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Title: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 14, 2010, 07:38:27 PM
I had a big fight with the girlfriend.  Long story short, I locked her out and her cousin called the cops.  She came back with them, and it ended with me going to stay at my sister's for the night and she was going to stay at the apartment.  They didn't want me to come back until the next day when things had cooled down.  So I started driving to my sisters and saw from my cell that she was responding to craigslist personal ads asking guys to come over with some pot.  I put a program on her iphone that sends me any txts or emails she gets (since she got me fired behind my back, I wanted to be privy to anything else going on).  The program doesn't always catch everything though.  I could see she sent the guy a couple texts, but seemed to end it when he said he didn't have any pot.  I turned the car around anyway, because why the hell should I be the one to have to go stay somewhere while she stays home and screws some guy?  I called the police back and they came to talk to me outside the apartment.  I explained what she was doing, and gave them a better idea of what's been going on.  The cop said I should put all her stuff out the first chance I get, because she could get a false restraining order and I'd have to leave and pay rent while she stayed there for 3 months.  It ended with me deciding to go back to my sister's because it seemed like she quit emailing the craigslist people, and must have just went to sleep.

So I started heading back and I got a txt from her that someone just gave her some good advice.  I also noticed none of the texts she sent to me showed up on the program.  I just had to know if someone was there in my house with her.  I turned around again, and went up to the back door to listen.  I heard her voice talking so I thought it was her on the phone...  but then I heard a guy's voice.  A warm feeling of rage swept over my entire body.   I barged in and there was some dude with a six pack sitting at the kitchen table with her.  She was looking down smiling the whole time.  

Can you make the beast with two backsing imagine?  I said to the guy “I want you to leave, this is my home”.  I walked him out the front door.  I walked back to the kitchen and there she was smiling.  I asked her for her key.  She said she didn't know where it was.  I eventually found it and took it along with the cell phone I let her use.  I asked her to leave and she refused.  She said I was going to be arrested because the cop said he would lock me up if I came back.  I told her I didn't care, and I physically picked her up and started dragging her out the door.  She said she was going to make sure she would have bruises to show the cops.  She even grabbed a butcher knife at one point, presumably to incite a fight.   After much struggling I eventually got her out.

I heard nothing from her or the police until maybe 2 hours later.  They called me and said she went to Walgreens to use the payphone to try and get me put in jail, but they arrested her instead for disturbing the peace.  They said she'll be out sometime the next day - at least there was something good that happened that night.  I spent from 2am to 7am moving every bit of her stuff out to the curb.  I saw people taking stuff of hers at one point during the next day, so I called the police again and asked if I'm responsible and if I would get in trouble.  He said there's nothing legally wrong at all, and if she sued me I would probably win since she was arrested.  So by the time she arrived with her 60yr old ex boyfriend, most of her stuff was gone.  Most of her clothes and shoes, end tables, 6 nice dining room chairs, two nice desks, a dresser, lots of kids toys (I felt bad about that â€" but I had to have all of her stuff out according to the cop).  

So that should be the end of this relationship.  It may sound very harsh that I put all her stuff out, and I almost feel bad â€" but some things I haven't mentioned yet is that she cheated on me with the 60yr old like 5 times.  She also screwed my boss after she got me fired.  Yes, it's clear I should have left a long time ago, but it's hard to say no to a very attractive 20 year old when you're 33.  I haven't been in a relationship since the whole nun fiasco.  So really it's been 5 years since I've been in a relationship I've wanted to be in.  I've left girls for a hell of a lot less than what she's done to me, I was desperate, and the sex was good.

I drove the monster 3 hours away to my friend's house in the rain and 40 degree weather, which is where I'm at now.  

Another crazy story to add to my book.  :(

I'm bummed out.   My apartment is totally empty, I lost my 60k/yr job, and the best friend who was my boss.  The girlfriend has done horrible things to me, but for some odd reason she also happened to be the most affectionate that I've ever had.

It's a lot to take in.




Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 14, 2010, 07:44:51 PM
Quote from: SacDuc on March 14, 2010, 07:43:35 PM
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHHAHAHAHAHAHA . . . *gasp* . . . HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA.

Whew. That's funny.



Why is that funny?  I never know with you....
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Oldfisti on March 14, 2010, 07:45:53 PM
 [clap]


Good riddance.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: teddy037.2 on March 14, 2010, 07:54:28 PM
wow...




:-[
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: il d00d on March 14, 2010, 08:06:28 PM
Good job... now keep her out.

On a side note, is there any way we can implement a rule where Sac and Piller can both post to the board, but not in the same thread?  Nothing against either of you, but it seems to be a case of you guys mixing like oil and whatever causes oil to explode.  Again, you're both fine gents in your own way, just not so fine in successive posts...
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 14, 2010, 08:07:50 PM
Quote from: il d00d on March 14, 2010, 08:06:28 PM
Good job... now keep her out.

On a side note, is there any way we can implement a rule where Sac and Piller can both post to the board, but not in the same thread?  Nothing against either of you, but it seems to be a case of you guys mixing like oil and whatever causes oil to explode.  Again, you're both fine gents in your own way, just not so fine in successive posts...

I would like to know where his animosity for me comes from.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: il d00d on March 14, 2010, 08:10:02 PM
I'm not taking sides, just offering an objective observation...
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on March 14, 2010, 08:10:57 PM
Quote from: Piller on March 14, 2010, 08:07:50 PM
I would like to know where his animosity for me comes from.

Uh, most likely the dog thread man.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 14, 2010, 08:13:18 PM
It goes back further I think.  (besides, the dog was for the GF - the trifling ho didn't want to take care of it)

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: hbliam on March 14, 2010, 08:36:38 PM
You need professional help.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Goat_Herder on March 14, 2010, 09:01:45 PM
I totally missed out on responding to the dog adoption thread.  Let's see how fast this one gets locked up.  LOL

[popcorn]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Goat_Herder on March 14, 2010, 09:02:44 PM
BTW, sorry to hear about your GF, Pillar.  It seems like drama just follows you around
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 14, 2010, 09:06:54 PM
case in point is this thread.

but, thanks.  I'm pretty bummed out.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: He Man on March 14, 2010, 09:09:13 PM
I dont feel sorry for you. Im glad it took all this shit for you to finnaly throw the curb at her.

Its one thing if the sex is good and you dont really care about her. just keep your self protected. But if you do, it makes it harder. but i guess its a difference of how people view things. i would of sent her packing via express a long time ago.

CONGRATS.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Ddan on March 15, 2010, 01:14:43 AM
Piller, not to be an ass, but it's not that drama follows you. For whatever reason you throw yourself into the sketchiest of situations, repeatedly, and then blame everyone around you when the shit is in the fan.  According to your tales, you've taken steps to pull yourself up from the mire.  It's not time to stop yet.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: superjohn on March 15, 2010, 03:00:30 AM
Maybe not the best execution, but certainly the best move in getting rid of the girlfriend. Now, to avoid further complications, you're going to need to post when you find a prospective replacement just in case you've overlooked something because she's hot.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 15, 2010, 03:57:27 AM
Quote from: Dan on March 15, 2010, 01:14:43 AM
Piller, not to be an ass, but it's not that drama follows you. For whatever reason you throw yourself into the sketchiest of situations, repeatedly, and then blame everyone around you when the shit is in the fan.  According to your tales, you've taken steps to pull yourself up from the mire.  It's not time to stop yet.

no, I know.  I take the blame.  It doesn't mean it doesn't suck.  I had someone bringig this girl to my apartment all the time and then asking me to hook up with her and take her off his hands all the time.  It was definitely a bad decision, but it barely took any effort to hook up with her. My addictive personality was kicked into high gear at that point.

