buying the wrong ring?

[mitt]

My wife just wears the solitaire that I gave her for the engagement. No one has ever given her crap about it. I keep offering to get her a wedding band, but she doesnt want one.

+1

mitt

[Autostrada Pilot]

My wife only wears her engagement ring (a band wouldn't go very well with it).  No one has really said anything, and she loves it (which she should, since she picked it out).

[Bick]

From experience, if there is an issue with the ring, it probably stems from something much bigger...

Run Away! Run Away!
That being said, where do I send my $2.00?

[cyrus buelton]

+1 on Motogpfan

He does quality work and his pricing is very fair

[KnightofNi]

If you go out of your way to buy a nice ring, (even if its not to her taste) and there is crap about it,


Is that someone you really want to marry?

yeah, she didn't like it when i brought that up.  


one of the bonuses of sitting in a pod with all women is that all the rest of the women come over and cackle away and ooo and ahh over whatever happened with the others. i have heard the same basic conversation 4 times. it seems that she will still like it because it's from him and she loves him, blah blah lbah...she just might have preferred something else.

on a diff angle to this, one of them said exactly what she wanted, got it, but wanted something that he would have picked out for her.
so he's still in trouble.  

[That Nice Guy Beck!]

Whomever came up with the 3 month salary thing must be shot.

3 month salary ?
yea OK.

[rgramjet]

I bought my wife a 3 ct sapphire with a diamond trillion on either side.  Looks amazing, she gets compliments on it all the time and I spent less than a third than the same ring done in all diamonds.

Just tell her with all the corruption involved in the diamond industry, you cannot, in good conscience, contribute to such a thing. If she doesn't agree ask her what she'll want next, an ivory bracelet?  If you can manage that with a straight face, you've won!   

[rgramjet]

PS, tell her you "designed it for her".  Love that...

[duccarlos]

Maybe you should wait for a lady's perspective, and no Cyrus does not count as a lady.

[Sinister]

one of the bonuses of sitting in a pod with all women is that all the rest of the women come over and cackle away...

That's a bonus?  I think I would suck-start my pistol.

[Sinister]

and no Cyrus does not count as a lady.

Unless you're in Key West, and you've had at least four martinis, right Carlos?  Bwhahahaahahahaha

[TiAvenger]

Warning! Joke in bad taste.



Just tell her that you were willing to pay for the slaughter of innocent Africans to get that rock shes complaining about,

and if she keeps it up, well... she already knows what your willing to do.


That may shut her up.  

[il d00d]

Weddings bring out the irrational in women.  My wife who is generally even keel had a few uncharacteristically crazy person moments in the planning stages.  They can't help it - they've been led to believe that this day is the romantic apogee of their lives.  I am not saying that they all will turn into hysterical pregnant doges bridezillas, or that is in any way acceptable behavior.  I am saying that women may have a very specific ideas to tying the knot that they may not have shared with you - expect the unexpected.

That said, I think it is OK if a woman very nicely expresses the desire to take a crack at picking out the ring if she absolutely hates it.  When I bought by wife's I almost took the advice of the jewelers I spoke to and picked out a diamond and a placeholder ring to be replaced later with something she picked out.  Luckily, she liked the one I gave her.  So she says. 

I can't wait until synthetic diamonds are perfected.  make the beast with two backs De Beers.

[jdubbs32584]

Maybe you should wait for a lady's perspective, and no Cyrus does not count as a lady.

I agree with what the majority of you guys have said.

- It should be something discussed beforehand or you should have a good idea of what she likes.
- If she's focused on the size and cost of the ring, then some re-evaluation should occur.
- It should be something meaningful; its a symbol of your love, not a symbol of how much money you make.

Oh, and guys, don't forget about family heirlooms that may be passed down amongst the women. This option can save you money and work out very well. 

If you want to propose and let her design a ring afterwards, pick up an inexpensive ring to just use for presenting to her. If she's a good woman, she'll be more focused on the fact that you proposed, not the ring itself.

[Monsterlover]

Neat article on synthetic diamonds!  I read all 6 pages with interest.