a new life

[jc.cyberdemon]

im trying to start a new life. im sick of my job and my shit hole house. I would like to move out of new hampshire. The only thing that is really stopping me is my wife and kids, its hard to just drop everything and go. any one else done this? i mean just quit work and moved to another state or country? i need help! i feel like im loosing my goddamn mind(whatever is left of it) Any ideas? good jobs? places to live?

[He Man]

drop the wife and kids too

[jc.cyberdemon]

no i wouldnt do that. though sometimes i think they would be better off without me....i wouldnt care if it was just me, but having 3 other people who are depending on me to survive really makes it hard.

[He Man]

have you tried talking to them first about this?

[lethe]

I'd suggest not making too big of a change as it might be too much of a culture shock to the kids and not knowing your situation I'm just guessing her's and/or your families might be somewhat local to you now. Look maybe at what options you have while still remaining in the northeast. This all assumes that your wife and kids might not be comfortable and flexible with a big move. Of course rent first wherever you might go to make sure you don't lock yourself down with another bad for you choice.

[Popeye the Sailor]

have you tried talking to them first about this?

Dude-this whole conversation is what a wife is for-go sort your shit out, come to some sort of conclusion with her, then see what that leaves.



Right now we recommend moving to LA and becoming a famous producer.

Without knowing more of your background, it's just as valid a suggestion as oil change tech at Jiffy Lube in St. Louis.

[lethe]

Dude-this whole conversation is what a wife is for-go sort your shit out, come to some sort of conclusion with her, then see what that leaves.



Right now we recommend moving to LA and becoming a famous producer.

Without knowing more of your background, it's just as valid a suggestion as oil change tech at Jiffy Lube in St. Louis.

I suggest a billionare porn star in Monaco

[Popeye the Sailor]

I suggest a billionare porn star in Monaco

That's a job?

I'm applying.

[cyrus buelton]

Without knowing more of your background, it's just as valid a suggestion as oil change tech at Jiffy Lube in St. Louis.

My brother who is 13mons older than myself took a year off after college to sort out what he wanted to do and did a brief stint at a Jiffy Lube type shop in Bozeman Montana.

His favorite co-worker was the guy who was saving up all his money to head to the Chicken Ranch outside Vegas to make the beast with two backs his favorite porn-star who was on a special rotation there.............



OP,

My wife and I (no kids, not having them.......have two dobermans) have talked for a while about moving out of the US abroad.

we believe we've found our country destination to become ex-pats........Costa Rica.

we are in the process of planning a few more trips down to see if it is a feasible venture as we are 29 and 30, so retirement isn't an option yet.

I'd have to give up my status as Mall Ninja, though, as I can't take any of my guns

and

there is no use for a Ducati down there.

[duccarlos]

I've done it. It's tough if you have older kids. If they're young, then it's much easier. I actually went first and travelled back home, then I found a place to live and packed the rest of the family once I was pretty establlished. I made sure that we could survive with only my paycheck until my wife was able to find a job. The kids adapted well.

[RAT900]

im trying to start a new life. im sick of my job and my shit hole house. I would like to move out of new hampshire. The only thing that is really stopping me is my wife and kids, its hard to just drop everything and go. any one else done this? i mean just quit work and moved to another state or country? i need help! i feel like im loosing my goddamn mind(whatever is left of it) Any ideas? good jobs? places to live?

First: Playing Pa Joad fleeing the Dustbowl is an act of last-hope/chance desperation...you have obligations...single folks and folks with a BIG pile of money can toss in the towel and try something new....the only thing stopping you from rethinking your life is NOT your wife and kids...do not blame them .....if you offer them a plan for a better way of life they will go.

Second: Have you HONESTLY assessed your discontent and motivations? Clearly you are unhappy but "unhappy" is a state of mind that has a LOT of causes.  
Ever had a day when you had everything go right and your mood sucked anyway?  and conversely had a day that went to shit from the get-go but you let it all roll off your back??...more often than not, mood/attitude has only a casual relationship with circumstance

Third: Fleeing where you are is a piss-poor substitute for building a plan and determining where you want to GO...set a goal, talk with your wife as MrI so wisely suggested,

use the suckosity of your current arrangement to motivate you...build a plan keep it in the forefront of your mind and you'll be able to wade through a sea of asparagus piss eating a shit sammich knowing it has an end...be a person who knows what they want rather than one of the countless many who figure out what they DON'T want, after the fact

[jc.cyberdemon]

my kids are real young 2 and 3. my wife is up for ditching the u.s. all together but like i said its hard not knowing if i could do better than im doing right now. usually when i get the feeling i need a change it usually works out, ive only gone up since getting married. but bills do pile up and i feel stuck. that shit sucks. i now am getting that feeling for a change. im not really qualified for much as ive been in so many different types of jobs.and right now am make the beast with two backsing broke. i have alot of shit i can sell if i decide to move. i dont really know where im going with this.......  

[jc.cyberdemon]

i may have worded that whole wife and kids stopping me thing wrong...they arent stopping me and my wife wants to go too, my own fear for their well being is stopping me from making a stupid decision based on instinct. my wife has always been supportive of anything i do for some reason i dont understand(i come up with some pretty stupid shit sometimes).

[duccarlos]

With kids that age I would say that this would be the time to go for it. You'll need money to do it though.

[jc.cyberdemon]

i want suggestions as to where is the best place to find a job and fairly cheap rent.