i need good thoughts sent my way...

[ducpainter]

I can't imagine what you have experienced, especially what you said about carrying your family around...

Keep checking in and know that we are thinking of you everyday, hoping for things to start getting better!


mitt

Unfortunately, I can imagine it...been there.

Hang in there kiddo...time helps.

[ungeheuer]

Hang in there kiddo...time helps.

Its true.  In time... the pain will begin to heal. 

Many have said "be strong".  I say be as you are.  If that's strong... then good.  But there's no shame in collapsing in a crying heap, no shame in needing the support of those around you.  Lean on those who are there for you.  Its not your responsibility to be the tower of strength.  So be strong if that's what you need, but allow your emotions free reign.  All who care about you and for you will understand.

Thoughts very much with you on this most difficult of days.   

And from tomorrow.... slowly the healing will come.

[RAT900]

True strength allows the ability to express grief without fear of the assured pain that attends it

True strength allows sorrow and pain to be felt without fear of it lapsing into despair and self-pity

There is an enormous difference between "acceptance" and resignation

Acceptance requires embrace of an event or circumstance,,,,, acknowledgement

and it is the first step forward on a path to authentic reconciliation...it is sometimes dreadfully hard, seemingly impossible work

Resignation is defeat, it is the sorry shield of the victim, it is the helpless child

Invictus by William Ernest Henley is about our capacity to be triumphant in spirit

Probably not a bad thing to read at a time such as this

[elyse]

So the memorial went better than expected today.. It was pretty untraditional. No minister. Not because I dont believe, but because i hate when you go to a funeral & the minister knows absolutely nothing about the person that died, but they act like they do & then they always mispronounce their name. I so hate that... So basically I told everyone that came that we were going to celebrate their life instead of mourn how they died & I had everyone tell their favorite story about my mom & my brother. It was nice to hear laughter instead of sobbing...

So now all I have left to do is the business side of things..unfortunately neither of them had a will, so most of their accounts will have to go through probate. i can hardly wait to begin this next adventure

Lesson to you all, make a will if you haven't already done so. Even if you dont have much. My brother has like $1500.00 in his checking and i can't even close the account without going through probate.

As always, thanks for listening

[cokey]

Thats the best way to do it.. my best friend of 16 years passed a few months ago.  Hes Jamaican, and after the funeral we had a big dinner..  i always rather celebrate and remember the good times then morn..  i morned with my fathers passing in '00 and my ex wife in '01 hard...  my emotional state would have/be better if i did it different..

[AJ]

Glad the memorial went well, celebrating and laughing is a great way to remember  loved ones

I hope you have help or guidance with all of the paperwork.......which I'll wager is not user-friendly 

I'm sending positive thoughts and patience with bureaucracy your way

[the_Journeyman]

Glad it went well, I like the approach you took.  I have always said tears aren't because they're gone, but because of all of the memories made.  Good for you for making a celebration of a life rather than a sad, somber goodbye.  It's better for everyone.

JM

[Speedbag]

Glad it went well, I like the approach you took.  I have always said tears aren't because they're gone, but because of all of the memories made.  Good for you for making a celebration of a life rather than a sad, somber goodbye.  It's better for everyone.

JM

+1

[elyse]

im still in bama & i'm really wishing i was back home in cali already....
the paperwork is neverending & i swear the city of anniston is like stepping back into 1950...
the first probate attorney i went to didnt have a computer. his secretary was still using an electric typewriter (no joke). he also had a bust of bear bryant in his entryway... im an auburn fan, i should have fled as soon as i saw that
im on my 2nd probate attorney. i go see him in the a.m.
brothers life insurance paperwork is complete & his 401k too
im still working on itemizing & pricing every item in my moms house so the renters insurance will pay out. theres a whole lot of crap that fits into a 5 bedroom house.. this is all such a pain..

on a happier note, i will still be in bama this weekend so i'm going to be able to go to the vintage festival at barber... thats my little ray of sunshine

as always thank you for letting me vent & all the good wishes sent my way

[AJ]

I was wondering how you were doing, glad to hear there's progress, slow as it may be.  Good luck with plowing through the rest of the paperwork!

Catching the vintage festival is a ray of sunshine indeed, enjoy it!
 

[RAT900]

Have fun at Barber...nice way to take a break

electric typewriters? I love time-warp communities

[KnightofNi]

holy shit, anniston.

that's a town i havne't heard about in over 15 years. I used to live outside of enterprise, went to school in new brockton.

glad to hear things are moving along.




also, war eagle!

[yamifixer]

Anybody that worships the "Bear" should be feared.

Congrats on the ray of light. Hopefully it is the light at the end of the tunnel

[pitbull]

holy crap..... I don't know how I missed this thread.


I can't even begin to imagine what it would be like to have to go through this.

I'm fairly certain I would not be handling it with the grace you've shown here.


my deepest condolences and most positive energy sent your way elyse

[Polpetta]

Carl and I have been away from the board for quite a little while. We are very sorry for your losses and are sending out positive thought and prayers your way. We are very sorry..