I've really been doing well, I think I've come a long way in the past 3 years.  Having a hot young girl paraded around in front of me definitely wasn't helpful. 
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Statler on March 15, 2010, 03:59:35 AM
People make their own luck.  

And just for more thread usement....whose name is on the apartment  lease, in what state do you live, and under what circumstances did you alter her phone?
[popcorn]



Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 15, 2010, 04:21:05 AM
It was my own phone and my plan. I asked a few cops about it before she started using it.

What state do you live in?  my name only was on the lease, and a cop advised me to move her stuff to the curb, so she couldn't make me leave and pay rent for her to stay there.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 15, 2010, 04:34:26 AM
I see a pattern developing here.

It's one where the situations you put yourself into are caused by you thinking with the wrong head.

The make the beast with two backsing you're getting is rarely worth the make the beast with two backsing you're gonna take.

Give that some thought.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ZLTFUL on March 15, 2010, 04:38:48 AM
I actually had to go get a bowl of cereal to read this thread.  [popcorn]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: cyrus buelton on March 15, 2010, 04:43:45 AM
You need an agent, a manager, and someone that can write a movie.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 15, 2010, 04:45:04 AM
Quote from: cyrus buelton on March 15, 2010, 04:43:45 AM
You need an agent, a manager, and someone that can write a movie.


Too bad HST is dead.

He'd be perfect for the role.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 15, 2010, 04:55:21 AM
Yeah, I know, I know.

Who's hst?
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: muskrat on March 15, 2010, 05:20:23 AM
no woman is worth going to jail for, especially a girlfriend.  stop dating 20 something girls, they have yet to get it all out of their system.   
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: fastwin on March 15, 2010, 05:28:09 AM
Gonzo journalism for sure! Man, just be glad she's gone. After the dog fiasco (never mind the nun story... way too early for that!) she obviously was just a bad news/trouble magnet and you were attracted. I'm sure you felt bad about her stuff disappearing but bad karma has a way of coming back with a vengeance. Karma boomerang! Hope that's the end of it and she and the boyfriend aren't up to causing you more misery "to get even".

No offense ladies but girlfriends (and boyfriends) and Westie pups are like buses, another comes along in 20 minutes. Be more selective and slow WAY down next time before you choose either a dog or a girlfriend. Bad juju, replace with good juju. [thumbsup]

HST: Hunter S. Thompson... see gonzo journalism. ;D You should read Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas, I think it would give your life some balance. [laugh]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Bun-bun on March 15, 2010, 05:28:25 AM
http://www.advrider.com/forums/showthread.php?t=527631 (http://www.advrider.com/forums/showthread.php?t=527631)

You are not alone.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: sbrguy on March 15, 2010, 05:57:01 AM
ok so what it the nun story? if its anything like this story its got to be an intersting read. 

that and you really should learn to write a book, because it sounds like you have a bunch of interesting stories that sound stranger than fiction.

i have to give you credit though, many people go through life with no exciting events or good stories to tell.  Look on the positive side, things worked out, and you have an interesting story to tell people, you will look back on this event in years and literally laugh at the situation.  You are living an exciting life, be thankful that you are.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: metallimonster on March 15, 2010, 05:58:17 AM
Quote from: ducpainter on March 15, 2010, 04:34:26 AM
The make the beast with two backsing you're getting is rarely worth the make the beast with two backsing you're gonna take.


Man truer words have not been spoken.

I feel for you dude, its really hard to give up someone who is hot and good in bed.  Took me a year to realize I was waaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy better off without my ex and now I am in the best relationship of my life and getting ready to ask her to marry me. Just get rid of her and take it one day at a time.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: DCXCV on March 15, 2010, 06:43:51 AM
Hot 20ish yr old with a 60 yr old ex bf that she cheats on you with?  That sounds like a train wreck with all sorts of issues.  Don't try to date any more of those.  They're not dateable. 

That "making your own luck" comment certainly applies.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Statler on March 15, 2010, 06:58:36 AM
different states have very different landlord tenant laws and very different privacy laws.  Do not take legal advice from police on these issues as they are frequently incorrect although well intentioned.  I have had several successfull suits where the person from whom my client got a monetary award was doing what police said in terms of eviction, and one where the police escorted the guy to break into what they said was a marital home but was not...etc.etc.


wow do you ever set yourself up for a beating.  Hopefully there won't be any followup on this particular drama.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 15, 2010, 07:02:45 AM
Quote from: il d00d on March 14, 2010, 08:06:28 PM
Good job... now keep her out.

On a side note, is there any way we can implement a rule where Sac and Piller can both post to the board, but not in the same thread?  Nothing against either of you, but it seems to be a case of you guys mixing like oil and whatever causes oil to explode.  Again, you're both fine gents in your own way, just not so fine in successive posts...

I would like to take this opportunity to point out to ducpainter just what a good boy I am being.

;D

sac
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 15, 2010, 07:05:11 AM
Quote from: SacDuc on March 15, 2010, 07:02:45 AM
I would like to take this opportunity to point out to ducpainter just what a good boy I am being.

;D

sac
noted.... ;)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:28:19 AM
I was in an arranged marriage to an ex nun.  I just got off heroin and I was very trippy from the African hallucinagen that got me clean.  I convinced a documentarian to make a documentary about the African hallucinagen.  It's called "i'm dangerous with love".  It's gonzo journalism I think, it was very subjective.

I do enjoy drama, but not so much anymore.  I just wanna feed the rabbits nowadays.  I had crazier stories before the whole nun thing.  Thank god the old forum was shut down along with all of my posts.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: cyrus buelton on March 15, 2010, 07:34:02 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:28:19 AM
I was in an arranged marriage to an ex nun. 

Wow.


That's all I got.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 15, 2010, 07:36:53 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:28:19 AM
I was in an arranged marriage to an ex nun.  I just got off heroin and I was very trippy from the African hallucinagen that got me clean.  I convinced a documentarian to make a documentary about the African hallucinagen.  It's called "i'm dangerous with love".  It's gonzo journalism I think, it was very subjective.

I do enjoy drama, but not so much anymore.  I just wanna feed the rabbits nowadays.  I had crazier stories before the whole nun thing.  Thank god the old forum was shut down along with all of my posts.
They're still there...

it would take some digging to find them though.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:46:00 AM
Let's not and say we did.

I'm thinking of dropping piller altogether and using a different name
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 15, 2010, 07:47:51 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:46:00 AM
Let's not and say we did.

I'm thinking of dropping piller altogether and using a different name
You can change your screen name in your profile.

I'll add that you should never be ashamed of who you are.

You can always change.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Statler on March 15, 2010, 07:48:45 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:46:00 AM
Let's not and say we did.

I'm thinking of dropping piller altogether and using a different name

do we still get the bedtime stories then?  tell us another...tell us another.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:49:33 AM
Quote from: metallimonster on March 15, 2010, 05:58:17 AM

Man truer words have not been spoken.

I feel for you dude, its really hard to give up someone who is hot and good in bed.  Took me a year to realize I was waaaaaaayyyyyyyyyy better off without my ex and now I am in the best relationship of my life and getting ready to ask her to marry me. Just get rid of her and take it one day at a time.


yes, it can be very hard to do.  It seems like the worse the relationship is, the better the sex is.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: sbrguy on March 15, 2010, 08:37:38 AM
that is sometimes true and sometimes not true.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: CDawg on March 15, 2010, 11:24:34 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:28:19 AM
I was in an arranged marriage to an ex nun.  I just got off heroin and I was very trippy from the African hallucinagen that got me clean

I am at a lost for words.

