Dont work on your bike if your angry or depressed !!!!

Started by jerryz, March 05, 2009, 04:28:39 AM

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jerryz

I have been feeling jumpy ,angry unfocused and getting depressed for the last 2 weeks or so and its not doing my S4 any favours . every time i work on it i do something wrong which coming from a pro engineer is bad ,also i am making a terrible mess of everything leaving tools around, hurting myself and the bike ...so much I may just dump the damn thing in a corner and walk away for a few months.trouble is its all stripped down and the cannibals will probably get at it.
i am arguing with the wife, kids ,friends , anyone and also being let down by people left right and centre there is no loyalty or trust among so called friends .Shit i might as well go to work for some peace and quiet,

the way i feel I want to divorce my wife ,  abandon my kids , kill most of my friends, dump everything home,cars, investments and just walk away with the M750 and my tools and vwork.
Why do i feel so crap...I Dont Know? I can work , have money in the bank , no debts but i am tired of all the shit around me and the world in general.
i am supposed to be taking my 10 year old daughter to a holiday in Uk and france and see Mum and Dad  next week ....Ouch!

Confused  ranting jerry

cbartlett419

I can identify with this totally. The Brunette and I call them dark clouds, just in a funk. As a maker, being distracted or depressed or anxious can lead to improper use of equipment which can lead to serious injury. I don't want to be that guy, but I'll usually bite down and get dialed into something or go for a walk or pregnant dog for a minute or strike something repeatedly with a ball pin hammer or or or or
I guess my point is, you're not alone and everything is temporary [thumbsup]

Raux

you're not alone. i was going to rant the other day too.

but honestly, it's a winter thing. sounds stupid, but go to a tanning shop. i'm not advocating getting George Hamilton tanned and don't get fried, just get some UV rays. 6 min or so each week. I've heard about some research in Sweden/Finland about depression and its relationship to sun exposure or lack thereof.


jerryz

Sorry guys but i am in Thailand and its not winter here its 95f today the sun is shining and the streets are full of beautiful  women ...but i hate it all.

Howie

Two weeks is a long time.  Do walk away from the bike for now. If you haven't already, talk to your wife about what you are going through.  Pick some easy, satisfying projects like dusting and polishing furniture.  Success feels good.  Go see Mum and with your daughter, the change may do you some good since you will be getting away from the pressure of your daily life and back to your roots.  If you are in as much of funk as it sounds and things don't get better consider professional help.

Raux

Quote from: jerryz on March 05, 2009, 05:35:35 AM
Sorry guys but i am in Thailand and its not winter here its 95f today the sun is shining and the streets are full of beautiful  women ...but i hate it all.

ok blows my theory. well i would say, enjoy the riding weather. seriously though, don't let it progress without talking to someone.

jerryz

My wife has no understanding of what i feel , we have been married 12 years and she really does not have a clue how my head works ... mind u neither do i ...she thinks i must be pissed about another woman,,, truth fully i gave up on them as well ..no i am tired of everything the last thing on my mind is women ,sex ...but my wife thinks that all a man thinks about.

My Mistakes in life


1...being born
2...having a loving mother
3...going to school
4...trusting people
5...trusting experts
6...getting married
7...falling in love
8...buying an S4
9...giving up drugs and marijuana
10..staying alive each time i should have died( 5 times  recovered by ICU bastards)
11...getting an education
12...being honest
13...having kids in this evil world

Things i dont regret,

1....buying a monster750
2....going to work
3....hating evil people
4....fighting corruption and ignorance
5...giving up on people
6....giving up on trust.



ducatiz

Quote from: jerryz on March 05, 2009, 05:35:35 AM
Sorry guys but i am in Thailand and its not winter here its 95f today the sun is shining and the streets are full of beautiful  women ...but i hate it all.

Thailand?

