Advice on convincing wife to let me buy a bike

[duc_fan]

If this was that important, it should've been hashed out before gf and no kids became wife with triplets. The man has obligations that are more important. Doing it without consent would be epically friggin' stupid.

+11tyB

Family, marriage, kids are FAR more important than a moto.  My fiancee knows this.  I think one reason she didn't want me to sell the bike is because she knows I'm willing to; she is far more important than any motorcycle.  Hell... I started to sell the SS last year so I could buy her an expensive engagement ring... you know, the whole "two-months salary" rule... she found out, told me not to, told me she didn't want to carry something that expensive around on her finger anyway.  Now I still have the 900SS AND I get this wonderful woman.

If you can let her know that the relationship is more important than the bike, it may help.

[Popeye the Sailor]

Meh-not saying the bike can't be more important than the family-it should just be mentioned before the I do's 



My wife is only second to bacon. 

[Venom51]

If this was that important, it should've been hashed out before gf and no kids became wife with triplets. The man has obligations that are more important. Doing it without consent would be epically friggin' stupid.

Most would say riding a motorcycle is epically friggin' stupid.

My point, however, is a person should never be held back from trying to enjoy life. It's obviously important enough to seek advice on this forum. How long might it fester? I can see it now... "20 years ago you didn't let me get my motorcycle dammit. So I'm getting the chromed walker and not the plain black one!!!!" 

[Last Canadian Exit]

+11tyB

Family, marriage, kids are FAR more important than a moto.  My fiancee knows this.  I think one reason she didn't want me to sell the bike is because she knows I'm willing to; she is far more important than any motorcycle.  Hell... I started to sell the SS last year so I could buy her an expensive engagement ring... you know, the whole "two-months salary" rule... she found out, told me not to, told me she didn't want to carry something that expensive around on her finger anyway.  Now I still have the 900SS AND I get this wonderful woman.

If you can let her know that the relationship is more important than the bike, it may help.

Let me set the record straight.  My wife and kids would win the arguement everytime as they are the MOST important things, period.

I have been married for 4 years now and always wanted a bike, and was always told no, but I was able to not care because I always had a sports car to take care of the itch.  I had to sell my brand new Corvette when the kids came along, and I have had a hole ever since.  Now could I get by with driving around in my wife's Chrysler Pacifica, and thinking that our Sienna has got so much more power than it?  Sure I can.  However, for a very small investment and some time spent in learning to be safe, I think I can fill that hole with an enjoyable past time without dying or breaking the bank.  It is convincing my wife of that is all, haha!

At the end of the day, it will be what it is, but I am going to keep trying for this bike for at least the next couple of months and see where that gets me.  I need something people!   

[duc_fan]

^^ Sorry, I came across the wrong way... I wasn't trying to say "don't buy a bike".  In the process of learning to ride and buying a bike, let her know how important she is, that you take her concerns seriously, and you are thinking of the future.

[Last Canadian Exit]

Thanks man.  I know where you are coming from, I just didn't want anyone getting the wrong impression.  Things are not going well, but I will keep the faith.  Being nice and making her feel bad for me not getting what I want has to work eventually!  Hahaha!

[Revax30]

I am very familiar with your situation on this.  I finally got a bike last spring but it was certainly a long road to hoe.  As some have said, I should have done it before I was married but I honestly didn't anticipate the resistance. I have been married for 5 years and started looking 2 years after that. I was just looking for a bit of fun as I had traded in my sports car for something a bit more practical.  It certainly wasn't forced on me and made sense but it did take some of the joy I had about hitting the road.  It wasn't until I started looking at bikes that I found out how much that scared my wife.  So for 2 years, it was me looking for a way to make the bike happen and my wife coming up with rebuttals.  And for all of my persuasion it was her that finally came to the reason for acceptance.  She came to me one Saturday and asked if  wanted to go look at bikes to which I declined.  Afterall, no sense in rubbing salt in the wound.  It wasn't until she asked again that I understood.  The push for her was that she saw how much it meant to me and as she said, she wouldn't want me to tell her that she couldn't do something that meant that much to her.  Her passion is travel so I win on that too. As part of the deal, I took the riders course and wear my gear all the time.  Can't even walk out of the house without my gloves, hehe.  Fair enough though. 

The only advice I have is to have that discussion with your wife.  Bottom line is to keep hope and when the day comes respect your wifes concerns.  Pulling for you here.

[moto]

[Last Canadian Exit]

Thanks moto, I really think my wife will be the same way.  I am in the same boat with the sports car thing and wanting to fill the gap.  I think once my wife sees that this is something I really want, she will be okay with it.  I tend to go through fads, and when she sees this is not a fad, she may come around.  Thanks for the hope!

[Setsukosan]

When I was in high school my parents always knew that I loved motorcycles. They always told me, not a chance in hell. I always promised to ride responsibly but to no avail. I even took the proper safety courses administered by the msf. So one day I got tired of it and went out to buy a motorcycle regardless. I came home with a 99 Yama R6, my dad flipped. However, after months of responsible riding my father began to come around, seeing that motorcycles =/= instantdeath. Three months later, he bought his own Ninja 250. He now owns a Yama FZ6R and LOVES it. We ride every weekend together.

It seems to me that a lot of people give motorcycles a bad rep without ever giving them a chance. I hope this gives you a different perspective. Good luck, hopefully we'll see you out there!

[muskrat]

I might consider arguing that there are far more "squid-like" drivers on 4 wheels than 2, mucho mas.   

[duc996]

Get one and just argue after you bought it,at least you have the bike.Her anger can't stay forver:-)

[rgramjet]

Tell her you want a new Corvette.......Fill out a quote form online so the dealers call you all the time so she thinks you are serious.  You need something!

Settle on a bike using the following points:
-its a mild mannered bike that is "slow" compared to those unrully Japanese sport bikes that the youngsters always get hurt on.  This is an Adult machine! 
-The bike is ugly but has great brakes and handles well to get you out of trouble. 
-Mostly its just a weekend boulevard cruising machine. 
-You can pick one up for $5k instead of a $50k Vette.

Maybe the proper spin will help.

[Buckethead]

Eff all that noise.

This is your wife, mang. Mother of your children. Lying/manipulating/doing it anyway are steps on the road to child support and alimony payments.

Stick with what you're doing. Logic. Patience. Reasoning. Eventually you'll either sway her to your side of the discussion and come to some acceptable compromise, or you'll end up bikeless but still married. Win/win.

[Popeye the Sailor]

Eff all that noise.

This is your wife, mang. Mother of your children. Lying/manipulating/doing it anyway are steps on the road to child support and alimony payments.

Stick with what you're doing. Logic. Patience. Reasoning. Eventually you'll either sway her to your side of the discussion and come to some acceptable compromise, or you'll end up bikeless but still married. Win/win.

Truth.

[swampduc]

Eff all that noise.

This is your wife, mang. Mother of your children. Lying/manipulating/doing it anyway are steps on the road to child support and alimony payments.

Stick with what you're doing. Logic. Patience. Reasoning. Eventually you'll either sway her to your side of the discussion and come to some acceptable compromise, or you'll end up bikeless but still married. Win/win.

+2
great advice.