Here's a link for the ref: article
http://www.michelnegroponte.com/imdangerouswithlove.html (http://www.michelnegroponte.com/imdangerouswithlove.html)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: fastwin on March 15, 2010, 11:38:45 AM
I'm not looking. I say leave the man in peace.  [beer]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: brimo on March 15, 2010, 06:31:27 PM
I reckon this guy is the "NOS" guy going by another name.
http://www.gixxer.com/forums/showthread.php?t=226570 (http://www.gixxer.com/forums/showthread.php?t=226570)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ZLTFUL on March 16, 2010, 03:49:02 AM
^ You obviously are relatively "new" to the DMF...Piller's exploits were the thing of legend on TOB. His weirdness predates the NOS guy by quite some time.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 16, 2010, 03:54:18 AM
Thanks
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducducgooseme on March 16, 2010, 04:39:55 AM
Piller, good luck with everything man.  The most important thing is you are drug free...  women come and go.  stay clean and positive on life.  If you ever are ina mood for a Colorado ride, give me a shout
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: zooom on March 16, 2010, 05:11:19 AM
the crazier they are...the better the sex...

so go and make the beast with two backs someone boring!...you might have a better relationship. ( but don't go so far as to the "Lars and the Real Doll" level!)

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ZLTFUL on March 16, 2010, 05:35:29 AM
Quote from: ducducgooseme on March 16, 2010, 04:39:55 AM
Piller, good luck with everything man.  The most important thing is you are drug free...  women come and go.  stay clean and positive on life.  If you ever are ina mood for a Colorado ride, give me a shout

I am going to + 11ty Billion this one.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: herm on March 16, 2010, 05:51:11 AM
one of the best "pillar stories" ever!!

- please dont change your name
- please continue to share these crazy stories with us (even if you gotta make them up)

seriously though, sounds like you are better off without the tramp. take those pilot skills and get a job with an oil company so you can start racking up the hours. once you pass the magic number (is it still around 2500?) then you can fly for almost anyone.

or better yet, you can get a job flying helitankers on wildland fires!
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: swampduc on March 16, 2010, 07:03:10 AM
Quote from: ducducgooseme on March 16, 2010, 04:39:55 AM
Piller, good luck with everything man.  The most important thing is you are drug free...  women come and go.  stay clean and positive on life.  If you ever are ina mood for a Colorado ride, give me a shout
+1 to everything here, except the CO part. But if you ever happen to be down in Louisiana, give me a shout.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Setsukosan on March 16, 2010, 07:06:42 AM
I feel for you. I have been cheated on multiple times. It sucks, a lot. Never gets any easier either.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Travman on March 16, 2010, 07:54:17 AM
So how did she manage to get you fired?
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: duck45 on March 16, 2010, 08:45:52 AM
Well it is real easy for people to give advice about what to do with  someone's life.
But i will give it a try, as I have been in a similar place as you are with my ex wife.
And it cost me alot of money in the big D.
And as you have ,I came to the forums to find an answer and a direction to go to.
And all in all it helps to just get it off your chest and admit your part in the whole thing.
THE BEST THING IS TO RIDE ALOT AND CLEAR YOUR MIND.
But remember your bike is a Ducati and woman are attracted to it and not you, they think
all ducati's cost 30k and you have money.
So stay away from the bars girls and just ride with your friends and have fun.
you will meet someone that is right for you. i did and she did not like the 749 I had .

Good Luck!!
Jayb    [thumbsup]


Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: whackie on March 16, 2010, 05:17:38 PM
Quote from: muskrat on March 15, 2010, 05:20:23 AM
no woman is worth going to jail for, especially a girlfriend.  stop dating 20 something girls, they have yet to get it all out of their system.   

some of the best advice i've read in this thread.

i kinda went through that stuff. after a div, i went through several bad relationships. was all my fault til i came to realize what i really wanted. but until u find someone that wants the same thing, it's always going to be a fight. lower 20's have trouble written all over them. some ppl get it out as soon as mid 20's, but it's diff w/ everyone.

just ride and have fun on your own terms.

nvrmd women. we know how to make the beast with two backs up guys, just depends if we want to be nice.... :-X
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: duc996 on March 16, 2010, 11:23:51 PM
Sorry about your experience there piller,it's a new day! Move on and stay away from people like that.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: rockaduc on March 17, 2010, 12:42:42 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 15, 2010, 07:28:19 AM
I was in an arranged marriage to an ex nun.  I just got off heroin and I was very trippy from the African hallucinagen that got me clean. 

Oh my...words fail me...
<collect myself>
Glad you have some peace for the time being.  Good luck finding someone who is a better match for you.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 17, 2010, 07:12:02 AM
I rode the bike to a friends house for a few days a couple hours away in the rain to get away.  I just came back to the empty, echoey apartmet and I was hellas bummed out.  Her cigarettes were on the table, the spaghetti she made was still inthe stove, the dog stuff strewn across the floor.  So I called my friend to hang out and he said he was leaving that night for kentucy.  He wanted to Have a road trip and go somewhere for no reason.  So I came along.  We stopped over in Santa claus indiana, where it's christmas every day.  Weird..  Christmas trees, wreathes and Christmas lights on all the buildings.  I'm staying in santa's lodge.

I just got a "miss you" email from her.  Good thing I got away.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Goat_Herder on March 17, 2010, 07:22:36 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 07:12:02 AM
I just got a "miss you" email from her.  Good thing I got away.
JUST SAY NO TO CRACK!
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: He Man on March 17, 2010, 07:51:45 AM
im addicted to crack. only clean crack though. not the stuff you get off the streets.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: CDawg on March 17, 2010, 08:07:40 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 07:12:02 AM
I just got a "miss you" email from her.  Good thing I got away.

Run away!!!  Nothing good can come of getting back in touch.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: fastwin on March 17, 2010, 08:45:11 AM
Quote from: CDawg on March 17, 2010, 08:07:40 AM
Run away!!!  Nothing good can come of getting back in touch.

Listen to the man! DO NOT fall for the "Honey, I'm so sorry/let's get back together/what was I thinking?/I'll never get you fired again... I promise" bullshit!!! If we catch even a hint of that I am going to gather everyone who has posted on this thread and we will ride day and night cross country. We will find you, throw her out... again and pregnant dog slap you hard all the way into the next reality!! Help me here people! He may be falling into the "Oh, my place is so lonely, quiet and empty... what have I done?" phase of break up. Don't go there. You did the right thing, continue to do so. Man up, keep moving forward. You are worth it, she is not. Delete anything sent by her immediately, don't open anything. Be the rock. You got support here bro', don't forget that. [thumbsup]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Oldfisti on March 17, 2010, 09:21:00 AM
Quote from: fastwin on March 17, 2010, 08:45:11 AM
Listen to the man! DO NOT fall for the "Honey, I'm so sorry/let's get back together/what was I thinking?/I'll never get you fired again... I promise" bullshit!!! If we catch even a hint of that I am going to gather everyone who has posted on this thread and we will ride day and night cross country. We will find you, throw her out... again and pregnant dog slap you hard all the way into the next reality!! Help me here people! He may be falling into the "Oh, my place is so lonely, quiet and empty... what have I done?" phase of break up. Don't go there. You did the right thing, continue to do so. Man up, keep moving forward. You are worth it, she is not. Delete anything sent by her immediately, don't open anything. Be the rock. You got support here bro', don't forget that. [thumbsup]


+11tyb!


Clean your apartment when you get back and do a little redecorating. Nothing fancy just make it comfortable and to your taste so you feel at home when you're there.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: fastwin on March 17, 2010, 09:31:04 AM
Quote from: SacDuc on March 17, 2010, 08:51:41 AM

She sounded sincere, every one deserves a second chance. Where would you be in life if people didn't give you a second chance? So consider giving her a chance to at least right her wrongs. She needs you. Don't turn away from that. You may be passing up a chance to be truly happy. You'll never know unless you give it a try.

sac

You're just being evil now! [laugh] [laugh] [laugh]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: He Man on March 17, 2010, 09:31:33 AM
Quote from: SacDuc on March 17, 2010, 08:51:41 AM

She sounded sincere, every one deserves a second chance. Where would you be in life if people didn't give you a second chance? So consider giving her a chance to at least right her wrongs. She needs you. Don't turn away from that. You may be passing up a chance to be truly happy. You'll never know unless you give it a try.

sac


your seriously smoking crack right?
You may just be sarcastic....but just in case your not, i just have to ask cause this is the internet and i dont know ho your saying and all...but

Your not make the beast with two backsing serious right?

