i need good thoughts sent my way...

[RAT900]

Hang in there Elyse,

just put one foot in front of the other and walk your way through it

sometimes the mundane tasks help to take the focus off the nastier aspects

irony abounds in times like this, the fact that you can see that, speaks reams about your level-headedness

there will be plenty of time afterwards to reflect on it all and to start constructing a perspective

that will allow you to reconcile that life comes at us on life's terms.....not ours

you are an intelligent and spirited lady, I pray that you don't allow yourself

to become another casualty of this sorry, sorry event

[Howley]

Holy crap, I just read this! Sending my thoughts and prayers your way. Stay strong.

[somegirl]

Elyse, still thinking of you.  You are so strong.  Hang in there.  ((hugs))

[ungeheuer]

Its a weirdness that from half a world away ...  I'm deeply shocked...  Elyse I feel for you...  And as all those before me have offered, I also offer thoughts of support...  No one can know what you're going through, but we your DMF friends are here .... coz despite distances and that few of us will ever actually meet... that is what this place is... a genuine gathering of friends.

From afar, I send you my deepest thoughts of concern and wishes that peace can somehow be with you.

Damn 

[VisceralReaction]

Elyse,
Vent away all you need. that's what were here for. To listen and help in any way that we can.

[Rob Hilding]

Keep strong, Elyse

You have all the positive energy of the DMF behind you.

[the_Journeyman]

Saw your FB.  So sorry to hear, and yes you have my good thoughts and positive energy.  This is something terrible to endure.

JM

[DanTheMan]

Holy Shit, don't know what to say to this! Thoughts and prayers your way.

DTM

[Heath]

Wow I just saw this.  I am so sorry for your loss.  Hang in there!  If you need anything let me know.  I am local to you in Cali.  Just send me a PM.

[triangleforge]

This is a wonderful community, and I'd like to add my positive thoughts & help in any way I can.







Which is pathetically little in comparison to the magnitude of what you're facing.

Vent here whenever it feels helpful, lean on this forum as much as you can, but please find a way to accept help from the real flesh & blood people around you too. You mentioned above that you're more comfortable comforting than being comforted, but this is a time to let go of that. You have friends, here and in the "real" world. Hesitating to lean on them at a time like this is the gravest insult you can pay that friendship.

[elyse]

Here i go being redundant but i still can't thank you all enough...
The memorial is tomorrow at 11am. Im dreading it but also think that the sooner its over the better. I really hate all of this...and funerals i think only make things sadder..i picked up their cremated remains today. Its really quite weird carrying your family around in a little box...did i mention i really hate all of this?

[Stella]

...did i mention i really hate all of this?

You did.  But you can tell us over and over and over how much you hate it.  Vent away and hate it and know that all of us continue to keep you in our thoughts and wish we could do more for you.



More huge, virtual hugs to you......

[TiNi]

hey elyse

i hate what you are going through too... and like stella said, it's ok to tell us as many times as you want. scream, cry, yell if you want to... it's still ok, we'll still be here to listen. i just wanted to let you know that i think you are a very strong and brave woman. my thoughts have been, and still are with you.

hugs 

[mitt]

I can't imagine what you have experienced, especially what you said about carrying your family around...

Keep checking in and know that we are thinking of you everyday, hoping for things to start getting better!


mitt

[Duc Buz]

Thoughts sent and stay strong.