Riding and Dating...

[Desmo Demon]

Does anyone here have any experience of riding with someone they were/are currently involved with?  Does riding and dating mix, or does it lead to competitiveness, bitterness, etc..?

If it turns into a dating experience, it should be for more reasons than just because she rides....

I met my wife through riding friends. She used to be one of the faster riders in the area and was once offered a sponsorship (bike and everything) by a local business, but she turned it down. I met her after she totaled a 100k+ mile GSXR-750 that she bought with only about 3000 miles on it, and we started dating after she'd already bought another GSXR-750. Prior to me, she could almost NEVER have a relationship with a guy who rode because their egos were constantly hurt and they tried to make it competitive (and they always lost). Even after her paralyzing accident in 2003, she is still faster than a lot of people and she still pisses off a lot of guys. I have very little ego with my riding and don't care if she is faster than me in some sections of road, even at her much more reserved pacec. I will admit that my riding has vastly improved since we've gotten together and logged over 70k miles together, including a SaddleSore 1000.

On the other hand, we've ridden with other women (and men) who "rode". Let's just say that our riding styles and abilities sometimes were not very similar, and it often made the riding experience less enjoyable - sometimes downright painful. I have the advantage of swapping bikes, depending on the pace we will keep. Sometimes even the bikes I ride much slower (like my 1987 Paso 750) are still too fast paced.

[1.21GW]

Nothing sexier than a woman that rides.   

+1

[Adamm0621]

He had a good reason to crash her bike?

Sorry... I should have clarified.  He was her boyfriend.  He crashed her bike.  He's now the ex-boyfriend.

There won't be any ego on my part... I ride a 696, she rides liter bikes.  She may be joining the Ducati community shortly, as she has her eyes on a yellow 999.  I may upgrade to the Diavel in a bit, but that's only because I want a little more oomph, not because I feel the need to ride hard.  I prefer the riding style of the Monster/Diavel more than that of a SBK, but even then, I'd be more than satisfied with an 848 (Dark of course).

We're not dating yet, per se, as we're both recovering from divorces, but the potential is there.  The other night we talked about motorcycles for over an hour, and I can honestly say that the concept of being in a relationship with someone who truly understands my passion for riding is more than a little appealing.

I tend to think my last marriage might have made it if we would have had more in common.  You know... like loyalty, and morals.   It's great to hear the success (marriage) stories, or how riding can bring people together, and strengthen relationships. Thanks for all of the input everyone.

[pitbull]

when my girl and I first met she loved riding on the back of my monster.

Eventually she wanted to ride, so she took an msf course. At the time we couldn't afford a second bike, so she rode my 900 cromo whenever I was at work or when she just wanted to take off for and hour or two. It was the only bike she had ever ridden, so the only bike she would consider for her own when the time came to get one. To that end, I found a crashed 2000 900 and we rebuilt it for her.

The funny thing is, as much as she loves to ride herself, she still loves to ride pillion. She says it's nice to be close some days instead of riding seperate bikes. I definitely agree, after 9 years together, I still love having her on the back of my bike with her arms around me.

[ducatiz]

Sorry... I should have clarified.  He was her boyfriend.  He crashed her bike.  He's now the ex-boyfriend.

There won't be any ego on my part... I ride a 696, she rides liter bikes.  She may be joining the Ducati community shortly, as she has her eyes on a yellow 999.  I may upgrade to the Diavel in a bit, but that's only because I want a little more oomph, not because I feel the need to ride hard.  I prefer the riding style of the Monster/Diavel more than that of a SBK, but even then, I'd be more than satisfied with an 848 (Dark of course).

We're not dating yet, per se, as we're both recovering from divorces, but the potential is there.  The other night we talked about motorcycles for over an hour, and I can honestly say that the concept of being in a relationship with someone who truly understands my passion for riding is more than a little appealing.

I tend to think my last marriage might have made it if we would have had more in common.  You know... like loyalty, and morals.   It's great to hear the success (marriage) stories, or how riding can bring people together, and strengthen relationships. Thanks for all of the input everyone.

That sounds great!

[Jimmy6tring]

Most of my friends who have gone through a divorce are naturally gun shy about new relationships and often focus on the reasons why it might not work, the *potential* negatives.  Take your time, for sure, but don't over think it, brother.  Obviously it's important to have some common ground and shared passions can be great for a relationship.  On the other hand, sometimes it's nice to have your own thing.  My girl loves to ride 2up but has zero interest in learning to ride herself.  That's fine by me.  She gets that it's my thing enough that sometimes she'll suggest I go take a ride when she can sense that I need to cool out and I love the shit out of her for that.  Honestly, my biggest concerns with a girl who rides would have more to do with the reality that I am currently struggling hard enough to afford my own Ducati habit.  But if my girl wanted her own bike to ride with me, I'd make it happen.  The point is, if it's meant to be the bike thing will work itself out perfectly.

Oh, and for the record, chicks who ride are F'n SEXY!!

[forza110]

i don't know how i'd feel about that...it would just suck godforbid something happened, and its because you wanted to move the pace up alittle or something, who knows, seems a little odd to me. but hey, im sure its sweet.

[kopfjäger]

Not a chance

[Adamm0621]

i don't know how i'd feel about that...it would just suck godforbid something happened, and its because you wanted to move the pace up alittle or something, who knows, seems a little odd to me. but hey, im sure its sweet.

Huh?

[Duc796canada]

To be honest, if she can ride and is confident, I don't mind if she is as "skilled" just the fact that she rides with me is good enough. Something you both do together is awesome!! I personally don't ride two up.

[Lekak796]

 Not 3 sundays ago my SO woke up and told me she wanted to join me on my usual sunday ride, gave her the basics and we went for a very long ride. She was a natural, not a single hiccup, we both had an amazing ride and now have something else to share. She recently started talking about getting her own bike and started researching smaller displacement bikes for herself. I know it shouldn't, but it makes me extremely proud when she starts talking about bikes....


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[corey]

keri and I are engaged to be married next July. she's been riding a good 4 years longer than I have. the whole reason I started
go for it man.

[needtorque]

This thread started on my b-day. No wonder I missed it.

Anyway, my wife grew up around motorcycles (her dad ran a club in MI).  She did not ride and TBH at the time neither did I.  I started about a year after we got married and she rode as passenger from then on (once I had some decent experience).  She now has her own bike (damn sportster) and she is learning to ride (has taken the MSF x2 already)(and passed both times just to clarify). 

I love that she rides and that we can share this interest.  Long term, shared interests will help to ensure a strong and healthy relationship.

[El-Twin]

The funny thing is, as much as she loves to ride herself, she still loves to ride pillion.

To me it's like dancing together, and can be very special.

[118811]

Motorcycles and the OTHER sex.....

I grew up riding dirt bikes & racing motocross.

1st wife pressured me into getting out of weekly dirt rides when our first child arrived.
Divorce followed 5 years later....

2nd wife was never interested in bikes....divorced again after 5 years...no kids or child support, thankfully!!

Now single...the Monster provides me with a great 1st date option.....short ride to the beach at sunset. 
Funny now, it seems most women really like the Monster!!
Then again, most women like anything "ITALIAN"