RUN AWAYYYY!!!!
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: metallimonster on March 17, 2010, 09:53:03 AM
Wow dude, you really are a dickhead aren't you?

Maybe Pillar hasn't made the best choices and you don't agree with him and I guess had some sort of fight with him but there is 5 pages of people that feel for this dude and are trying to help him out.  Going through something like this is not easy and getting any sort of support really makes it easier. I for one will always take the time to say something about my past experiences whether it be this or someone who has a familly member with cancer.  It's no different.  I went through something similar and if it wasn't for good friends (yes that means support from some people on here) I don't know if I would have made it through without going crazy. This guy is already fighting a battle with addiction and you want to make the beast with two backsing kick him while he's down?

We get the point that you don't give a make the beast with two backs but jesus dude, don't post on this thread. I am really tired of reading your bullshit. I don't know you and for the most part think you're pretty funny but leave the guy alone.  You're just coming off as desperate to start shit with Pillar and he is not even responding to you.  Find something better to do.  It's getting a little douchey.

I'll take my banning for directly attacking someone even though you passive aggresively did the same thing with a whole thread about people's stupid shit.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducducgooseme on March 17, 2010, 10:03:40 AM
+1


Hey Nate...can you please lock this POS thread?
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: swampduc on March 17, 2010, 10:14:57 AM
Well said, mm.
Piller, best of luck man. Glad you went on that trip.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 17, 2010, 10:16:06 AM
Quote from: metallimonster on March 17, 2010, 09:53:03 AM
Wow dude, you really are a dickhead aren't you?

Maybe Pillar hasn't made the best choices and you don't agree with him and I guess had some sort of fight with him but there is 5 pages of people that feel for this dude and are trying to help him out.  Going through something like this is not easy and getting any sort of support really makes it easier. I for one will always take the time to say something about my past experiences whether it be this or someone who has a familly member with cancer.  It's no different.  I went through something similar and if it wasn't for good friends (yes that means support from some people on here) I don't know if I would have made it through without going crazy. This guy is already fighting a battle with addiction and you want to make the beast with two backsing kick him while he's down?

We get the point that you don't give a make the beast with two backs but jesus dude, don't post on this thread. I am really tired of reading your bullshit. I don't know you and for the most part think you're pretty funny but leave the guy alone.  You're just coming off as desperate to start shit with Pillar and he is not even responding to you.  Find something better to do.  It's getting a little douchey.

I'll take my banning for directly attacking someone even though you passive aggresively did the same thing with a whole thread about people's stupid shit.


Wow. Okay dude. I was just trying to be funny. I'll delete the posts.

sac

/happy?
//or is there anything else I can do?
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: metallimonster on March 17, 2010, 10:19:10 AM
Trying to be funny, really?  Come on dude don't bullshit yourself?

No, don't delete the posts you should be proud of the things you say.  I know I am (usually).

Like I said, most of the time I find you funny but this guy didn't need to be punched in the gut more than he already has been.  That is all.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:41:54 AM
I was obviously a joke.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: fastwin on March 17, 2010, 10:47:47 AM
Sure there's history here but I took it as a joke. Just sarcasm to me. Let's move on and just back up Piller when he needs it... or anyone else for that matter. Just trying to be human here for a change.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 17, 2010, 10:48:46 AM
Quote from: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:41:54 AM
It was obviously a joke.

Apparently not obvious enough. Perhaps I should have used more cliches, or added a  :-* or two in there. Shrug.


Piller here is some serious advice: Start teaching yourself to recognize chaotic situations and people. When you can recognize the impending chaos start trying to back away from it instead of being attracted to it. This will be a long process. At the end of it awaits you a stable life which you have direct control over. You'll need help. From stable friends. You will find these people horrifically boring at first. And they will be. But the day they save your ass will be a valuable lesson.

sac

/now tell your mom to quit yelling at me
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Grampa on March 17, 2010, 10:55:29 AM
what I heard was


drama bla yak (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=O6oITCxMEmE#normal)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 17, 2010, 10:56:49 AM
Don't lock the thread because of sac pls.  No worries.


I'm glad I went on the trip.  I'm not caving, haven't talked to her.  She couldve caught me in a moment of weakness by breaking in while I'm asleep like she's done before.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: metallimonster on March 17, 2010, 10:57:25 AM
I guess I should apologize but Pillar asking if he should change is name and the comments led me to believe you weren't joking. Plus, I got the idea that there was history and maybe there was "beef" (can't believe I used that word) between you two.

Typically I don't need stupid smileys to tell me when someone is being sarcastic.

That's on me.  I was just trying to stick up for someone because I had someone stick up for me in the same situation and it meant a lot.

My bad Sacduc, I apologize.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:59:57 AM
Quote from: fastwin on March 17, 2010, 10:47:47 AM
just back up Piller when he needs it...

Come on people. How many times do we need to "back up" piller. I'm guessing 50% of the stuff he says is BS and the other 50 we warned him against and he did anyway. Some people just can't be helped. For you guys to get sucked back in to his "life" is laughable.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducatiz on March 17, 2010, 11:06:41 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 07:12:02 AM
I just got a "miss you" email from her.  Good thing I got away.

Invite her for a meeting at a hotel room, tell her it is a "safe" place for you two.  Tell her it will be dark and to call you when she gets there for the room #.

Post on Craigslist that free sex is available to the first reply.  Tell them to get a room at that hotel and get their room #.

When she shows up and calls, give her that room #.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducatiz on March 17, 2010, 11:07:37 AM
Quote from: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:41:54 AM
I was obviously a joke.

and you never stopped being one....   [evil]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on March 17, 2010, 11:08:03 AM
Quote from: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:41:54 AM
I was obviously a joke.

+1

Quote from: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:59:57 AM
Come on people. How many times do we need to "back up" piller. I'm guessing 50% of the stuff he says is BS and the other 50 we warned him against and he did anyway.

Also +1.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 11:13:27 AM
Quote from: ducatiz on March 17, 2010, 11:07:37 AM
and you never stopped being one....   [evil]

Damn i!
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 17, 2010, 11:18:27 AM
Quote from: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:59:57 AM
Come on people. How many times do we need to "back up" piller. I'm guessing 50% of the stuff he says is BS and the other 50 we warned him against and he did anyway. Some people just can't be helped. For you guys to get sucked back in to his "life" is laughable.




I think your estimate is a bit low.  ;)

sac
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: CDawg on March 17, 2010, 11:34:00 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 10:56:49 AM
...She couldve caught me in a moment of weakness by breaking in while I'm asleep like she's done before.

That's messed up and scary....
Although if she's not living there anymore, you could call the authorities are report her for breaking and entering.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 17, 2010, 12:02:57 PM
Quote from: CDawg on March 17, 2010, 11:34:00 AM
That's messed up and scary....
Although if she's not living there anymore, you could call the authorities are report her for breaking and entering.

Ahem.

