It's over....

[bonfy]

and did u see anything in that vision? 

bacon? hookers? motos? panty hose? maybe a watering hole? 

It's getting better. I'm starting to think about running down to TD's and getting a new one. 

was there a short bus anywhere in your vision?

[Scottish]

and did u see anything in that vision? 

bacon? hookers? motos? panty hose? maybe a watering hole? 

What I saw iin that vision must be told in person... not even the NMMR is ok to speak of such things.  I really am feeling better, as far as Drea is concerned.... well she's someone else's headache now. I started packing her stuff and it's like I'm packing baggage. I feel lighter with everything that leaves.

I'm talking with her now and we trying to hash out a custody arrangement. She's proposed one, it gives her 60/40 custody, but three days a week she'll be in daycare and there are only three periods through the week where I wouldn't have her that I'm not working and she'll be in day care at those times.

[Cloner]

If she's talking rationally about custody you have to count yourself lucky.  Lots of folks end up  over that issue, along with division of community property. 

Holler if you need luck scouting at TDs.   

[nicrosato]

I haven't met Scottish, don't really know what this story is about, but I suspect a breakup. Having survived those moments in my life, I can say from experience that things get better- a lot better- as time passes. Every negative situation creates the opportunity for a more positive future,

It's true.

[ducducgooseme]

OOOOOOH TD's...never been.   I heard they are the best you can rent!  Next time I am in town,  I am taking you out!!

titties and beer....titties and beer....sing along boys 

[bonfy]

Should be 60-40 in favor of you.  Seriously.  Don't agree to anything less than 50-50, Anson.  We need to talk again.  You're stressing Grandma Gloey out.     I know you will do the best thing for Alyssa.  Guess we could take this offline, huh?  

You guys down there supporting him in this crisis is beyond words for me.  It's why we are so much more than just a local board.  Thanks to all of you up here in Colorado (and New York), too.     You are the best of friends.

[Scottish]

OOOOOOH TD's...never been.   I heard they are the best you can rent!  Next time I am in town,  I am taking you out!!

titties and beer....titties and beer....sing along boys 

Ahhhhh!!! There's the problem I thought it was rent to own. Apparrently my lease expired and I never realized I needed to turn the unit in.

Should be 60-40 in favor of you.  Seriously.  Don't agree to anything less than 50-50, Anson.  We need to talk again.  You're stressing Grandma Gloey out.      I know you will do the best thing for Alyssa.  Guess we could take this offline, huh?   

You guys down there supporting him in this crisis is beyond words for me.  It's why we are so much more than just a local board.  Thanks to all of you up here in Colorado (and New York), too.      You are the best of friends.

Yes thank you everyone, as for custody nothing is in stone yet. I'm still deciding, Geoff thinks I need to go for absolute full custody. He was pissed I was even considering this.

Here are my dilimas and why I am mulling it over. I can A) Go for full custody, risk losing but creating a real hostile situation either way. or B) except her deal which would allow me to be with Alyssa for a good chunk of my time off through the week and hopefully keep things civil between her parents.


The problem I have is which benefits Alyssa more. Civility between her parents or a complete lack of influence from her Mom. The other thing I'm looking at is that with us split apparrently Drea's income is low enough that she qualifies for state help with daycare expenses. We've been wanting to put her into daycare for the social aspect for awhile but couldn't afford it. Including the time she'd spend there I'd actually spend more time with her on a weekly basis than Drea. Drea would be with her 4 nights and saturday. I'd pick her up Saturday after work have her for two full days uninterupted then drop her off Tuesday evening as I went into work. The only extra days I could have her would be wed-fri am. Those are the ones she will be in daycare... which I approve.

Now if I fight this and go for full custody, #1. even with the ammo I have it's gonna be 50/50 at best that I win. That's just the way it is for Dads. The benefit would be she'd come home to me every night (which I want so badly). Then I'd have to apply for those same benefits (which is doable, I'll eat whatever pride I need to for her). But a no doubt hostile environment between her parents, and a lack of a woman figure in her home life.

I'm just trying to find the balance of the greater good, for Alyssa. I know what I want, but what is best for my little Darling?

[Kawboy]

I am so sorry to hear this.  I went through a divorce 5 years ago.  Fortunately I didn't have to deal with a custody battle but it was still one PITA.  I'm physically closest to you   . . .   wait that don't sound right, but you know what I mean.  If you need anything, transport help, bike wrenching, baby sitting, whatever, just yell.  I'll do what I can around my work schedule.

[bonfy]

I'm expecting Dr. Phil to weigh in on this trainwreck any time now.  

Whatever you decide, all are good points to consider.  Rosemary and I were wondering why it has to be stated, the percentage.  Why can't you keep it flexible and work it out as you go?  That's what your dad and I did.  Don't get locked into a number, especially anything less than 50%.  Glad you are feeling better.  

And keep that crazy Kawboy away from my granddaughter.   

[Kawboy]

And keep that crazy Kawboy away from my granddaughter.   

WHAT?  WHAT??  W H A T ??  Babysitting??   We'd just sit down watch motogp and have a beer together.  I'd even teach her to be  Jorge fan.     

Scottish,  I know you don't think so but things could be worse.  Consider the following:

Next time your having a bad day imagine this: your a Siamese twin your brother on your shoulder is gay, your not, he has a date coming over and you have only one ass.

[bonfy]

Great.  Things seem to be getting back to normal as the threadjacking is resumed.  You're a pretty good ole' guy, Kawboy.  Thanks for the comic relief.   

[ducducgooseme]

Next time your having a bad day imagine this: your a Siamese twin your brother on your shoulder is gay, your not, he has a date coming over and you have only one ass.

LOLOLOL.  wow.

Scottish,  gimme a call this weekend.  My brother just went through this with a very VERY similar situation.  I have some info, etc that could help but is best discussed and not typed on a public board.

In the meantime....hold tough and like Kawboy said, thank god you dont have a gay Siamese twin on your shoulder.

[Punx Clever]

Next time your having a bad day imagine this: your a Siamese twin your brother on your shoulder is gay, your not, he has a date coming over and you have only one ass.

Wow.  Just... wow.

[kingbaby]

Scottish, I'm sorry I missed wrenchin' on the car with you & Zaster today, I tried to get there.
I did get to watch rescue try to extract a person from a rolled over car for about 30min.
 Just another example of "it could be worse", I guess, not really how I look at things, but that gay twin analogy is worth thinkin' about... for 2 seconds at most 

No offence, but I'm more upset that I missed Pam's enchilada's.   

Hang in there, Bubba!

[bonfy]

LOLOLOL.  wow.

Scottish,  gimme a call this weekend.  My brother just went through this with a very VERY similar situation.  I have some info, etc that could help but is best discussed and not typed on a public board.  In the meantime....hold tough and like Kawboy said, thank god you dont have a gay Siamese twin on your shoulder.

Awwwwwwwwwwwww, c'mon DDGM!  We're just one big happy family here now, aren't we?  Nobody snoops the NMMR unless they are bored and feel like entering the Twilight Zone of the DMF.  Share!   Actually, I know he will be glad to get some advice from someone who's been through it.