I need some guy type advice.
Here's the situation: After years of not owning a car, riding a variety of motorcycles (not all at once), my BF went and bought a car. A new car. It's a sports car, convertible, leather seats, all the fancy accessories you could possibly desire. I would love to drive this car. My car is a fun little Fit, but not that much fun. It's not sports car fun.
We both have an appreciation of all things with motors and wheels, and he has in fact offered to let me drive the new car. (Yes, he's the best BF ever. [cheeky])
But, he did it with enough hesitation that I declined, figuring that it'd be comparable to driving with my mom when I was a teenager. Besides, it's brand new! I could tell he didn't really want to let any one else drive it. Not yet.
My question for the guys is, how long do I need to wait before I can take him up on his offer to let me drive it? How will I know that it's really OK for me to drive his new baby?
if you love him
don't ever drive the car
don't bring it up again
just smile and say "no thanks baby" when he offers again.
my wife is wonderful
i'd rather have my nuts in a vise before letting her drive my car.
my brother in law is the same about his car, esp after his wife smashed the front and rear fenders (it's a Lotus)
pretty much every guy i know is that way.
just don't do it.
He offered. Say thank you and drive it like you stole it.
He needs to learn the life lesson that he shouldn't say things he doesn't mean. You are just helping him improve himself.
Quote from: Statler on June 20, 2009, 11:27:41 AM
He offered. Say thank you and drive it like you stole it.
He needs to learn the life lesson that he shouldn't say things he doesn't mean. You are just helping him improve himself.
ROFL
Officially, the GTI is my car, the Passat is the wife's. She usually doesn't drive my car because she wears a brace on her left foot that she would have to remove since it has a manual transmission, but she can drive it anytime she wants. They are only cars.
Quote from: Statler on June 20, 2009, 11:27:41 AM
He offered. Say thank you and drive it like you stole it.
Is there any other way (to drive it)? [evil]
Quote from: duqette on June 20, 2009, 12:07:52 PM
Is there any other way (to drive it)? [evil]
Driving it
cause you stole it! Now go grab the keys and make sure he paid his insurance premium.
He just needs to get over a worry of dings. Go put a few in it first.
Or just take him out, let him get drunk, then drive it home.
+11tybillion to Statlers advice-go flog it up 84.
do it [evil]
depends- what car are we talkin' about?
Quote from: Fat Freddy's Cat on June 20, 2009, 11:13:30 AM
if you love him
don't ever drive the car
don't bring it up again
just smile and say "no thanks baby" when he offers again.
my wife is wonderful
i'd rather have my nuts in a vise before letting her drive my car.
my brother in law is the same about his car, esp after his wife smashed the front and rear fenders (it's a Lotus)
pretty much every guy i know is that way.
just don't do it.
+1. No one drives my cars, or rides my motorcycles. But then again, I don't offer either.
This thread needs a poll.
I love my wife. She's smart, beautiful, sexy, and my best friend.
She will NEVER drive my sports car.
She can drive the truck, the van, or her car.
Ride a bicycle, or take the bus.
Period.
once again, i find myself thinkign the same way as Mr I.
Quote from: MrIncredible on June 20, 2009, 12:27:37 PM
He just needs to get over a worry of dings. Go put a few in it first.
Or just take him out, let him get drunk, then drive it home.
;D ;D ;D
also, thanks to my g/fs driving record, it would be a tough call to offer her keys to any vehicle i own or may own. esp if it's a sportier car.
Quote from: KnightofNi on June 20, 2009, 02:03:40 PM
also, thanks to my g/fs driving record, it would be a tough call to offer her keys to any vehicle i own or may own. esp if it's a sportier car.
My wife ceases to be a good driver as soon as she puts her car into "reverse"... she ain't touching my WRX... it isn't fancy, but I love that damned car!
1) Start engine
2) Position shifter in 1st gear position
3) Increase engine RPM to 4k-5k
4) Dump Clutch resulting in smoky burnout
5) Repeat at each intersection you are forced to stop at
[evil]
Quote from: MrIncredible on June 20, 2009, 12:27:37 PM
Or just take him out, let him get drunk, then drive it home.
+11tybillion to Statlers advice-go flog it up 84.
MrI sleeps like a baby while I flog the car on 84. 8)
When my husband first got his BMW 540i sport model (which is for sale, BTW!), he didn't offer to let me drive it and I didn't ask. He LOVED that car. This went on for six months, until he needed to take my car, an SUV, camping for the weekend. ;D He had no choice but to turn over the keys to me, with the admonishment to be very careful. Yeah, okay, whatever.
He called me a few hours after he left on my cell phone to check on me, right about the time I hit 110 mph on the freeway.
Me: "Hello?"
Caleb: "What's up?"
Me: "Your car ROCKS!"
Caleb: "What are you DOING???"
Me: "About a hundred and ten at the moment."
Caleb: "#&!$*&#($!* STOP!"