Quote from: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:59:57 AM
Come on people. How many times do we need to "back up" piller. I'm guessing 50% of the stuff he says is BS and the other 50 we warned him against and he did anyway. Some people just can't be helped. For you guys to get sucked back in to his "life" is laughable.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Ddan on March 17, 2010, 12:12:33 PM
Quote from: CDawg on March 17, 2010, 11:34:00 AM
That's messed up and scary....
Although if she's not living there anymore, you could call the authorities are report her for breaking and entering.
After you get a little     ;D


Just in case, I'm kidding.  Joking.  Sarcasting.    [thumbsup]





Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Triple J on March 17, 2010, 12:17:39 PM
Quote from: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 10:59:57 AM
Come on people. How many times do we need to "back up" piller. I'm guessing 50% of the stuff he says is BS and the other 50 we warned him against and he did anyway. Some people just can't be helped. For you guys to get sucked back in to his "life" is laughable.



+3, or whatever it is up to now.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: whackie on March 17, 2010, 12:18:08 PM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 10:56:49 AM
Don't lock the thread because of sac pls.  No worries.


I'm glad I went on the trip.  I'm not caving, haven't talked to her.  She couldve caught me in a moment of weakness by breaking in while I'm asleep like she's done before.

if u haven't changed the locks on the place, i would do so asap....
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 17, 2010, 12:23:54 PM
Hello Piller.....I see you haven't changed much, or at all for that matter...

in that regard clearly the years have been unkind

I am not quite sure I want to or have the energy to validate your Drama Show with any concerted focus...

but you have always been the best dunking clown

I may get back to you...I may not
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Grampa on March 17, 2010, 12:37:58 PM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 17, 2010, 12:23:54 PM

but you have always been the best dunking clown

I may get back to you...I may not

no way (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HrT_bF8ckK8#vhq)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 17, 2010, 12:44:10 PM
Well it definitely does help to read the supportive stuff and advice people give.  It helps when so many people remind you of what the right thing to do is, and why.  I think staying away from the area altogether and not communicating at all is the best way to go.  

From experience it's always better to set yourself up to succeed using every possible tool rather than rely just on willpower.  I think I've learned some valuable lessons from overcoming the drug addiction and smoking.

Sure I've done dumb stuff in the past, but I do listen to advice and have achieved some good things since the days in the old forum.  I really haven't met anyone in the area because I moved with her and spent all my time with her, so the forum is a big influence for the time being when it comes to social support.

Thanks again for the positive advice and support.  It was a bad relationship but still not easy.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 17, 2010, 12:46:48 PM
I think it's time we initiated separate NMC membership requirements.

Anyone who's panties are in a wad...

or easily get in a wad...

should not read anything in NMC or post in NMC.

This is the internet...

Your mothers all watched General Hospital to get this much entertainment...

now they pay good money for cable.

Lighten up people.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: CDawg on March 17, 2010, 12:58:51 PM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 12:44:10 PM
From experience it's always better to set yourself up to succeed using every possible tool rather than rely just on willpower.  

You could set up a rule in your email inbox to automatically set all emails from her to spam/delete
You could ask the phone company to block all calls/SMS from her phone numbers.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 17, 2010, 01:02:54 PM
Done and done
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: acalles on March 17, 2010, 01:32:58 PM
Quote from: cyrus buelton on March 15, 2010, 07:34:02 AM
Wow.


That's all I got.

(http://www.newgrounds.com/bbs/user_images/pics/1/11633000/ngbbs45ba9ffba803a.jpg)

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: herm on March 17, 2010, 04:45:51 PM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 12:44:10 PM
Well it definitely does help to read the supportive stuff and advice people give.  It helps when so many people remind you of what the right thing to do is, and why.  I think staying away from the area altogether and not communicating at all is the best way to go......<snip>

best idea yet!
you have no job to hold you back.
sell everything.
buy an adventure/touring bike
go on this trip (http://www.edelweissbike.com/news/Information_1%20ENGL-USD.htm)
when/if you come back, relocate.

and to everyone who is being negative about this thread...WTF are you reading it. its the internet! this is much more interesting than HeMans constant pregnant doging about the latest traffic ticket, or the 11ty-billionth post about bacon, or IZ's latest IZ_ picture (although the Allycat vs. Herb saga still has it beat.)

especially those of you who have experienced Pillers life before (at least vicariously...) if you think he is full of it/wasting your precious time/bandwidth/whatever....DONT READ THE THREAD!

/end rant
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 05:23:58 PM
Quote from: herm (not herb) on March 17, 2010, 04:45:51 PM
(although the Allycat vs. Herb saga still has it beat.)



I got banned during that.  :-X
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: herm on March 17, 2010, 05:48:44 PM
Quote from: hbliam on March 17, 2010, 05:23:58 PM
I got banned during that.  :-X
I didn't (not sure how...)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducatiz on March 17, 2010, 05:50:59 PM
Quote from: ducatiz on March 17, 2010, 11:06:41 AM
Invite her for a meeting at a hotel room, tell her it is a "safe" place for you two.  Tell her it will be dark and to call you when she gets there for the room #.

Post on Craigslist that free sex is available to the first reply.  Tell them to get a room at that hotel and get their room #.

When she shows up and calls, give her that room #.



+1
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 17, 2010, 06:10:44 PM
Ducatiz, she would thank me for that.  

I'm so bummed.  Breaking up really really sucks.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducatiz on March 17, 2010, 06:15:04 PM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 06:10:44 PM
Ducatiz, she would thank me for that.  

I'm so bummed.  Breaking up really really sucks.


not if you hook her up with this guy

(http://besthike.files.wordpress.com/2009/01/fat-man.jpg)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 17, 2010, 06:46:39 PM
Yes, in a perfect world.

But she can have any guy she wants.  In minutes shell have a guy from craigslist over.  It's not fair that it's that easy for women.  I have to sit here knowing she's going to be doing that.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: whackie on March 17, 2010, 07:05:30 PM
Quote from: Piller on March 17, 2010, 06:46:39 PM
Yes, in a perfect world.

But she can have any guy she wants.  In minutes shell have a guy from craigslist over.  It's not fair that it's that easy for women.  I have to sit here knowing she's going to be doing that.



do u really want to be w/ a girl that randomly has strange guys over. think about it that way. to me that's just freaky, weird, and straight up dangerous. it's like she wants to hang out w/ the trash of the trash.

i would think CL guys consist of predators, guys just looking to get lucky at anyone's expense.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on March 17, 2010, 07:30:12 PM
Quote from: whackie on March 17, 2010, 07:05:30 PM
i would think CL guys consist of predators, guys just looking to get lucky at anyone's expense.

That would be anywhere, really.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: sbrguy on March 17, 2010, 08:26:42 PM
this is true
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 17, 2010, 10:18:38 PM
Quote from: MrIncredible on March 17, 2010, 07:30:12 PM
That would be anywhere, really.


Bingo!!!  and with modern technology at-hand they would even send you video streaming of themselves riding on your borrowed mount.

I maintain that if most women really knew just half of what went on in our heads,, they would all be fully committed lesbians and the species would fail
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Ddan on March 18, 2010, 12:23:22 AM
They don't want to know.  I tried to explain it to a girl I was dating, she just said I was weird.  I couldn't argue that but she refused to believe that the guy who helped her change her tire, or was so kind at the grocery store was really wondering about her tits.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Mojo S2R on March 18, 2010, 01:02:29 AM
Have her watch episodes of "The Man Show" (original series with Jimmy Kimmel and Adam Carolla) and she'll believe.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 18, 2010, 02:05:25 AM
Quote from: Mojo S2R on March 18, 2010, 01:02:29 AM
Have her watch episodes of "The Man Show" (original series with Jimmy Kimmel and Adam Carolla) and she'll believe.

