Former Boss Died and I dunno how I feel...

[erkishhorde]

He hired me for my first real job. At the interview, he seemed so eager to teach and I thought it'd be lots of fun learning from him. Turns out I was wrong. He had a short temper and yelled a lot. You could feel everyone hunkering down in their chairs when he was on a rage in the middle of the cubie farm. It wasn't so bad when he wasn't yelling at you but once his regular target got fed up with it and left he started yelling at me a lot. One time he even blew up at me and ranted about how I was going to break his precious calculator that was on the edge of his table under 50 pages of full size drawings. How the make the beast with two backs was I supposed to know there was something "precious" buried under that  heap. I just had a little question about the project I was working on and that nobody else was helping me with. His big ole bug eyes really pissed me off too. Whenever he would rant they'd bulge. I just wanted to gouge them out.

I just found out that he died from an old co-worker/ classmate's facebook status. He died on the 13 at age 41. I did some searching and found that it was a diving accident. He got swept under a rock and drowned. Now, I didn't like the guy. I quit that job solely because of him even though I use finishing my master's degree as my excuse. As much as I felt like beating the shit out of him sometimes, I never really wanted him dead. Sure, I wished for it sometimes but they were those spur of the moment, rage filled, wishes that you really don't mean when you step back and regain your composure.

He ain't my problem anymore and hasn't been for the nearly 2 years now so I dunno if you'd say I'm relieved he's gone. At the same time, I don't particularly mourn his death since I didn't like him. He had two daughters, 9 and 6, so I guess I feel bad for them. IIRC he was getting a divorce when I left that job nearly 2 years ago so I guess there's potential for them to already be taken care of financially by a step father but that's still not much consolation for losing a father at such a young age.

There's a service for him this weekend. Dunno if I should go. Honestly, I'm more inclined to go and catch up w/ former co-workers than to pay my respects. Don't think I'll go. Hmm... hard to focus on working on my project anymore tonight. I feel kinda bad that I'm not actually all that sorry to hear he's gone.

[zarn02]

I remember finding out about a fairly useless HS teacher I had dying of, eh... something.

I'm not sure you're required to feel any particular way.

I think my reaction was something like "Well... no good for him. I guess these things happen."

[erkishhorde]

I remember finding out about a fairly useless HS teacher I had dying of, eh... something.

I'm not sure you're required to feel any particular way.

I think my reaction was something like "Well... no good for him. I guess these things happen."

That actually helps a lot. Made me smile and almost laugh.  Thanks.

[IZ]

You don't have to think/feel much about it.  They're your feelings.     

Hopefully, he left his kids with a better impression and a good life insurance policy.

IIRC you spoke about that job/boss on TOB.

[rgramjet]

Funerals aren't for the dead, they are for the living.  Go work the room!

[RAT900]

For some a funeral is a chance to celebrate someone's lifetime....

for others it's a chance to celebrate their demise

everyone dies sooner or later in some form or manner, the more bizarre or interesting or ironic,,the better....

but that is a side issue

what is probably more important is how well they lived their life

sounds like your chap gets a "Pedestrian-grade Fail" on the life

but a C+ on the demise

[NorDog]

Funerals aren't for the dead, they are for the living.

This claim is not held universally, and certainly not in my household.

Be that as it may, sounds like this guy is still living in your head.

Seems to me the thing to do is to consciously wish him no ill will, and let it go.

As we get older more and more people we've known die.  Many of these deaths are of people who were, well, wicked to us.  It is simply unwise and odd to invest too much emotion in to the idea that these deaths do not cause us to invest enough emotion.

[rgramjet]

There arent many claims that are! 

If its a reason to catch up with some friends, thats a reason to go.  Toxic people suck but if something good can come from the association, could be worth your time.

[Pip]

Your best course of action is to be honest. Say he was a douche, but you don't wish death on anybody.

[MendoDave]

So he was driving / walking on the 13 and he somehow drowned?

[Popeye the Sailor]

You should feel like applying for his job-it's open now.

[MendoDave]

You should feel like applying for his job-it's open now.

Man you're cold..

[Popeye the Sailor]

Man you're cold..

The guy was a dick to his employees. This is not a reason to deserve to die. It is a reason to not give a shit.

[Stella]

My day's going to come sooner or later and there one or two people who I KNOW are not going to miss me (nor I them if they go first).

And I don't care (I'm cold like that).  The manner in which they pass has potential to make me feel badly though.

If you had met the kids or other family members and they know/remember you, I think it would be fine to stop by to see them but avoid the hypocrisy by lamenting the guy's passing.

My 2 cents.

[MendoDave]

The guy was a dick to his employees. This is not a reason to deserve to die. It is a reason to not give a shit.

For some reason I find your BMW tractor fascinating. I want to go to a dealership where they have some that I can drive around.



They have these kind of things at the new Holland dealer in Colusa. But a BMW would be cool.