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Title: Lowdown.
Post by: Speedbag on December 01, 2008, 05:46:08 PM
I can think of no eloquent, premeditated means to say what I have to say, so here goes.

My Dad died last night. He was 62 years old.

He had had some heart issues in the past, two near heart attacks and angioplastys to fix them plus a couple of stents. He was doing great. Last night (November 30) shortly after dark he and my Mom were headed home from visiting my brother and doing some shopping. They were on the home stretch to get home, only five miles to go. They were having a conversation, then my Dad stopped talking suddenly, and began veering for the ditch. My Mom tried in vain to steer the car away from the ditch but failed. The car crossed the oncoming lane, became airborne over the deep ditch and struck a large tree on the driver side, flipping 180 degrees and coming to rest on the passenger side. My Dad was gone when the EMTs arrived, but my Mom escaped with only a broken wrist and is missing a fingertip. Even their dog survived somehow. I had the unenviable task of cleaning out the remains of the car, and I cannot fathom how anyone walked away especially after viewing the scene.

Hug your kids. And your family, even the assholes. Because you might never know when they will be gone.

I am so sad upon writing this that I can hardly read the screen for the tears. It's going to be a long week for me, as my folks lived three hours away and it's time to put the pieces back together the best they will be. Bear with me if I don't post.

Thanks peeps.
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Post by: Buckethead on December 01, 2008, 05:51:57 PM
My sincerest condolences.

I cannot imagine how hard that must be.

We will miss you in your absence and we will welcome you with open arms upon your return.

Best wishes.
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Post by: Speeddog on December 01, 2008, 05:53:01 PM
Sending good thoughts your way.

Be strong, it will get better with time.
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Post by: Randimus Maximus on December 01, 2008, 05:55:37 PM
Sorry to hear the news.

Prayers to you and your family through this tough time.
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Post by: TiNi on December 01, 2008, 05:58:49 PM
:'(  i am so sorry for your very tragic loss... i can't imagine...  :'(
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Post by: tommys67 on December 01, 2008, 06:02:49 PM
My deepest sympathies and condolences, sir.

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Post by: Statler on December 01, 2008, 06:07:55 PM
very sorry.

Good thoughts your way.
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Post by: Porsche Monkey on December 01, 2008, 06:19:42 PM
Very very sorry for your loss. You always have friends here that will give you a shoulder. I wish you and your family the best.
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Post by: Betty Rage on December 01, 2008, 06:21:16 PM
hugs and good thoughts to you and your family. We're here for you.
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Post by: JohnnyDucati on December 01, 2008, 06:26:26 PM
Very sorry to read about your dad.  Sincere condolences on your loss.

Take care & best wishes.






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Post by: teddy037.2 on December 01, 2008, 06:36:19 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that, man.  :'( :'(
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Post by: mitt on December 01, 2008, 06:44:07 PM
62 is too young.  Sorry to hear.

mitt
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Post by: supakpow2 on December 01, 2008, 06:46:26 PM
Thank you for sharing such a difficult occurance in your life with us. It is amazing that at such a time you have anything to give and can turn to people you care about and know care about you, even if we know you only because of the shared thoughts on this forum about our common love of motercycles. That is a testament to the kind of person you must be. I wish that I knew you personally.
I am holding off the tears as I write this, knowing the pain your are in right now.
Please convey to your mother and all of your family that we on DMF, your extended family, are thinking about them and that we wish them the best in enduring in this difficult time.

Sincerely, K. Powers
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Post by: DesmoDiva on December 01, 2008, 06:51:05 PM
So sorry for your loss.

Sending you and your family hugs and good thoughts. 
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Post by: Timmy Tucker on December 01, 2008, 06:55:48 PM
Very sorry to hear about this. You have my deepest sympathy.

I'll keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by: red baron on December 01, 2008, 06:56:34 PM
Sorry for your loss, prayers sent to you and yours.
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Post by: IZ on December 01, 2008, 06:58:24 PM
Quote from: mitt on December 01, 2008, 06:44:07 PM
62 is too young. 

It sure is.  :-[

So sorry to hear this sad news S.

:-[
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Post by: COWBOY on December 01, 2008, 06:58:40 PM
Condolences to you and yours.

