Death in my family. Semi distant support request.

[T. Rush]

My condolences stopintime. I've lost my father last year and my brother this past September. I don't know you but please allow me to share your sorrow. I've learned that sadness and memories are not bad things. Again I am very sorry.

tod

[Speedbag]

So sorry to hear, I can relate to how you feel.  A year later and I'm still not over losing my Dad.

You have my sincerest condolences.

[angler]

Tried to write something yesterday, but it all sounded trite.  I lost my father unexpectedly 9 years ago and it is still raw sometimes.  Spent an evening with my mom and sister over the holidays going through boxes of old family pictures my mom had found.  Tough but good.  Sending strength and sympathy your way.  I hate that my father died and the turmoil that followed.  However, it was one of the best things that ever happened to me in some ways.  I found it very motivating and it helped me identify what was important in my life.  I now have a much better relationship with my surviving family than I have ever had.  Hoping you find the silver lining.

[dolci]

Sorry to hear about your loss.  My mother passed away almost 25 years ago and there are still time that I miss her so much it's a tangible feeling.  Don't rush yourself into doing anything; take your time and grieve however you need to do it.

[akmnstr]

Sorry to hear of your mom's passing.  My Dad died about 30 years ago.  It no longer makes me sad but I can still feel him.  I picture the odd way he did things.  I see bits of him in myself.  I am good at the things he was good at and I have the same weaknesses.  The pain you feel now will ease and your mom will live on through you.  You will carry on her DNA and her spirit. 

[hoyden]

My dad died unexpectedly and suddenly four years ago this coming April.
It took a while, but now I can remember him and smile.
Let yourself feel what you feel and don't be afraid to ask for help when you need it.
My deepest condolences to you. It is difficult, I know.

[geoffduc]

Deepest sympathy Lars from Babs and myself. As a couple of pensioners we've both been through what you are now experiencing so we can relate so all I can say is never forget her as you only have one mum, mine died 24years ago but she still influences discisions.
Take care of yourself, time is a great healer.

BTW Stewart (Capo's) mum died at the weekend.

Keep your chin up and we'll see you in misano in june.

[Raux]

Lars,

i'm sorry i didnt write earlier. my deepest condolences. let me know if you need anything.

Raux

[numbskull]

My deepest condolences.
My father-in-law passed away last week and it has been very difficult on my wife. He had been ill for a long time and it was his time for the suffering to end. The only advice I can give you is have friends and family nearby. My wife will have overwhelming emotional breakdowns and the only thing I can offer her is solace and support. She's trying to cope in other ways while I'm working - writing is the most effective therapy that she's been utilizing. She gets her feelings out on paper and it seems to help. Beyond that, time will heal your wounds.

[r_ciao]

RIP.
Virtual hugs being sent to you.  Sometimes it feels good to go to a private quiet spot, remember the good times, and have a good cry.  Hope you find strength and tranquility soon.

Ciao!

[stopintime]

 

Fantastic. About 600 views and 60 replies.
Another DMF sunshine performance

The response has been overwhelming - thank you!
Just the idea that people out there care is extremely heartwarming.
It's inspirational.

I've read it again and again, taking the advice to heart and it has actually helped a lot already.
My sister read it and was moved. I told my father about it and he was moved. I've been moved - profoundly.
For what it's worth, I'm sure my mom would have been too.

From the bottom of my heart, thank you

[Benjamin5150]

Very sorry to hear about the loss of your Mom.

I lost my Dad over Thanksgiving.  He was killed when a deer tried to jump over the road, struck him from the side and knocked him off his bike.  The only comfort that I can find in any of what happened is that he died instantly upon impact and didn't suffer.  He rode a Ducati as well and had a real passion for riding.  He was my best friend and he's on my mind every second of the day. 

Try your best to take care of yourself...eat something...and try to get enough sleep.  I know that sounds obvious but I still have trouble doing that myself.  I've come to realize throughout all of this, that there is only one thing we can really do and that is to live our lives in such a way that would make our parents proud.

Again, very sorry to hear about your loss. 

[DRKWNG]

Really sorry to hear of your loss as well Benjamin.  It is never easy having someone that you love taken away from you, but at least in your case, your father was doing something that he loved when it happened.  RIP.