Me (giggling): "Can't. Sorry honey. How are ya?"
Needless to say, he was pleased I didn't get so much as a ding in his car while he was gone, but not so pleased about my speed demon side, which he knew full well existed and probably expected nothing less. [evil] It's a control thing, though. If you are going to be with your BF long term, now is the time to break him of it. ;D Trust me, it makes life easier in the long run. You are setting standards right now, whether you know it or not. Make sure they are standards you can live with. [thumbsup]
Quote from: zzilla on June 20, 2009, 02:24:55 PM
1) Start engine
2) Position shifter in 1st gear position
3) Increase engine RPM to 4k-5k
4) Dump Clutch resulting in smoky burnout
5) Repeat at each intersection you are forced to stop at
[evil]
[laugh]
YES! +11ty billion!
He offered. I vote ride it.
It's just a cage. Drive it like you stole it. (or because...)
+1 to River's comment about setting standards. Easier to break what you haven't set...
And like all threads on the DMF, no pictures or description of said car....it doesn't exist.
Quote from: Duck-Stew on June 21, 2009, 06:47:26 AM
And like all threads on the DMF, no pictures or description of said car....it doesn't exist.
Agreed. Pics Pics Pics.
Really depends on what kind of car it is.
If it's something awesome, you should drive it, but if it's lame, who cares.
Drive it with him a few times - learn how he likes it to be driven and accept any and all criticism etc.
I have had several relatively highly modified sports cars - i want my wife to drive them and enjoy them (makes the mod budget conversations easier [evil]) - but not to destroy them.
My current car runs a lot of boost and i had to explain to my wife that you WILL burn the clutch out if you slip it and nail it in traffic. I also am neurotic that you don't take the car into boost until the oil temps are up - which i *think* she also respects.
I had an M3 before that which had some quirks.
I have some people i will let drive my cars and some i won't - they just need to acknowledge that they will appreciate and respect my machine and my quirks.
then - when you take it out on your own, throw that all out the window and drive it like you stole it.
^ We need pics of said cars ;D
So, this morning I say to my BF, "I have a confession to make," and I told him about this thread. We got a good laugh out of it, and then he said (more or less), "You're probably a better driver than me anyway, next time we go somewhere in the car together, you drive it."
I think I'll take him out to Pescadero and buy him a drink ... ;D ('cause he'll need it by the time we get there [evil] )
For the love of.....
What kind of car is it?
+1
The suspense...
It kills me.
should I use my magical powers to turn the thread into a poll?
I'm leaning towards civic.
;)
edit: poster has 10 year old...got the age group wrong.
I'm leaning BMW.
tell us tell us tell us tell us
Quote from: Statler on June 22, 2009, 11:52:22 AM
edit: poster has 10 year old...got the age group wrong.
Hey, you're good! He's 11 now...
Oh for crying out loud, woman! [bang]
Please fill out and post the following:
Make:
Model:
Year:
Mods (blower, etc.):
Thank you so much! [bow_down]
We're not going to believe you unless you stop by on your way to Pescadero, you know. ;)
Quote from: River on June 22, 2009, 01:25:07 PM
Oh for crying out loud, woman! [bang]
Please fill out and post the following:
Make:
Model:
Year:
Mods (blower, etc.):
Thank you so much! [bow_down]
It doesn't matter what make and model it is. What matters is that it's new, shiny, a convertible, and a helluva lot of fun to drive. Or so I've observed, from the passenger seat.
I know how it is when you get a new toy, you don't want anyone to
touch it, much less operate it! I'm just wondering how long it will take for the new to wear off, so I can take it out for a good flogging. Er, test drive. ;D
What's a blower, BTW?
Awww...c'mon. We're curious as to what it is! [bang]
Quote from: duqette on June 22, 2009, 03:29:42 PM
It doesn't matter what make and model it is. What matters is that it's new, shiny, a convertible, and a helluva lot of fun to drive. Or so I've observed, from the passenger seat.
I know how it is when you get a new toy, you don't want anyone to touch it, much less operate it! I'm just wondering how long it will take for the new to wear off, so I can take it out for a good flogging. Er, test drive. ;D
What's a blower, BTW?
You didn't answer my question, so I'm not answering yours. :P (Yes, I know, that's really mature, but that's the way it is. Look it up on wikipedia or ask your friends who race, OR answer my question. [evil]) ;D
you know she's right. No matter what it is, unless it's a Gumpert or Zonda, people are just waiting to pounce on the BF about it.
<we're all still curious though...and you started the thread :-*>
When I first read this thread I thought, "Jeez, why wouldn't he just let her drive it?"
Now, after three pages and many opportunities of NOT telling us all what the vehicle is, I'm fairly convinced I wouldn't let you drive my car either.
I found a picture of the car. (and the bf)
(http://memimage.cardomain.com/ride_images/3/2526/1081/31313040258_large.jpg)
Show him this thread and get the best answer of all.