Indeed...I believe that show sent more women to the other side than we dare imagine....Kimmel and Carolla were gender traitors revealing these things about us

Being recent to this site I should ask,,,,,Is it permissible to threadjack Piller's tortured mental extrusions?
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: GAAN on March 18, 2010, 02:27:30 AM
I suppose that would depend on if you believe it to be an actual event

or

a drug induced hallucination

Personally I dig piller

however, my opinion on his mentation would be that of a skeptic

I have limited exposure to addicts

but

a pretty solid behavior pattern I have witnessed is that they relapse

and a relapse in his participation here would indicate to me that he is relapsing in his addiction

now

where are we in that pattern of behavior?

are we a pastime of his when he is high or when he is cleaning up?

I dunno

but what I do know is that if he finds any solace here with his supporters and his detractors then he is more than welcome

and with that said

he is not special, he is subject to the same level of disrespect and cheerio pissing that the rest of us must endure to play here

and

like the rest of us he will either endure it gracefully, have tantrums and get banned, or <insert coping mechanism here>





Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: rgramjet on March 18, 2010, 02:29:03 AM
Extrusions or Excretions?





:-)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: The Architect on March 18, 2010, 02:31:28 AM
The Man Show Boy - Goes to Dinner (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K0cSh1EUM6I#normal)
Quote from: Mojo S2R on March 18, 2010, 01:02:29 AM
Have her watch episodes of "The Man Show" (original series with Jimmy Kimmel and Adam Carolla) and she'll believe.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 18, 2010, 02:40:31 AM
Quote from: Mother on March 18, 2010, 02:27:30 AM
I suppose that would depend on if you believe it to be an actual event

or

a drug induced hallucination

Personally I dig piller

however, my opinion on his mentation would be that of a skeptic

I have limited exposure to addicts

but

a pretty solid behavior pattern I have witnessed is that they relapse

and a relapse in his participation here would indicate to me that he is relapsing in his addiction

now

where are we in that pattern of behavior?

are we a pastime of his when he is high or when he is cleaning up?

I dunno

but what I do know is that if he finds any solace here with his supporters and his detractors then he is more than welcome

and with that said

he is not special, he is subject to the same level of disrespect and cheerio pissing that the rest of us must endure to play here

and

like the rest of us he will either endure it gracefully, have tantrums and get banned, or <insert coping mechanism here>







Got it...and you do pose the more existential question ....in the case of Piller...who's farking with whom?....

his extrusions and excretions (thank you rgramjet) fall far short of William S. Burrough's Naked Lunch but can help pass the time

and experience has shown me that even broken clocks are right twice in 24 hours
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: CDawg on March 18, 2010, 06:55:18 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 18, 2010, 02:40:31 AM
and experience has shown me that even broken clocks are right twice in 24 hours

Not if it is a digital clock.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 18, 2010, 07:03:27 AM
Look, i'm not high.  I just made a bad decision because the very hot 20yr old chick was thrown in my face.  I didn't actively go look for a crazy sugar baby. 

Hooking up with the wrong chick because of looks isn't the most difficult or crazy mistake to make.  It doesn't mean I'm inventing a story or on drugs.

Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 18, 2010, 07:17:21 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 18, 2010, 07:03:27 AM
Look, i'm not high.  I just made a bad decision because the very hot 20yr old chick was thrown in my face.  I didn't actively go look for a crazy sugar baby. 

Hooking up with the wrong chick because of looks isn't the most difficult or crazy mistake to make.  It doesn't mean I'm inventing a story or on drugs.




Got you fired
60 year old ex
Phone spyware
Craigslist drugs and sex hook up
breaking and entering
dumping her stuff on the curb
no mention what so ever of the supposed 2 year old child involved

Yep. Seems like the standard stuff.


sac

/[cough]bullshit[cough]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 18, 2010, 07:20:00 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 18, 2010, 07:03:27 AM
Look, i'm not high.  I just made a bad decision because the very hot 20yr old chick was thrown in my face.  I didn't actively go look for a crazy sugar baby. 

Hooking up with the wrong chick because of looks isn't the most difficult or crazy mistake to make.  It doesn't mean I'm inventing a story or on drugs.



Piller we used to have a saying...."this thread is worthless without pictures"

I might even become a fan of yours if you post up some snaps and provide accompanying text that describes in the most lurid prurient and exhaustive pornographic detail all the vile things she let you do to her....

but she has to be "hot" looking by normal (non-locked unit) standards
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: CDawg on March 18, 2010, 08:13:00 AM
This is the most fun I've had in a thread in a while
[popcorn]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: The Architect on March 18, 2010, 08:21:59 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 18, 2010, 07:20:00 AM
Piller we used to have a saying...."this thread is worthless without pictures"

I might even become a fan of yours if you post up some snaps and provide accompanying text that describes in the most lurid prurient and exhaustive pornographic detail all the vile things she let you do to her....

but she has to be "hot" looking by normal (non-locked unit) standards

Wait!  I've got to make some popcorn  [popcorn] and get a beer or two  [drink]. 
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 18, 2010, 08:40:16 AM
In all DMF seriousness though...this guy never comes to us with the front-end happy part of these emotional excursions to disaster....

we only get stuck listening to the sobbing in the wreckage part....this was going on forever at TOB....

he would certainly evoke more empathy and compassion if we could actually quantify and qualify the magnitude of the loss.....

the happier days are never shared for instance if maybe he related something like when he spooged 3 times straight in her (hopefully clean-shaven) armpit while he had his tongue so far up her posterior he was tickling the second turn of her transverse colon

now THAT would give me a solid sense of his loss...but again pictures of her....but ONLY if she is hot by human standards....if she is a lower-order primate I would rather not be made aware of that
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 18, 2010, 08:58:28 AM
Quote from: SacDuc on March 18, 2010, 07:17:21 AM

Got you fired
60 year old ex
Phone spyware
Craigslist drugs and sex hook up
breaking and entering
dumping her stuff on the curb
no mention what so ever of the supposed 2 year old child involved

Yep. Seems like the standard stuff.
sac

well, when you put it that way....

But the addiction was the girl.  I didn't need drugs, I had all the insanity and self destruction I could want.  Remember, I didn't pursue this girl, she went after me, and was brought into my home by someone trying to pawn her off on me...  I was general manager of a company, got my helicopter pilot license, was working out every single day, etc.  I was promoted twice in one year before this happened.  All the irrational behavior followed from a very similar but different kind of addiction...

It was awesome while it lasted though ;). I've got pictures but It would get me banned.    
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 18, 2010, 09:11:12 AM
Screw you guys.  You made me look at pictures and now I'm bummed out again.

Of course she was very hot, and the sex was probably the best of any girlfriend I've been with.  As you can imagine, she was a very sexual person. But the thing I miss most is she was very affectionate all the time.  Someone else would find it very smothering I'm sure, but I got very attached to it.   :-\

I'm not going to find a place to host pics, but ill email someone pics to post if they give me an email.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: herm on March 18, 2010, 09:36:20 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 18, 2010, 09:11:12 AM
Screw you guys.  You made me look at pictures and now I'm bummed out again.

Of course she was very hot, and the sex was probably the best of any girlfriend I've been with.  As you can imagine, she was a very sexual person. But the thing I miss most is she was very affectionate all the time.  Someone else would find it very smothering I'm sure, but I got very attached to it.   :-\

I'm not going to find a place to host pics,  ill email someone pics to post if they give me an email.

awsome! internet revenge.
prolly illegal though.. :-\
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 18, 2010, 09:36:57 AM
Piller, here's a simple question:

From your back ache during riding to your make the beast with two backsed up relationships to your drug addiction, has anything bad that has happened to you ever been your fault?

sac
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: herm on March 18, 2010, 09:38:47 AM
c'mon sac...
if you guys keep using him as a punching bag, he might take his great stories and go home.
where is the entertainment value in that?
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 18, 2010, 09:43:47 AM
Quote from: herm (not herb) on March 18, 2010, 09:38:47 AM
c'mon sac...
if you guys keep using him as a punching bag, he might take his great stories and go home.
where is the entertainment value in that?


