pesky ex boyfriend

[stopintime]

shes had several restraining orders against him, hes also spent time in jail for hitting her.  as soon as the restraining orders expire he shows up again, he is just that dense he doesnt get the point

That was my point, that he doesn't get the point - maybe he thinks some outsiders (police?)(you?) keep them apart....

I think she should face him, just that ONE last time, calmly laying it out very clearly for him. If she needs to, let her do it with his parents and/or you by her side. It will not be pleasant for him, but he might get a fresh idea of "the point".

This whole thing has a dangerous potential. Be careful. Have you talked to the police or someone with some REAL experience in dealing with situations like this?

[tcspeedfreak]

This whole thing has a dangerous potential. Be careful. Have you talked to the police or someone with some REAL experience in dealing with situations like this?

a very little bit, the local PD wants him locked up for good, but they can never catch him doing anything that they can lock him up for a long period of time for though. 

[Grampa]

spoon

[ducpainter]

unless this is the woman of your dreams....

run and don't look back.

[Statler]

unless this is the woman of your dreams....

run and don't look back.

even if she is....run.


I call bullshit on her.   If one wants to sever ties it's not hard.   Restraining orders and working for his folks just don't mix...  saying wanting nothing to do with him but he knows something needs to be fixed in the house? and does it  !?!?

she's your gf not wife right?   Is house owned or rented?  Whose name is it in?

This is a relationship and legal nightmare.   leave.   move out of town...far.   If she comes along great.

And not to be an ass...but from the description you worte sounds like she's still sleeping with him anyway.

[Travman]

she's still sleeping with him anyway.

Agreed.  Maybe not often, but often enough for this guy to think there is a possibility of getting her back. 

[stopintime]

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And not to be an ass...but from the description you worte sounds like she's still sleeping with him anyway.

Where did that come from?

Agreed.  Maybe not often, but often enough for this guy to think there is a possibility of getting her back. 

It doesn't have to include ongoing sex for a man to act like this?

[Raux]

gona be an ass and agree with she's sleeping with him

man, ya gotta end this relationship NICELY, cause if you hurt her... she knows someone who is a lawbreaker and she'll get her revenge.

leave town. take off, find a new life.

[stopintime]

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leave town. take off, find a new life.

In Germany? 

[Raux]

In Germany? 

nah, don't bring troubles my way, got enough of my own.

[derby]

Where did that come from?

wisdom.

[somegirl]

I agree with Statler.

[Statler]

common sense, and years of doing domestic violence legal work.     

Check the public records in your state too (criminal and civil crap like protective orders are public...and many states have searchable online for ease)....I bet her level of attempting to get him away was lots of temp orders with no follow through....just enough to get his attention.  Oh there will be lots of good reasons for never having it in place for a year....but......

kind of like the attention you're now getting roped into providing to the situation...

[Travman]

It doesn't have to include ongoing sex for a man to act like this?

True. 

SpeedFreak, you'll have to let us know how it turns out this time next year. 

[Statler]

It doesn't have to include ongoing sex for a man to act like this?

nope...guess not.......but it does need the other party to be complicate.

It would be very easy, in the greater picture of things, for her to remove this guy from her life.   But she hasn't.     It is very difficult to impossible, for the new BF to remove old BF from her life...no matter what she says.   It's just not in his purview.

The fact that he was in the house and he's not in jail and/or you two aren't now living in a different state is a problem.   Doesn't matter if door was unlocked.   

There's more going on here.