And he'll think it's really sweet that you cared. ;)
Figured out the car:
(https://farm4.static.flickr.com/3325/3652438000_01d0d1f58e_o.jpg)
It's totally a Metro.
(http://www.gmphotostore.com/images/53218408_pr.jpg)
In all seriousness, Statler has it right.
People need to learn not to say "yes" when they mean "no." It's not your job to try to mind-read someone who may or may not be saying what he means.
I trust my wife with things vastly more precious and irreplaceable than my Z4 or the Monster... or even my motorcycle (rim shot!)
I vote for G37 vert. Worthless, but fun to look at. M3 or M6 vert or teh fail! [laugh]
maybe it's a miata
with a huge blower on it! [laugh]
Quote from: KnightofNi on June 23, 2009, 05:37:08 AM
maybe it's a miata
with a huge blower on it! [laugh]
http://www.monstermiata.com/ (http://www.monstermiata.com/)
Quote from: Statler on June 22, 2009, 03:43:08 PM
you know she's right. No matter what it is, unless it's a Gumpert or Zonda, people are just waiting to pounce on the BF about it.
Exactly. 8)
Quote from: Statler on June 22, 2009, 03:43:08 PM
<we're all still curious though...and you started the thread :-*>
A little suspense never killed anybody....
You all are hilarious, though. That picture of the guy with the steer
in the car... [laugh] [laugh] [clap] Both the BF and I were ROTFL. We're not sure who should be more insulted, though... Me, because the implication is that I'm dating either the guy or the animal, or my BF, because, well, what exactly is that animal? Not to mention the car.... :-X
You have a problem with a mid '90s Pontiac Grand Am?
is this you guys out cruising the town in that sweet new ride? (Keeping with the theme)
(http://neatorama.cachefly.net/images/2006-08/peel-trident-worst-car-ever-made.jpg)
Quote from: NAKID on June 23, 2009, 05:44:38 AM
http://www.monstermiata.com/ (http://www.monstermiata.com/)
now that is extremely overkill and i love it!
Quote from: duqette on June 23, 2009, 06:47:58 AM
Exactly. 8)
A little suspense never killed anybody....
You all are hilarious, though. That picture of the guy with the steer in the car... [laugh] [laugh] [clap] Both the BF and I were ROTFL. We're not sure who should be more insulted, though... Me, because the implication is that I'm dating either the guy or the animal, or my BF, because, well, what exactly is that animal? Not to mention the car.... :-X
is it the new beetle turbo?
I've been out of the loop for a few days (work blocked the site for a while...i fixed it [evil]), so i'm just catching up with this thread.
I didn't even realize this was an issue?
I let my g/f (now wife) drive my new audi when I brought it home. I didn't even think twice. She does have less tickets than I do though :P
i only let some peopel i know drive my car or ride my motorcycle, basically people who i trust with either.
the caveats are the same for both, you break it you fix it, no questions asked and you dont' argue and i dont' care whos fault it is you are putting it back in that condition you got it in. simple rule.
also if i had a sports car and the significant other was driving it the way it was supposed to be driven i could careless. the caveat is the same, when she gets a ticket in it, or has a problem yes her insruance is being sued for it, and yes i'm getting it so that my record is clean, simple again.
these are simple rules, and also i won't offer to people i really dont' trust unless i'm in a really bad bind.
I've got a shiny red Mustang GT (manual trans, of course) that could use a good flogging.
Just sayin'.
drive it, whats the worst that could happen..
(http://www.instablogsimages.com/images/2008/07/09/miata-in-a-pool_WO7jl_5965.jpg)
:o ;D [laugh]
He offered?
My vote is to drive it. [thumbsup]
you're not going to tell us what kind of car it is, are you...
funny thread [laugh]
Quote from: Statler on June 20, 2009, 11:27:41 AM
He offered. Say thank you and drive it like you stole it.
He needs to learn the life lesson that he shouldn't say things he doesn't mean. You are just helping him improve himself.
agreed,, he should need new tires when you are done with it
Quote from: DuCaTiNi on June 24, 2009, 02:12:48 AM
you're not going to tell us what kind of car it is, are you...
That would ruin the fun! [cheeky]
Quote from: DuCaTiNi on June 24, 2009, 02:12:48 AM
funny thread [laugh]
I've certainly been laughing MAO [laugh]
Quote from: RavnMonster on June 24, 2009, 04:33:43 AM
agreed, he should need new tires when you are done with it
[laugh] [laugh] You guys are making him more nervous than he already is
It's insured right?
Just make sure you total it if there's an issue...
no problem.
Quote from: DuCaTiNi on June 24, 2009, 02:12:48 AM
you're not going to tell us what kind of car it is, are you...
funny thread [laugh]
IMO as long as its not a Pontiac solstice or a Miata its ok. Those are not Manly sports cars unless its a track ready miata with some serious work done, or the 700hp Solstice drift car.