Those are all dudes.
Check out my oil filter forensics thread!                     Offended? Click here
"Yelling out of cars, turning your speakers out the window to blast your music onto the street, setting off M-80 firecrackers, firing automatic weapons into the airâ€"these are all well and good. But none of them create a merry atmosphere of insouciance and bonhomie quite like a revving motorcycle.

Popeye the Sailor

If the state had not cut funding for the mental institutions, this project could never have happened.

Raux

My Mistakes in life
1...being born   - technically not YOUR mistake, so you can't count that
2...having a loving mother  -not sure this is a mistake unless something strange happened
3...going to school  -not a mistake in my opinion
4...trusting people -ok agree here.
5...trusting experts  -hmmm what is an expert and who says they really are that
6...getting married  -well if i include my first one, i agree with you there, but my 2nd... is just awesome (plus she reads this  ;D
7...falling in love  -should go along with 6 thereby not being a mistake but... could be a mistake if it doesn't
8...buying an S4   - assuming this is a mistake related to 6 and 10 but in and of itself is not a mistake
9...giving up drugs and marijuana    -well i don't agree here. that crap is a mistake
10..staying alive each time i should have died( 5 times  recovered by ICU bastards)   -ok now you are just worrying me
11...getting an education  - no way is this a mistake, my worst was not getting one
12...being honest   -only a mistake if it got you or someone else hurt, but in the end... a VERY GOOD policy
13...having kids in this evil world  -only a mistake if you don't prepare them for it

Things i dont regret,  - these are all cool

1....buying a monster750
2....going to work
3....hating evil people
4....fighting corruption and ignorance
5...giving up on people
6....giving up on trust.

All in all, jerry, you sound like a pretty awesome dude.



jdubbs32584

#10
Wow.

You could be thankful for what you have.

You have:

1. a loving mother
2. an education
3. love
4. some make the beast with two backsing cool motorcycles
5. you're clean
6. you survived whatever trauma you went through
7. you're honest
8. you have beautiful children

If these things truly upset you, maybe you should talk to a professional. And bring your wife too since things are apparently so bad with her.


ETA: Of course you're not alone. But maybe now its time to pull out of it. And sometimes you need professional help and tough love to do that. So don't take my post the wrong way, its an attempt to show you the good things you have.

ducatiz

Quote from: JBubble on March 05, 2009, 07:32:21 AM
Wow.

You could be thankful for what you have.

You have:

1. a loving mother
2. an education
3. love
4. some make the beast with two backsing cool motorcycles
5. you're clean
6. you survived whatever trauma you went through
7. you're honest
8. you have beautiful children
9.  You live in Thailand, where Triumph makes most of their bikes and transgender fun is the norm.

added one
Check out my oil filter forensics thread!                     Offended? Click here
"Yelling out of cars, turning your speakers out the window to blast your music onto the street, setting off M-80 firecrackers, firing automatic weapons into the airâ€"these are all well and good. But none of them create a merry atmosphere of insouciance and bonhomie quite like a revving motorcycle.

causeofkaos

Do not want to sound like a broken record bro BUT YOU ARE NOT ALONE..
I went through an identical slump mine lasted almost 2 years.
I truly wish you pull out of yours fast. Good luck  [thumbsup]

i wanted to start my post with " sounds like someones got the Mondays "  :P
Favorite convo i read on this board
"PICS OR IT DIDNT HAPPEN"
"F**K U IT HAPPENED"

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PW 696 " Pearl " = traded in
M1100 " Loki " = Viking God of mischief ( Goddess in this case )
Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving in a pretty pristine body, but rather to come in sliding sideways all used up screaming F*CK YEAH WHAT A RDIE!!

Grampa

Gaspar, Melchior and Balthasar kicked me out of the band..... they said I didnt fit the image they were trying to project. 

So I went solo.  -Me

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DucLeone

as ppl have said before Talk Talk Talk
get the shit of your Chest with someone, it does help, i just got trough the same thing a few months back

just hang in there Bro
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