]

From the distance, a hug Nate