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Post by: Grampa on December 01, 2008, 07:02:20 PM
big cyber hugs sent  :'(
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Post by: He Man on December 01, 2008, 07:06:19 PM
sorry to hear that man. stay strong. :'(
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Post by: Ducatista on December 01, 2008, 07:06:38 PM
I am so sorry.  Please take care of yourself.
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Post by: Popeye the Sailor on December 01, 2008, 07:16:06 PM
I'm so sorry. If there's anything we can do....
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Post by: Bick on December 01, 2008, 07:47:01 PM
My condolances.
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Post by: LMT on December 01, 2008, 07:55:11 PM
Condolances, good thoughts, and hugs.
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Post by: swampduc on December 01, 2008, 08:04:36 PM
So sorry, S. Prayers for you and your family.
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Post by: herm on December 01, 2008, 08:04:41 PM
an acquaintance once told me that you cant say "i know how you feel" about anothers personal loss. you can only be aware of their pain.

i know this is small consolation, but thank who/whatever you believe in that your mom is ok.

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Post by: Howie on December 01, 2008, 09:46:14 PM
Sorry for your loss, please accept my condolences.
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Post by: Stella on December 01, 2008, 10:05:31 PM
Words fail other than a big hug to you and your mom and the rest of your family.
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Post by: r_ciao on December 01, 2008, 11:27:02 PM
Speedbag,

Sorry for your loss.  May your dad RIP.  I'll say a prayer for you and your family tonight.  I lost my father when he was 59 so I kinda know how you feel.  Take comfort in family and friends and remember the good times.

Sending virtual hugs your way.  Take care.
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Post by: Big Troubled Bear on December 01, 2008, 11:46:42 PM
I am so truly sorry to hear about your loss Speedbag, I do not even know what to say as I have lost my father in law and mother in the space of 2 weeks less than a month ago.

Nothing I can think to say will make you feel better, but you and your family are in my prayers and I hope that you and your family will pull through this.

Big Hugs
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Post by: ducpainter on December 02, 2008, 04:52:06 AM
I'm sorry Dave. :'(

My condolences.
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Post by: Speedbag on December 02, 2008, 05:12:19 AM
Big thanks everyone. I've experienced the deaths of family and friends before, but this has been incredibly devastating for me. 

I'll be headed back up there soon to get back to the hospital. Mom is slated to be released later this afternoon and then we start to finish sorting through the disaster.

The thing that sickens me the most is that they were such great people together. They were high school sweethearts. They raised me and my brother right. They worked their asses off to retire early three years ago to a spot on a lake in northern MN. And now this. Mom knows already that she will have to move back closer to us as she will be unable to maintain everything alone and it will be nearly as heartbreaking to sell off everything they worked so hard for.

Again, hug your loved ones today for me.
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Post by: ZLTFUL on December 02, 2008, 09:47:18 AM
I am so sorry Dave.
If there s anything I can do, let me know. :'(
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Post by: somegirl on December 02, 2008, 10:57:56 AM
So sorry to hear of your loss.  :'(

((hugs)) to you and your family.
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Post by: metallimonster on December 02, 2008, 11:14:30 AM
Really sorry to hear about your loss.

I lost my Grandmother ( on my birthday) in September and the My grandpa is in the hospital now and won't be much longer. 
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Post by: Scottish on December 02, 2008, 01:42:23 PM
 :'( I am so sorry, I can't even imagine the grief you are feeling right now.  :'(
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Post by: NAKID on December 02, 2008, 01:52:29 PM
Oh my God man! I am so sorry. I can sympathize with you, but this can't be easy. Spend time with your family and remember the good times....
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Post by: pennyrobber on December 02, 2008, 02:35:35 PM
Thoughts to you and your family.
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Post by: Got Duc on December 02, 2008, 03:59:53 PM
Damn

Prayers to you and your family.
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Post by: desmopr on December 02, 2008, 05:04:18 PM
My condolences.  May he RIP.
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Post by: Xiphias on December 02, 2008, 05:15:20 PM
I wish the best for you, your mother and the rest of your family. RIP.
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Post by: bluemoco on December 03, 2008, 09:07:01 AM
My most sincere condolences, Dave.    :'(
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Post by: Ash on December 03, 2008, 09:32:41 AM
my deepest, most sincere condolences in this sudden trajedy   :(
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Post by: PizzaMonster on December 03, 2008, 09:18:56 PM
My deepest sympathy.  The circumstances are truly tragic.

More reason for us to remember to hug those dear to us. 
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Post by: Triple J on December 05, 2008, 01:36:16 PM
So sorry to hear about this. What a tragedy.  :'(  Best wishes to you and your family.
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Post by: triangleforge on December 05, 2008, 04:19:18 PM
I'm so sorry to hear. Be sure to take care of yourself, and you & yours take care of each other.

And I'm going to take your advice to hug those around me, especially my sister who's (hopefully) getting out of the hospital today. Like you said, we never know how much time we have with them.
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Post by: That Nice Guy Beck! on December 05, 2008, 04:31:51 PM
I'm really sorry for your loss....