Just found out today that my mother-in-law's lung cancer has spread to her liver. She's been on chemo and radiation for quite some time and had a partial lobectomy a few years ago. The cancer has been back for a while now but tests she took this week show that the mass in her lungs has increased in size and has spread to her liver and possibly to the lymph nodes surrounding her lungs and heart.
The new mass is in the middle of her liver and the doctors said that surgery to remove it would be too risky. They mentioned starting her on experimental medicines and something along the lines of "making her comfortable." Needless to say it was a shitty day.
I'm so sorry to hear that, man.
:'(
I also hate cancer more than anything else
that really is shitty news. Try to stay positive.
Don
Sorry to hear it man. I lost my old man the same way. PM if you need to chat.
Cancer took my Mother in '02....which took my Father in '05.
I'm in agreement with you BTW.
I'm very sorry to hear that. :( I lost two friends to metastatic lung cancer.
Sending lots of ((hugs)) your way.
:-\
Sad news
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Contrary to a particular thread in NMC, the majority of us DO care about you, your mother-in-law and family and everything that comes with the situation. Vent all you need to out here. More hugs your way.
So sorry to hear about your mother in law adam 3406,my dad is going through the same thing right now,we're doing alternative medicine for this one coz he doesn't want to go through the chemo treatment.Total change of lifestyle for him,we are actually doing herbal therapy,diet totally changed from red meats and what have you to veggies,juices etc...We've seen a lot of positive results from patients like my dad so worth giving a shot.So far he's gaining a bit of his lost energy back little by little.Good luck to us.
I am very sorry to hear that... both my mother and mother-in-law had tumor removed from their chest/breast area. Luckily they weren't cancerous... It was devastating to hear anything with a hint of cancer. Can't imagine what your family is going thru right now.
keep strong Adam....if for no other reason, than to be a pillar of strength for her! I know this for when my Mom went through breast cancer and is now a survivor for 10 years...her spirit will come to depend on yours to a degree as to how hard she will fight....so don't give up...
Sorry to hear, Adam.
:(
Hang in there.
Sorry for your news. :(
Keep strong.
[hugs]
Oh man. Sorry to hear this terrible news.
Sorry to hear this. :-\
I'm so sorry. :'( I don't know what else to say except to reach out to others when you need it. We're all here for you.
I can say I know how you're feeling - metastasized melanoma got my Dad last month, and my older sister is already had an occurrence, so the time line isn't so hot.
But, enjoy the time you have with your mom. I know it's hard as hell... but not much you can do to change it, so try to make the best of it.
With my dad, the tumors moved into his brain, so he couldn't even really talk the last month or so. Not being able to talk to your parent... well you can imagine. So, talk with her - enjoy all the days left. None of us really know how many we've got.
As said, don't hesitate to lean on your friends at bit
Quote from: Stella on March 16, 2010, 08:56:23 PM
Contrary to a particular thread in NMC, the majority of us DO care about you, your mother-in-law and family and everything that comes with the situation. Vent all you need to out here. More hugs your way.
^ +11ty billion
Dude, I'm sorry to hear this. Like others have said keep strong for her and just hang in there. I lost both my grandparents (whom I was very close to) in 3 months last year to cancer. It sucks but now they are not in constant pain.
I wish you all the best at being the strongest son-in-law & husband you can be for your family to lean on, and that you have the strength to know when you need to lean on them. And on us.
Very sorry to hear about your mother in law. Yuu, sorry to hear about your dad. Lost my dad a little over a year ago to pancreatic cancer. Once it gets to the liver the doctor said it spreads like wildfire. It took my dad six horrible months to go, words couldn't decribe the spectrum of emotions a person goes through. Eventually you stop feeling anything - you can't feel such powerful emotions for so long without shutting down. Peace will prevail, and you'll learn alot.
I really feel for you. Pm me if you ever want to talk.
Quote from: triangleforge on March 17, 2010, 07:07:00 AM
I wish you all the best at being the strongest son-in-law & husband you can be for your family to lean on, and that you have the strength to know when you need to lean on them. And on us.
I couldn't say it better than this. Good luck, Adam.
Sorry to hear. I am going through the same situation with by best friend from college. Amazing how many people share the same story with loved ones.
I will have to read the book that was posted above.
mitt
Thanks for all of the sympathy and the well wishes. I had my wife read the thread as well and she was touched by the emotional response from the board. She normally thinks that I'm just wasting my time farting around and talking about motorcycles. It's amazing how far reaching this is. So many people are affected by cancer, either personally or through a loved one. Once more, thanks for everything. Adam.