The Official Break-up Thread

[DesmoLu]

So, what got you over him? Especially when he was perfect in every way aside from his serious insecurities? Is the Duc lover doomed to love only high maintenance difficult men just like her bike?

[LMT]

Eat ice cream, work out, cry, and ride.

Sorry to hear the news.

[badgalbetty]

I'll let you know after I find a boyfriend (by which time I'll be 107)...... and we break up 
Sorry to hear the news...

[DesmoLu]

awww, BadGal, there is thread jacking and then there is pity party jacking - new level!

honestly, I think Duc lovers are doomed to love men like their bikes. I tried dating a couple of nice reliable Yamahas and they didn't do ANYTHING for me. I'd go for the vintage yamaha, but I can't date a guy that's older than my mom, it just feels too wrong!

[JBubble]

I went through the same thing right before I met Mother. My advice is to spend some time on yourself. Like Mary said, go ride, workout, eat delicious food, enjoy life. When you're ready, take a look at yourself and make improvements as necessary. Hang in there, if you wanna talk, I'll lend an ear.

It does eventually get better.

[DesmoLu]

Awww, Bub, I know! but how many Mother's are out there?

I'm actually rekindling something with the ex, the one who got me into Ducs into the first place, but am reluctant to go there since I feel like I SHOULD spend some serious time along. How much time should I spend alone? I have plenty of stuff to do! but there are also a lot of good guys I don't want to miss out on. If he's worth it, he'll wait, right?

[JBubble]

Awww, Bub, I know! but how many Mother's are out there?

I'm actually rekindling something with the ex, the one who got me into Ducs into the first place, but am reluctant to go there since I feel like I SHOULD spend some serious time along. How much time should I spend alone? I have plenty of stuff to do! but there are also a lot of good guys I don't want to miss out on. If he's worth it, he'll wait, right?

Mother is one of a kind (has to be to deal with me  ). But they are out there.

I was unsure about giving myself time alone as well but Mother actually encouraged it. We were friends first and foremost. A good guy will wait, so my advice would be to be alone for a little bit and make sure that you are emotionally good before diving into something else. I think it can be very damaging to a relationship if you haven't regained your footing from a previous one.

[zooom]

Mother is one of a kind (has to be to deal with me  ). But they are out there.

I was unsure about giving myself time alone as well but Mother actually encouraged it. We were friends first and foremost. A good guy will wait, so my advice would be to be alone for a little bit and make sure that you are emotionally good before diving into something else. I think it can be very damaging to a relationship if you haven't regained your footing from a previous one.

great advice...1 addition...do some things that might be out of your norm or your comfort zone...it is a polarizing thing that will help cement your path or show you possibly a new direction that you hadn't previously considered viable or on your radar otherwise...something that is beyond your current shell or comfort zone to shock you as it were...

[DesmoLu]

As I've never actually had a comfort zone... or possibly define my life be living outside it...I did the one single thing I could possibly think of that is truly outside who I am: I apologized 

[Grrrly]

go ride!

[sbrguy]

as one ex-gf told me when we were breaking up "there is a reason its called a breakup, because its broken".  No way to sugar coat it, but if a relationship is broken for a good reason, its not like a motorcycle where you can weld/rivet or whatever, and make it as good as new.

she is now happily married and i am still single.     so i give her credit for finding her way.

you get through it like you get through all things in life, you just do in your own way.

good luck and go riding but only do it when you are mentally able to ride.