Well, some of us find emotional torment more entertaining than piles of bullshit.  If he is going post up this crap on an internet forum then he is opening himself up to what stones we feel like casting. This isn't free make the beast with two backsing therapy here. I think my question is legitimate.

sac


/if you want good fiction that is on the whiny side read Dickens
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 18, 2010, 09:48:43 AM
did the "smothering affection" involve a lot of her sitting on your face and gassing?....come on help me here
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Grampa on March 18, 2010, 09:56:50 AM
what are the odds?

http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://lib.store.yahoo.net/lib/gundog/pet-piller-inset.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.gundogsupply.com/trophy-pet-piller.html&usg=__rcROsi-5jc6b5h7voYSfltPm1nA=&h=414&w=300&sz=23&hl=en&start=9&um=1&itbs=1&tbnid=rSI4ezDn7vlKRM:&tbnh=125&tbnw=91&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dpiller%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26rls%3Dcom.microsoft: (http://images.google.com/imgres?imgurl=http://lib.store.yahoo.net/lib/gundog/pet-piller-inset.jpg&imgrefurl=http://www.gundogsupply.com/trophy-pet-piller.html&usg=__rcROsi-5jc6b5h7voYSfltPm1nA=&h=414&w=300&sz=23&hl=en&start=9&um=1&itbs=1&tbnid=rSI4ezDn7vlKRM:&tbnh=125&tbnw=91&prev=/images%3Fq%3Dpiller%26um%3D1%26hl%3Den%26sa%3DN%26rls%3Dcom.microsoft:)*:IE-SearchBox%26rlz%3D1I7ADBR_en%26tbs%3Disch:1
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: rgramjet on March 18, 2010, 10:08:04 AM
Quote from: Dan on March 18, 2010, 12:23:22 AM
They don't want to know.  I tried to explain it to a girl I was dating, she just said I was weird.  I couldn't argue that but she refused to believe that the guy who helped her change her tire, or was so kind at the grocery store was really wondering about her tits.

My wife has taken golf lessons, swimming lessons and Thai Kickboxing.  At least once in each block of lessons, the instructor (male) would let her know that she's a "natural".....  

If you saw my wife swing a golf club, you would see the hilarity of their statement.  (Don't tell her I said that!!)

Its now a running joke.....
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: rgramjet on March 18, 2010, 10:11:53 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 18, 2010, 08:40:16 AM
In all DMF seriousness though...this guy never comes to us with the front-end happy part of these emotional excursions to disaster....

we only get stuck listening to the sobbing in the wreckage part....this was going on forever at TOB....

he would certainly evoke more empathy and compassion if we could actually quantify and qualify the magnitude of the loss.....

the happier days are never shared for instance if maybe he related something like when he spooged 3 times straight in her (hopefully clean-shaven) armpit while he had his tongue so far up her posterior he was tickling the second turn of her transverse colon

now THAT would give me a solid sense of his loss...but again pictures of her....but ONLY if she is hot by human standards....if she is a lower-order primate I would rather not be made aware of that

I dont know you Rat.  What I do know is you are One Cunning Linguist!


[thumbsup]



Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Howie on March 18, 2010, 06:30:08 PM
Quote from: rgramjet on March 18, 2010, 10:11:53 AM
I dont know you Rat.  What I do know is you are One Cunning Linguist!


[thumbsup]





Yes he is!  Great having you back RAT ;D
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Desmostro on March 19, 2010, 06:23:47 AM
Jimminy Christmas I thought I was bad.
Dude you are on Mr. Toad's wild ride.

You get to choose a lot of what comes to you in life. You know what im saying? A wheelie in the fast lane puts you in a particular position to receive certain unexpected adventures like SUVs coming through your windscreen. You don't have to have that.  You can choose other things.

You can choose to have calm loving people around you. When you get your own self back on your own feet and let all of this go, set yourself up for some good things next. Manageble things you can handle. Things that will bring you other good things. Isolate yourself from craziness before you ball it all up.

Fek me, then write a book and sell it to Hollywood. 

Speaking of books, one of the best books ever was written by a guy who hit rock bottom before figuring it out. I'm going to strongly encourage reading this book. When I say strongly I mean make the beast with two backsing just read it. If you don't like it, stop. You have $16. to loose and an hour.

http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d.html/ref=redir_mdp_mobile/184-5176073-8308660?a=1577311523 (http://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d.html/ref=redir_mdp_mobile/184-5176073-8308660?a=1577311523)

 

     
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 06:50:44 AM
I am not certain that Piller has the capacity to wrap his brain around Tolle's power of now....(and yes I have read it)

he has admitted he understands the power of must-have-it-now

Sage advice on your part and I applaud the quality of the pearls you cast forth before...well whatever

I found the best way to get into the moment...to actually exist in the moment is to ride like you don't plan on shutting the motor off   
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: The Architect on March 19, 2010, 07:10:21 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 06:50:44 AM

I found the best way to get into the moment...to actually exist in the moment is to ride like you don't plan on shutting the motor off   

Isn't this the behavior that has been getting him in trouble? 
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 19, 2010, 07:18:47 AM
Thanks Desmotro, I'll definitely check it out and let you know what I thought.


Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: lawbreaker on March 19, 2010, 07:22:08 AM
Quote from: The Architect on March 19, 2010, 07:10:21 AM
Isn't this the behavior that has been getting him in trouble?  

From TOB and Piller coming back to this board... I think it's been the drugs that have been getting him in trouble (among other things if I recall correctly).

Seems he just exchanged addictions. While i don't feel bad for the guy... I somewhat enjoy the stories
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 07:36:22 AM
Quote from: The Architect on March 19, 2010, 07:10:21 AM
Isn't this the behavior that has been getting him in trouble? 

absolutely not...

the problem is simply that he is not wired well enough to assume the responsibility for the consequences of his own actions and choices

and he comes here and whines about those consequences

If I deliberately stick a fork in my eye I won't come here expecting sympathy because I can't see right anymore

This guy has more short circuits in his synaptic firings than anyone here is going to successfully trouble shoot.

And even if you laid out his entire pathological map in front of him, dragged out the re-enactment dolls and had him show you what went wrong when Uncle Ernie took him camping alone and explained it to him...

it would not matter...there is a giant canyon that needs to be leapt between recognition/realization and reconciliation

folks don't change until the pain of staying the same outweighs their fear of change

and Piller is quite comfortable cycling through his familiar pathological behaviors and getting attention/sympathy and in his warped mind,,, reassurance

Pain provokes change and improves listening skills....even an amoeba knows enough to move to the far end of the petri dish if sufficient voltage is applied to one end

But understand one very unfortunate fact of life....some people actually enjoy being unhappy and miserable

and some people are like lab rats scurrying through the cranial maze looking for "self" ......always smelling the aroma of the cheese but never finding the chunk
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 19, 2010, 07:45:13 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 07:36:22 AM
absolutely not...

some wise stuff from the Rat . . .

You left out the fact that he is also a big fat liar, or at best someone who exaggerates a lot probably in order to more fully satisfy the urge for chaos you detailed above. The worst part is that he needs to believe his own lies/exaggerations.

