buying the wrong ring?

[KnightofNi]

Something one of the women at work said got me thinking.

if you have discussed marriage, and know he is going to ask you, how exactly can he get "the wrong thing"?

are you going to say no if he buys something that you find ugly? are you going to say "yes, but get me a diff ring?"

what are the thoughts on the ring? is there a good ring, a bad ring?
(i understand you would have to take the tastes of the person you are buying it for into acct so there will be differences in style, size, metal, and stones)


btw, what was said was "I'm so afraid he's going to get me something awful."
she's generally a very down to earth, realistic person. that just really threw me off.
the other 2 women in my pod kinda agreed with her.

my respone was along the lines of "it's already going to be stressful enough, he is also buying a house for the 2 of you, why are you so caught up on the ring?"

[the_Journeyman]

I didn't worry about it.  I picked something that I thought looked nice and it was a hit.  Something truly picked with the proper mindset that it takes to enter into an engagement should work.  It helps to pay attention and be aware of things like white v. yellow gold preferences and stone shape preferences ~

JM

[TiAvenger]

If you go out of your way to buy a nice ring, (even if its not to her taste) and there is crap about it,


Is that someone you really want to marry?

[the_Journeyman]

Good point Banished ~

JM

[duccarlos]

Whomever came up with the 3 month salary thing must be shot.

[Sinister]

Good points by both Journeyman and Banished.  If you're at the proposal stage, you ought to have a good idea of her tastes in jewelry.  If not, ask.  I would hope that getting engaged will not come as a surprise to her (in the vein of "never ask a question you don't know the answer to").  Find out what her tastes are.

Don't go big, either.  Tastefully sized stones will do just fine...especially when she make the beast with two backss the pool boy and takes half your shit; you won't be pissed you bought a huge rock.    Just kidding about that last part (sort of).

[the_Journeyman]

Whomever came up with the 3 month salary thing must be shot.

He/She should be, I didn't spend near that and my fiancée loves her ring and wants to show it off to everyone!

JM

[Sinister]

Whomever came up with the 3 month salary thing must be shot.

DeBeers did, I believe.

Give motogpfan a shout; he does good work and I found his prices fair.

[duccarlos]

+1 on Motogpfan, but try to catch him when he's not cranky. 

[TiAvenger]

I'm just now finding out that I have to buy a second ring  

She doesn't really want one but everyone is giving her crap for wanting to wear a diamond solitaire as a wedding ring.  

The wraps for her ring look like crap, there is a ring she really likes for cheap (its a bunch of chips, but she really likes the style)   but it would be wasting the nice stone in her engagement ring.

Getting married is spensive    

[erkishhorde]

banished, see if motogp has something that can pair up with the original ring. 

I think the reason why they stress out about the ring is because that's something that they take with them everywhere so it's the easiest thing to show off. Also, it seems that anytime someone gets engaged women always want to see the ring so the pressure is on.

[the_Journeyman]

Funny thing is, I made my fiancée got band shopping with me because I didn't think I could pick out something to match her solitaire.  However, she picked a plain & simple white gold band because she didn't want to draw attention from the solitaire.  I would up with a Tungsten band for myself ~

JM

[Sinister]

I'm just now finding out that I have to buy a second ring  

She doesn't really want one but everyone is giving her crap for wanting to wear a diamond solitaire as a wedding ring.  

You don't have to, unless it is something that she wants (not her friends).  You will set yourself up for success if you can keep her focused on what she wants, instead of what all her friends/sisters/aunts/mom/etc. tell her she should want.

For what it's worth, my wife just wears one ring...many women do.

[jdubbs32584]

Good points by both Journeyman and Banished.  If you're at the proposal stage, you ought to have a good idea of her tastes in jewelry.  If not, ask.  I would hope that getting engaged will not come as a surprise to her (in the vein of "never ask a question you don't know the answer to").  Find out what her tastes are.

+11ty billion.

[tonyj311]

I'm just now finding out that I have to buy a second ring  

She doesn't really want one but everyone is giving her crap for wanting to wear a diamond solitaire as a wedding ring.  

The wraps for her ring look like crap, there is a ring she really likes for cheap (its a bunch of chips, but she really likes the style)   but it would be wasting the nice stone in her engagement ring.

Getting married is spensive    

My wife just wears the solitaire that I gave her for the engagement. No one has ever given her crap about it. I keep offering to get her a wedding band, but she doesnt want one.