Please, Thank you, and Yes Ma'am.....

[herm]

i also say "you're welcome" when someone fails to thank me for holding the door for them........

what i hate is when you hold a door for someone, and they see you doing it, and use the other door instead.

and how about people that dont understand the concept of personal space? i have a rule about who i like to share the area within 1 foot of my person.

[LMT]

My pet peeve is healthy young people sitting in the front seats of a bus.  These are for the elderly and those with mobility issues.  It never ceases to amaze me how many young kids do not stand up for their elders.  The bus drivers pull off even if people are still looking for a seat.

I end up holding doors for groups of people often.  Guys walk right out and do not offer to hold the door.  I grew up in the South.  When I go back, the yes /no Ma'am and yes/no sir flies right out of my mouth.  Not so much here in Seattle except with the elderly.

[il d00d]

Manners are social religion  - I practice it to get the satisfaction of being a practitioner.  While it does suck when it is not reciprocated, that's not really the point.  Those who don't practice it either don't know or play by the same rules, or are being assholes.  I am a glass is half full kinda guy, so I would say the assholes represent a minority, and there are even mitigating circumstances to acts of assholery.

I stayed in Hungary for about six months, and I really enjoyed their commitment to decorum.  Ev-er-y single morning when you reported to work, you said hi, and shook hands with everyone in your office.  It took forever.  Same thing with leaving for the day.  When you toasted, you could not just "declare drink up, pregnant doges."  You had to look everyone in the eye and clink everyone's glass - it was quasi-ritualistic.  I never got used to cheek-kissing my male friends.  Neither did they.  Just kidding.

[Popeye the Sailor]

i'll agree with JB... most women like a true gentleman  

Good thing it's only most of 'em.  

[TiNi]

Good thing it's only most of 'em.  

we'll wait for paula to chime in on this one 

i'm pretty sure she'll say you're one of them!

[Popeye the Sailor]

we'll wait for paula to chime in on this one 

i'm pretty sure she'll say you're one of them!

I'm not. I put out on the first date.

[DCXCV]

my woman tends to do that alot.  she is always playing phone tag with her parents and best friend (that she sees maybe 2 times a year) and for some odd reason, that is the ONLY time they ever call back.  i tell her to hurry up but i have sat down at a restaurant, ordered food for me and her and shes still on the phone when the food shows up.  if my phone rings i will answer it and be off in less than a minute.

I love seeing couples out at dinner either both on the phone or both constantly texting - makes me think... "awwe, that's love"  

Most people just have no manners at all.  My mom always made me take off my hat in a restaurant.  Now, though I rarely wear a hat, I still take it off if I'm out to eat.  People look at me like I'm green.  "Why'd you do that?"  "Um, it's polite."

The one thing I am not down with is ordering for the woman.  Actually, I don't know if I've ever been out with a girl who knew what she wanted before the waiter got to the table so it isn't even feasible.

[the_Journeyman]

Also, I guess with being a teacher, kids do what they see, by doing little things like saying thank you and modeling respectful behavior it can't hurt.  I also make sure the tell them thank you when they do something nice ~

JM

[IZ]

I have given up standing when a woman gets up from the dinner table.  It causes more confusion and delay and explanations.    Unfortunately it is now reserved for when G and I are dining alone in nice restaurants.


My friends make fun of me for my door rules.   (I think if you are in front of a group, you hold the door for that group and the first guy who is not with your group takes your spot and so on and so on...  If someone is holding the door for you, you never allow your party to be split and thus split his...so you exchange and hold the door before the first of your party goes through...etc.etc. and so on and so forth)

Agreed!!  

No elbows on the dinner table, hold the doors, Yes/no Sir, etc.

I love the fact that most of the kids/young adults have good manners around these parts.  It catches me off guard though because I'm so used to AZ.  

Thinking back to the days that followed 9/11..the people in AZ had manners and were courteous..even if it was only for a few days.  

[jdubbs32584]

The one thing I am not down with is ordering for the woman.  Actually, I don't know if I've ever been out with a girl who knew what she wanted before the waiter got to the table so it isn't even feasible.

That one's a little bit harder. I'm a fan of it at the nice restaurants but I haven't known many women to like it. Mother will ask what I want after the waiter leaves with our drink order. If I know, he'll order for me. If not, he'll leave it to me.

[r_ciao]

Is it too much to ask that when shaking hands, you also make eye contact with that person?

[the_Journeyman]

Is it too much to ask that when shaking hands, you also make eye contact with that person?

The ladies appreciate it when we're looking at their eyes and not down a bit on introduction 

JM

[Popeye the Sailor]

The ladies appreciate it when we're looking at their eyes and not down a bit on introduction 

JM

How does it go?


Focus on your goals, just don't get caught focusing?

[TiNi]

The ladies appreciate it when we're looking at their eyes and not down a bit on introduction 

JM

there could be a whole new thread on this one! 

[Triple J]

 i tell her to hurry up but i have sat down at a restaurant, ordered food for me and her and shes still on the phone when the food shows up.  

I don't know how you put up with that. My wife did that once when we were dating...I felt like a total ass sitting there as she zoned out on her cell phone. I let her know how I feel about it and she apologized and hasn't done it since.  

I always hold doors open, and hate it when I don't get a 'thank you'. I'm not too good at standing when someone arrives or leaves...I do though if I'm shaking their hand or something. I almost never say Sir/Ma'am...just never have...unless I'm trying to get someone's attention that I don't know. If I know them I just say their name. The west coast seems a lot more informal to me...I don't see it as rude.

I always make eye contact during a handshake. I don't see this as a politeness thing though...more of a self-confidence issue.