SO How's the married life.... really?

[That Nice Guy Beck!]

the whole marriage thing how is it folks?
is it hard work?
do you really start to hate the other person and secretly plot their murder after a few years?
sex? any?
I'm at a cross roads just trying to get some 411

Thanks
Bek

[Mother]

it is what you choose it to be. no ones individual experience has a make the beast with two backsing thing to do with anyone else's individual experience.

[vwboomer]

Marriage 1 : Cost me $35k
Marriage 2 : cost me my heart
Marriage 3: still lookin ladies!

Yer on yer own. Mother is right.

You either make the right decision or you don't - and the right decision doesn't mean it's going to work anyway.

[Big Troubled Bear]

Marriage 1 = Failure
Marraige 2 = happiness

It`s what you make of it

[eichh]

I've been married since I was 22 yes it seems young but I crammed a lot of living into that time, anyway we have no kids and we are going on 12 years. I would say the first year was tricky but since then its been great and murder plot free. I would have to say its the best decision I have made to date. I agree with everyone whose posted so far what works for some doesn't work for others and for all I know its a toss of the dice.  I guess as long as 2 people can adapt to each other, willing to compromise on a lot of things  and their surrounding situations it works.  My .02

[cyrus buelton]

I have been married for only 3 months, but we have lived together for 1.5 years.

As everyone has said, it is what you make it.

Compromise is very important. Pick your battles wisely. Split up house responsibilities and chores, makes life easier so there isn't complaining about this not being done or not done the right way, etc.

[the_Journeyman]

I've lived with my fiancée for over a year.  Splitting the chores is a big thing.  When we first moved in, I was still doing things as I always had.  I have lived alone for nearly 4 years so I just did things as I needed them done.  A couple months in, I started feeling like I did everything.  I did, and it was by choice, so we started sorting some chores out.  If I cook, she washes the dishes that won't go in the dishwasher & cleans the table up after we eat, vice-versa if she cooks.  Cleaning is not specifically broken up, but usually we do a little here and there as we have time and it works out.  Also communicate about things if something is out of whack.  I can't stand to leave dishes in the sink or laundry in the dryer.  My fiancée was used to putting the load in and picking out of the dryer for a couple days before getting around to folding & putting it up.  Drove me nuts.  We talked about it and sorted it out.  Occasionally it has to be stuff gets left overnight, but we try to get stuff out.  She came from a household that practically every light is on after dark, I come from a family that turns out a light if you leave the room, even for just a few minutes.  Communication is key.

JM

[ducpainter]

<details>  Communication is key.

JM

Bingo

[IZ]

I've been married since I was 22 yes it seems young but I crammed a lot of living into that time, anyway we have no kids and we are going on 12 years.

Similar story here.  The s/o and I married each other young.  I was 23 at the time.  It can seem like hard work at times..but we give and take and it all works out in the end.  Communication lines stay open.  She doesn't hold me back from my interests/dreams and vice-versa.   We'll celebrate 15 years this summer.  No kids yet..but it's about that time.

 

[Sinister]

the whole marriage thing how is it folks?
is it hard work?
do you really start to hate the other person and secretly plot their murder after a few years?
sex? any?
I'm at a cross roads just trying to get some 411

Thanks
Bek

Yes, it's awesome.
Yes, it's hard work.
Yes, there is sex.
Yes, YMMV.

Based on this post, alone, I'm thinking you shouldn't get married.

[cyrus buelton]

Based on this post, alone, I'm thinking you shouldn't get married.

I was thinking the same thing.

If you have to ask others if marriage is worth it, then don't get married.

[Grampa]

anal

[Grampa]

^ channeling sacduc

[Sinister]

^ channeling sacduc

Now that you're married, you have anal with Sacduc?  That's make the beast with two backsed up, bro.

[Grampa]

Now that you're married, you have anal with Sacduc?  That's make the beast with two backsed up, bro.

hey...it keeps our marrage together