How much of an asshole am I?

[Vindingo]

People jumped on the bandwagon of "get well soons" when you got hurt.  I did not, because I thought it was your stupidity that resulted in your injury.  

Conclusion: there is no need to jump on the bandwagon.  

 [from one asshole to another]

[Monster Dave]

Dude Dave, I usually agree with you, but you're so way of the mark on this thing that it's almost funny. If I weren't about to defend my Senior Design I would make some long post on how it's exactly the opposite of what you said, but I just don't have the time. You'll have to take my word on this. An apology would be nice too.

I know that what I said was clearly calling out the root of the issue, but I didn't mean any offense. I just cut to the point - perhaps a bit too curt. If so then, then I apologize.

[DesmoLu]

Thanks for the honest feedback. It's good to hear that many of you see my point.

I think @monsterdave's post is exactly what I was looking for though. I am bitter, and I know I shouldn't let that blind the fact that there are a lot of good people out there just trying to be helpful. I know I'm being judgmental. I AM judgmental. And I also have a hell of a time keeping my opinions to myself, so thats why I'm doing my best PR by just staying away from the whole issue and surrounding events.

If someone tries to get me to wear a make the beast with two backsing t-shirt though, I might blow up  

I'm not jealous here, but more in the sense, deeply offended. I've done a lot for the food community here - A LOT - and seeing something like this is a pretty make the beast with two backsing big stab in the back. Then again, if someone did try to host a fundraiser for me while I was in the hospital, I'd punch them in the face because I'd be so deeply offended by asking for handouts (cultural thing)...

whatever. Can I donate the helmet, though? Really? Without pissing too many people off? I won't say anything about it. I just want to post it up on the donations page. People can make if it what they will?

[il d00d]

Being an asshole is in the doing, not the thinking.  I don't see that there is really any harm in ignoring requests for help, for reasons ideological or financial.

I don't get a clear read on what is expected of you, though.  The twitter thing - did you commit to help, or were you volunteered to help, or...?

[DesmoLu]

I wouldn't tell you to suck it up and be a better person; what I would tell you is to suck it up and do what's right for you and for your business. You might be surprised to find they wind up being the same thing.

Sad but true. Principles & PR don't mix. Looks like I'm donating the use of my kitchens to their bake sale. Not too shabby I suppose.

[duccarlos]

I'm an asshole and this is exactly how I would react, so logically that means that you are also an asshole.

[Monster Dave]

I think @monsterdave's post is exactly what I was looking for though.

Thanks Lu. After what El Matador said, I was hopeful that I hadn't taken offense from my response.

[DrDesmo]

Am I a horrible person for thinking all of this?

Absolutely not.  I cannot comment beyond this particular circumstance though. 

Cheers,
Adam

[muskrat]

I don't think you're an asshole in the least and it has nothing to do with the fact that we are from the same place.  
Frankly to each their own and I don't believe this is about jealousy but I don't begrudge people for raising money for friends either.  Now if she was drunk - yet to be known - then I'd be pissed alongside you.  Furthermore, donating a helmet would be PERFECT!

[stopintime]

Do what you think you'll be proud of when you're old.

I know what that should be, but I'm not going to tell you.

[DesmoLu]

Thanks Lu. After what El Matador said, I was hopeful that I hadn't taken offense from my response.

El Matador thinks much more highly of me than logic would allow. It's probably because he's seen my boobies. That changes things.

Absolutely not.  I cannot comment beyond this particular circumstance though. 
Cheers,
Adam

...and speaking of assholes... looks like there will be a convention for them in town next week?

[Monster Dave]

El Matador thinks much more highly of me than logic would allow. It's probably because he's seen my boobies. That changes things.


...and speaking of assholes... looks like there will be a convention for them in town next week?

   to all of the above.

[ducducgooseme]

Dude Dave, I usually agree with you, but you're so way of the mark on this thing that it's almost funny. If I weren't about to defend my Senior Design I would make some long post on how it's exactly the opposite of what you said, but I just don't have the time. You'll have to take my word on this. An apology would be nice too.

Are you serious?  She asked for everyone's opinion.  Just because his doesn't match yours, doesn't mean his is wrong.  Dave was concise and polite.  No apology needed.  In fact, I agree with him 100%.

[hbliam]

I'll donate a used helmet to the cause, how about that?"

A: You have no idea if the person was DUI, could have been a squirrel. Why get all worked up over what you assume?

B: Ixnay on the helmet idea. They'll just sue you later when the used helmet fails to work properly. Helmets expire. Helmets get damaged with use.

C: If you are doing stuff for the food community selflessly...quit bringing it up. If you are doing it for other reasons...start charging or stop doing it or ...stop bringing it up.  

[pennyrobber]

C: If you are doing stuff for the food community selflessly...quit bringing it up. If you are doing it for other reasons...start charging or stop doing it or ...stop bringing it up. 

I do stuff for the food community shellfishly.