pesky ex boyfriend

[herm]

i was going to suggest an old fashion beat down...
but after reading, and agreeing with Statler's wisdom...
she probably isn't worth it.
just run.
far.
away.

[cyrus buelton]

even if she is....run.


I call bullshit on her.   If one wants to sever ties it's not hard.   Restraining orders and working for his folks just don't mix...  saying wanting nothing to do with him but he knows something needs to be fixed in the house? and does it  !?!?

she's your gf not wife right?   Is house owned or rented?  Whose name is it in?

This is a relationship and legal nightmare.   leave.   move out of town...far.   If she comes along great.

And not to be an ass...but from the description you worte sounds like she's still sleeping with him anyway.

I was trying to be a good boy in my post to not get myself in trouble, but you about took the words straight out of original post.


She wants him around. If she didn't want him around, she'd take care of it.


I agree with Statler, she is probably still make the beast with two backsing him.

[DRKWNG]

I agree with Statler, she is probably still make the beast with two backsing him.

There goes the good boy. 

[cyrus buelton]

common sense, and years of doing domestic violence legal work.     

Check the public records in your state too (criminal and civil crap like protective orders are public...and many states have searchable online for ease)....I bet her level of attempting to get him away was lots of temp orders with no follow through....just enough to get his attention.  Oh there will be lots of good reasons for never having it in place for a year....but......

kind of like the attention you're now getting roped into providing to the situation...

Statler has much more experience in this then I ever will, but my bro was an assistants states attorney for 5 years and from my man conversations on the topic, I would agree 100% with the above.

There goes the good boy. 

It's the holidays; I was trying to be nice and sincere.

Guess I have turned into a pussy in my later board years and lost that blunt, to the point, assholeness.

However.........I have only received a 30-day ban since the DMF inception, so I am doing good.

[DRKWNG]

I know, and it's all good.  Just busting your chops there mate. 

[tcspeedfreak]

ok only one more tidbit of information i forgot to mention earlyer she dated him for like 8 years and he was pretty much the father to her 11 year old son.

not that im trying to make excuses but just seeing if anybodys views change being that there is a kid involved.

[DRKWNG]

Run man.  Seriously, you need to get out of that situation before it turns ugly.  And it will turn ugly.

[Statler]

but not his kid right?

where is real dad and what's his story?


edit:   mind is I ask how old she is (noticed you're 22).

so your gf has an 11 year old child and an ex who has been like the kid's dad or 8 years, but the ex used to hit her and she has had some protective orders in place for that at some point and she still works for his folks and the three of you talk a lot so he knew your stove needed to be fixed so he just came into your home and did it, and he still has a thing for her?

no....you didn't change my opinion knowing there's a child involved....

you're making this up to keep us interested during the snowstorm right?

[Kopfjäger]

If that's your boat in your avatar, you don't have to worry about finding another girl. 

[mstevens]

shes had several restraining orders against him, hes also spent time in jail for hitting her.  as soon as the restraining orders expire he shows up again, he is just that dense he doesnt get the point

From years of working with these guys, it's my opinion that the problem is not that they don't "get the point." It's that they simply don't give a shit.

Guys like you're describing are willing to push things much farther than normal people and to take risks the rest of us won't consider. Punishment means little or nothing to them, and negative attention (arrests, etc.) is perfectly acceptable to them. They have an astonishing ability to misinterpret evidence that disagrees with the way they want things to be (all those restraining orders don't mean a thing - she really wants me").

I've also worked with countless women who become and stay involved with these guys. The ones who really don't want a relationship get out and stay out, whatever it takes. The rest keep dancing around for years. Despite what they say, deep down they often believe the guy can and will change if the woman only tries hard enough.

I don't give relationship advice to anyone, including my patients, and you shouldn't take any from people over the internet. What you should do is to look at the evidence you have about the people in this story and how likely the situation is to change in a way that's likely to work out for you, then make the best decision you can.

[Travman]

If that's your boat in your avatar, you don't have to worry about finding another girl. 

It looks like that boat is half sunk.

I had a girlfriend with an ex that still wanted to be in the picture.  She didn't mess around once he pushed it too far.  She wanted him gone and let everyone including him know it. 

[Kopfjäger]

It looks like that boat is half sunk.

Big engine/engines make it look that way. 

[CapnCrunch]

how much of this situation did you know before you got involved with her?

If you had prior knowledge you ought to be asking yourself why you allowed the drama in.

run.

lots of hot ass out there to bang.

get a chick without so much luggage.

[herm]

Statler has much more experience in this then I ever will, but my bro was an assistants states attorney for 5 years and from my man conversations on the topic, I would agree 100% with the above.


It's the holidays; I was trying to be nice and sincere.

Guess I have turned into a pussy in my later board years and lost that blunt, to the point, assholeness.

However.........I have only received a 30-day ban since the DMF inception, so I am doing good.

same thing happened when i had my rotty fixed

[herm]

and back on topic...
this is starting to sound like a pillar story