sleeping with the enemy

[cyrus buelton]

You're probably right Cyrus, I mean, if he wasn't getting some(thing) he probably wouldn't keep hanging around ~

JM

Exactly.

Pillar stated the dude is a horndog that always wants it from her, so why would he keep coming around if he wasn't getting what he wants?

heed the old mans wisdom

Wouldn't he have to be careful not to break his hip?

[swampduc]

You got enough other stuff on your plate, man. This kind of drama you don't need. Get out of there!

[optiato]

I don't trust those types.  It never ends well (for you).

The girl has a weakness for the guy, if she isn't "with" him yet, she will be the moment you upset her at all.

[Sinister]

Pillar stated the dude is a horndog that always wants it from her, so why would he keep coming around if he wasn't getting what he wants?

Because he's an opportunist who believes that if he DOES hand around long enough, she will relent.  This woman is a whore...run.

[DaniD]

I don't trust those types.  It never ends well (for you).

The girl has a weakness for the guy, if she isn't "with" him yet, she will be the moment you upset her at all.

+11,000....that is totally true.  It sounds like she may have some self-esteem issues...it's the only reason any girl keeps guys like that around, they are easy pick-me-ups on days when you don't feel pretty or wanted...

[Sinister]

It sounds like she may have some self-esteem issues...

That's the understatement of the week.  It's like you're reading my mind, Dani.

[Porsche Monkey]

Let's go easy on the guy though, I'm sure most of us would hate to be in his (Pillar's) shoes. 

[optiato]

I've just been there and done that...

[Drunken Monkey]

I'd have the "this dude makes me uncomfortable" talk and see where it goes first.

But yes, odds are you should run away fast.

Sorry.

[metallimonster]

While I agree with everyone that she is definitely keeping this guy around to boost her self-esteem you need to find out what you want.  How serious are you with this chic?  If your not that serious and like being around her and I'm guessing hooking up just go for it and enjoy it. If you think you want a real relationship with her run, run, run, run.  I've been in this situation a couple of times and it never ends well and I promise you she WILL NOT be the one to get hurt.  Just my two cents.

[NAKID]

Regardless of if he is serious about her or not, that guy sticking around just throws up red flags. Say Piller's just out to have a good time but the other guy is psycho serious and catches them together, that could get very dangerous...

[Sinister]

I'm sure most of us would hate to be in his (Pillar's) shoes. 

THe key is not to get yourself in that position, to begin with.  Establish some boundaries in your relationships.  Rule #1: No guy friends.  Sorry, don't like it...buh bye.  Think about it: if you've been the 'guy friend', you know why you're there; your girlfriend's 'guy friend' is there for the same reason. 

[herm]

what?
are you saying that guys have ulterior for hanging out with "girls who are friends"
no way.......

[herm]

i can see it now.

this thread will be renamed.

"sleeping with the enemy"

[needtorque]

To this day my wife does not believe me when I tell her guys are after one thing only.  I told her a hundred times that if a guy says something as simple as "hi" to her what he is really saying is "you look good and do you put out".  She is slowly starting to come around now that I have been able to proove my point a few times.

Then there is the other thing.  She was talkin about this Dr. where she works and said he is always trying to have a conversation with her and I told her that he was probably hitting on her.  Then she comes home one day and says he complimented her on her new hairstyle.  I tell her that he is either trying to hook up with her or he is gay one or the other.  Straight guys dont just notice hair usually unless they are trying to impress a woman.  Well she denied both options until a couple weeks later when the Dr. introduced her to his life partner.