buying the wrong ring?

[Statler]

Right, but if you DO buy your girl a real simple, plain ring, and she is one of those 'gotta-have-a-rock-or-i'll-die' girls, please share the drama.  We love that shit.   

hahahahhaha.    


so...G has a rather small heart-shaped diamond engagement ring.   We were students.

At ten years while in the Carribean I got her earrings that each matched the diamond in size (more triangle cut but you can't tell without taking them all off and looking closely).

Recently the prongs on her ring needed to be fixed and so she wasn't wearing it so as to not lose the stone.   I was supposed to get it fixed and as is typical I delayed for a very long time.   I finally got around to it, but as a surprise I had a new setting done to put a ruby on each side of the original diamond.   Looked great, kept the theme, and was fun to see her face when she got it.

That original stone may be added to, but won't ever be traded in for something bigger.   It's got some sentimental value now.  

The thing that this thread brings to my mind is communication.   Some couples have it; some don't.   It sure helps longevity.
   Perhaps with the women who want a certain ring there is some compromise to both understand and appreciate why it is important to her, and to maybe do something you don't understand simply because it makes your partner happy. 

[the_Journeyman]

IIRC Shane's isn't on the affordable list for average Joe's like me either!

JM

[Sinister]

Perhaps with the women who want a certain ring there are unresolved 'daddy' issues that can be exploited later.

I wasn't going to say it, but I think you may be right.





<Edit by Statler:   this post is kind of obviously not mine, but it would still be polite to point out that the quote was changed from the original with either a "fixed it" or a color difference>

[cyrus buelton]

IIRC Shane's isn't on the affordable list for average Joe's like me either!

JM

Shane Company sells crap stones.

My Dad bought my mom's engagement ring there in 1968.

they had a guarantee that if you paid more than your ring is appraised for elsewhere, they will give you your money back.

Needless to say, the ring was worth shit and he returned it.

[Sinister]

Shane Company sells crap stones.

My Dad bought my mom's engagement ring there in 1968.

they had a guarantee that if you paid more than your ring is appraised for elsewhere, they will give you your money back.

Needless to say, the ring was worth shit and he returned it.

Rich doctor = cheap bastard.  Like father, like son, I see. 

[cyrus buelton]

Rich doctor = cheap bastard.  Like father, like son, I see. 

Not quite.

He was in med school at the time

[Sinister]

Not quite.

He was in med school at the time

You know I'm just bustin' ya.

[That Nice Guy Beck!]

No.

thats what you think

[jdubbs32584]

thats what you think

[Grampa]

where be nick?

[sbrguy]

i can understand what the women think, if the guy is going to spend a lot of money on a ring she doesn't want him buying an ugly thing that she won't like, also if she has to wear it all the time then who wants to wear an ugly something.

yuou guys are assuming that people have good taste, this is not always the case.

i agree with guys that say it shouldnt' be about the ring, that is true, but if you are even willing to go along with this tradition it shows you are "giving in' to going with the motions so if you really objected to it you would say no and be done with it, bu ty ou don't bc you realize its "something you just have to do".

the whol e 2weeks salary, 2 months salary, was smething debeers came up with, basicaly its like asking a crack dealer what the price of crack should be, duh..

in the long run it really don't matter, if a person wants a ring and you mess up thin fine you mess up, if you don't you don't eveyrone is different.  we are all illogical in our own ways, so judging someone based on if they want this or that ring is just as stupid as judging someone based on what motorcycle they buy..

goodluck.

[That Nice Guy Beck!]

honey i really dont want that 1098 R
instead just get me that honda spree!

[DesmoDiva]

 

Okay, I'll bite and toss in another woman's perspective.

When B and I got engaged we went and looked at rings together.  He knows I'm really particular about jewelry, therefore I don't wear much, b/c I rarely find anything I like.  He suggested I start figuring out what I like.

I really wanted my father's mother's ring, but my dad wouldn't part with it.  

I have always liked the "Etoile" collection from Tiffany's, mostly because it is simple and has no prongs.  I work a lot with my hands and I can't be bothered with worrying about catching a prong or wearing gloves.  B said Tiffany's was out.  So I looked for similar settings, found a designer I liked, and where we could buy the setting locally.  

Then we went and looked the settings and loose stones in person. We didn't get a good vibe at the first place we went, but the second place was spot on.   We worked with the jeweler and designer to get exactly what I wanted, a simplified version an existing design, thus making it a one-of-a-kind.  The stone was chosen, NOT based on ct sized, but what looked good/proportional on my hand and could be accommodated in the setting.  

The ring I ended up with FAR exceeded any expectation of what I wanted.  It was/is perfect.  

B spent less on my ring than he did on my first Duc.


It really has nothing to do with size, but the thought/care put into the ring.  

[Statler]

honey i really dont want that 1098 R
instead just get me that honda spree!

if the scooter fits.

[DesmoDiva]

if the scooter fits.