What do you talk about w/ the SO?

[ducatania]

Dude, you've gotten the "we need to talk" line.

Kick the immature, selfish, materialistic pregnant dog to the curb and move on.

[eyeboy]

wow, there is an awful lot of wisdom here  and some actual wisdom.

my GF and i had some rocky 'we don't talk' periods, some of which i caused... in the end it all came down to talking about nothing as much as talking about something... it is important for both of you to feel like your thoughts matter, are important enough to listen to no matter how dumb you (or she) thinks they sound. you really need to be able to talk shit as much as discuss the important stuff whatever that is... mortgage, kids, america's next top model... whatever.

i work from home and my GF goes to an office so i make a point of asking about her work, co-workers etc since she spends a lot of time with them... its like pulling teeth sometimes but worth it.

then we talk about boobies.

[red baron]

Maybe she needs a CV

[Sinister]

I don't like the fact that women often make this the responsibility of the guy.  It sounds like SHE wants to talk more about things of substance or things that entertain her, but she doesn't want to be the one responsible to figure out what that is. 

It shouldn't be your sole responsibility to keep it interesting especially with what you have going on.  There are lots of generalizations here, and I tend to agree with them as a generalization.  If the girl isn't willing to do her part than that's a pretty good sign of what's to come.  Maybe this is how she's working on it, so she may deserve SOME credit. 

It may also be a sign on her part of immaturity.  I haven't actually experienced this that much since college. 

Exactly right, dude.  Look, we all have different skill sets in life.  My wife is extroverted; I am not.  Thus, I don't mind not talking.  When she wants to talk, she starts the conversation.  Sometimes I do, but it's not the norm.

If this chick has such issues that she's forcing to you be something/someone you are not just to satisfy her levels of insecurity instead of talking about the real issues, then she needs to go.  You don't need that headache, man.  It will only get worse.

[DCXCV]

If you're spending a lot of time being negative about all the crap you have to do for school I can see her wanting you to talk about something else.  But that's only if she's tried to bring up other topics and you've steered the convo back to griping about your workload. 

I had an ex that used to constantly complain about her coworkers - it gets very old after a while.

On the other hand, if she isn't making the effort and just expecting you to entertain her then that's her issue.  And also, if this is the case, she may be done with the relationship and looking for the easy way out. (blaming you)  You say things were easy before your deadline came up.  Well that deadline is also the "relationship becoming real again" deadline. 

If it's your issue and you're just being too pessimistic/lame/whiney then get yourself together and brighten up.  You'll both like that better.

[Ash]

+1 on your overall assessment, dan