Question, what do you think the nature of his abuse was as a child? I'm thinking either mean drunk of a dad and a mom that moved him around a lot but never really spent all that much time with him, or well meaning dad that was driven away by crazy addict of a mother who was more worried about her next high and boyfriend than the bothersome kid.

sac
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 08:00:02 AM
Sac...extreme neglect coupled with physical abuse...sexual or violent...drugs/alcohol abuse put him in a high probability category for the physical abuse...hence my reference to his Uncle...high probability that he grew up in a substance abuse broken household and was exposed to drunk Mom's pedophile parent or boyfriend

his core sense of self never materialized or came together....or he hid it like a buried treasure as a kid to protect it and he lost the map back to it

he likes to think he is "someone" but in fact HE really does not exist...

his entire sense of "self" is derived from externals....there is a void where an internally generated sense of self exists in most humans...call it the soul the spirit whatever...he does not have it...Native Americans I forget which Nations described the insane as people who had no spirit or who had lost their souls

so he is lost in the carnival funhouse using people as mirrors to give him a reflection of what he puts in front of them

as long as there are mirrors he can work with, he can pretend he is real and does not have to do the hard or impossible work of establishing or exhuming what was never born or was buried very early on

so while some folks here may think I am brutal...actually I am not even touching him...there is nothing to connect to....I am merely offering a reflection he probably does not like but meh...there are other reflections that make him happy here...attention is craved...doesn't matter if it is my sort or some of the other more compassionate people's sort

like I said living off the aroma of cheese never finding the chunk...the guy is pure vaporware whether he is actually a bag of flesh or some mindfark Cyrus is pulling to amuse himself
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: SacDuc on March 19, 2010, 08:14:38 AM

That was well put. When he uses phrases like, "my addictive personality" instead of "I'm an addict" what you said really comes to light. Everything is externalized. Particularly blame is externalized, but damn near everything else as well. Its almost enough to make me feel bad for the guy. And I would if he showed the slightest sign of actually wanting to deal with himself.

In the meantime its fun to play amateur psychologist.  [popcorn]

And before anyone starts whining about how we are picking on poor poor Piller, remember he is the one that posts this crap. You don't get to wear a blouse cut down to your navel and then berate people for staring at your boobs.

sac
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: il d00d on March 19, 2010, 08:30:00 AM
Wow, this thread has really taken a turn for the pedantic.  The ratio of Piller posts to detailed analysis of his very soul is... disproportional. Can we at least get back to hurling insults or offering conditional support? 
Also, I am not sure how Piller managed to create sympathy fatigue in the 50 or so posts since his return.  And I don't remember the sentiment on TOB being "oh goddamnit, not another Piller post."   For the record, I am not defending him personally, but the level of civility and now levity of the board.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: CDawg on March 19, 2010, 08:46:04 AM
Quote from: SacDuc on March 19, 2010, 07:45:13 AM
You left out the fact that he is also a big fat liar, or at best someone who exaggerates a lot probably in order to more fully satisfy the urge for chaos
Quote from: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 08:00:02 AM
he likes to think he is "someone" but in fact HE really does not exist...

Too much psycho-babble.  Alright, let's settle this once and for all...Piller, post a pic of the girl so we can weight in!
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 08:49:42 AM
Quote from: CDawg on March 19, 2010, 08:46:04 AM
Too much psycho-babble.  Alright, let's settle this once and for all...Piller, post a pic of the girl so we are weight in!


Please reference an earlier request from yesterday...still pending....I think his squeeze is an inflatable
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Scooter Montgomery on March 19, 2010, 12:08:56 PM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 08:49:42 AM
Please reference an earlier request from yesterday...still pending....I think his squeeze is an inflatable

Then he shouldn't squeeze to hard.

Pop![laugh]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 19, 2010, 01:14:35 PM
What....

no one gave Piller their email addy to get the pics?
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 01:18:01 PM
Quote from: ducpainter on March 19, 2010, 01:14:35 PM
What....

no one gave Piller their email addy to get the pics?

Better yet ....someone should give him their home address so he can mail them!!!...or hand deliver them!
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 19, 2010, 01:22:00 PM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 01:18:01 PM
Better yet ....someone should give him their home address so he can mail them!!!...or hand deliver them!
I knew you'd volunteer.

What a guy...just back, and already...

taking one for the team.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 01:35:50 PM
Piller

The address is

Creedmoor Gardens
7925 Winchester Blvd # 40,
Queens Village NY

Just tell the guy at the gate you have stuff for me he'll let you right in
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 19, 2010, 01:42:16 PM
Quote from: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 01:35:50 PM
Piller

The address is

Creedmoor Gardens
7925 Winchester Blvd # 40,
Queens Village NY

Just tell the guy at the gate you have stuff for me he'll let you right in
Nice work... :P
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Stella on March 19, 2010, 01:50:34 PM
 [laugh]
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: 1KDS on March 19, 2010, 03:31:17 PM
Piller,

send pics to 1KDSduc@gmail.com I'll host em for ya
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 19, 2010, 06:16:08 PM
Doesn't someone need to get onto sac again for the namecalling?

Some of u act like Ive committed a horrible crime or someothing.   Chill out.  Some of you just like to hear yourselves talk and smell your own farts.  I think some of you must really need some kind of cathartic resolution to your own issues by trying to inflate, complicate and solve this issue.

I haven't talked to the girl, I'm over it.  
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: GAAN on March 19, 2010, 08:30:49 PM
personally I like to try an understand those I see as broken

in order to

understand why/if I am broken

but

I find it hard to understand you

because

the stories you tell do not match behaviors I have witnessed in others or experienced in myself

I spend a lot of time with a soul whom I feel is a bigger addict than you portray

a lot of his behavior and a lot of yours are very similar

however

your spectrum is much larger and the quality of your pendulum is vast on a scale that I cannot relate to in my experience

to me my personal addict is like a metro-gnome where as your experiences feel like a Burlington Northern Freight Bus cabled to the sun.

and

I imagine that by similar comparison your antics are amateur in comparison to say Kieth Richards

but as I've mentioned before all things are relative...or did Einstein say that?

and being that all things are and all experiences are subjective

in the end it doesn't really matter...dammit Chester

also nothing is unique and everything has been said/done before

so in conclusion

i got nuthin
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: krolik on March 19, 2010, 08:33:48 PM
I still like you Mother. 8)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Preisker on March 19, 2010, 09:11:39 PM
Wow, amateur psychology.     

Piller, go find another ginch.    Lots of coke whores, meth freaks and others out there.   Play the (damaged) field, they are pretty damn easy to get in the sack.     From the posts that you've posted, those are the kinds of chicks you like.   I used to also. 

Lots of gash out there.   Don't wallow in self pity and go get some.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: Piller on March 19, 2010, 09:49:39 PM
I agree.  But I'm done with the damaged goods.  Idont need it and I'm not the same as I was on theTOB. 
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: brimo on March 19, 2010, 10:55:07 PM

What's a "metro-gnome"? A train travelling dwarf maybe?
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: RAT900 on March 19, 2010, 11:51:49 PM
Quote from: Piller on March 19, 2010, 09:49:39 PM
I agree.  But I'm done with the damaged goods.  Idont need it and I'm not the same as I was on theTOB. 

Piller you have made enormous strides since TOB...while I am not certain in which direction,,, I can agree you have covered a lot of ground

so did this guy

Extreme Mountain Ski Accident (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JkjhETjstwU&feature=related#normal)
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: rgramjet on March 20, 2010, 01:35:28 AM
Metro-gnome:  A gnome with a happening Manscape, in touch with his feminine side.
Title: Re: Broke up with the GF
Post by: ducpainter on March 20, 2010, 02:17:36 AM
Quote from: Piller on March 19, 2010, 06:16:08 PM
Doesn't someone need to get onto sac again for the namecalling?

Some of u act like Ive committed a horrible crime or someothing.   Chill out.  Some of you just like to hear yourselves talk and smell your own farts.  I think some of you must really need some kind of cathartic resolution to your own issues by trying to inflate, complicate and solve this issue.

I haven't talked to the girl, I'm over it.  
What....

Big fat liar hurt your feelings?

Too much of a stretch.

That said...

all of you keyboard shrinks have had your fun...

I suggest you all go take a long look in the mirror for your halos...and your walls for your degrees.