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Title: dating....
Post by: zooom on September 26, 2011, 11:07:50 AM
so, a conversation I had posed a thought for interesting discussion....on dating.

So, you have multiple reasons nowadays for dating...but it seems in the day and age of techno touchbase with all the various social networking and websites and so forth...it begs a question...what is a date nowadays and how do people do it? Whether you have people who have been together for years and need to reconnect or reignite on a "date night" or someone who has been out of the game for so long that they need to try and establish contact again personally with someone, or some other reason entirely. Do the ideas of olde of like say, dinner and a movie, are they stale or not? What are the trending things that people seem to do?

discuss....
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Slide Panda on September 26, 2011, 11:12:41 AM
I think a date is still a date... it's how folks are getting from meeting/ making first contact to that in-person date that's really changed/changing. It's not so much 'Hey, can I have your phone number?' anymore... but when the boots hit the dirt, you still have to meet, talk to and get along with that date.

Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Triple J on September 26, 2011, 11:28:46 AM
Quote from: Sad Panda on September 26, 2011, 11:12:41 AM
I think a date is still a date... it's how folks are getting from meeting/ making first contact to that in-person date that's really changed/changing.

Agreed
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 26, 2011, 12:57:06 PM
Having been out of that scene for a few years and being 60 and clueless I can offer this observation....

I think the only distinction you find in the modern era is that kids are having trouble transitioning from "hooking up" to actually considering themselves "dating"........friends with benefits sorta stuff

It seems that the younger ones are having more casual sexual relations and relations in general as a precursor to dating rather than the old model

which was get the date and get to the sexual encounter

all they have done it seems is to have postponed the nervousness, insecurity and trepidation

and moved from asking someone out

to asking someone if they

are just hooking up or if they are dating

and they are waiting longer to start formal nuclear families etc

then there is the tragic sub-genus masturdator: the guy who dates and never gets to the nitty gritty
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: factorPlayer on September 26, 2011, 07:28:17 PM
Quote from: RAT900 on September 26, 2011, 12:57:06 PM
then there is the tragic sub-genus masturdator: the guy who dates and never gets to the nitty gritty

too true!!  [laugh]  [laugh]

Title: Re: dating....
Post by: He Man on September 26, 2011, 08:26:51 PM
you know you're dating a girl when she doesnt shut up and deems it important to tell you every little thing oging on in her life.


that or you stoped caring about her.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: r_ciao on September 26, 2011, 09:39:46 PM
Many people, myself included, are finding dates online.  In the increasingly digital age and when people have so much information at their fingertips, and so little time, online dating is more and more common and no longer has the bad social stigma that it used to.  As for me, the more information that I know about my potential dates not only allows me to filter out potential dates, but it also lets me know something about her that can make initial conversations flow more easily since I already have some points of discussion.

As far as what is a date, that has ranged from coffee dates, dinners, dinner and a movie, rides on the Duc, and sharing adventures and experiences.  Sometimes these dates are to further explore commonalities and at times it's to experience something of the other person's world.  More than anything, it's just an excuse to get together.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: sugarcrook on September 26, 2011, 10:28:00 PM
If I were single, I'd either start dating girls at my gym or use some online service.  The problem with using an online service is you may prematurely eliminate someone for a trivial or perceived "offense," while you'd totally put the wood to the same person if you met her in a grocery store. 
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 26, 2011, 10:44:11 PM
How about...Where NOT to find a serious dating prospect?

-In a Bar 20 minutes before last Call

-In your court-mandated Therapists' waiting room

-In a brothel/Massage Parlor

-In a 12 Step Program of any stripe or variety

-In Central Booking
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: factorPlayer on September 26, 2011, 11:18:44 PM
You forgot

- Outside your local Planned Parenthood office (my personal favorite)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 26, 2011, 11:22:39 PM
 [laugh] [laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Kopfjager on September 26, 2011, 11:33:29 PM
If You're not single you have no dog in this fight, just say'n  ;)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Stella on September 26, 2011, 11:36:39 PM
Quote from: He Man on September 26, 2011, 08:26:51 PM
you know you're dating a girl when she doesnt shut up and deems it important to tell you every little thing oging on in her life.

Oh?




Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Stella on September 26, 2011, 11:53:03 PM
Quote from: He Man on September 26, 2011, 08:26:51 PM
you know you're dating a girl when she doesnt shut up and deems it important to tell you every little thing oging on in her life.

ok so I can't let this one go. ilikedon'tknowwhyyousaysuchthingsandlikegeneralizeallwomenintoonecategorybecause,youknow,um,notallofusarethatwayandtalkandtalkanddon'tshutupnordowefeelitimportanttotellyoulikeeverylittlethinggoingoninourlivesbutlikewhenyousitthereatdinnerandjusttextandpostonforumsandignoreuswellwe'rejusttryingtolikefindsometopicthatmightbeofinteresttoyouthatmaybejustmaybeyoucouldparticipateinconversationcuzwhenwegetlikemarriedandhavebabiesiwanttoknowwhatkindoffatheryou'relikegoingtobeandifyoucan'tliketalktomeatdinnerwheni'mtellingyouaboutwhatsnookididonthelatestepisodeofjerseyshore,heylookachicken,thenhowamigonnaknowifyou'regoingtolikebeinvolvedinourkidslivesandreadthembooksandteachthemhowtocall311or911whensomeonelikepunchesourminivanortipsyourmotorcycleoverandwehavetolikecallthepolice.......






;D
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: The Bacon Junkie on September 27, 2011, 12:36:40 AM
Quote
heylookachicken


[laugh] [laugh] [laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: TiNi on September 27, 2011, 02:55:25 AM
Quote from: Stella on September 26, 2011, 11:53:03 PM
ok so I can't let this one go. ilikedon'tknowwhyyousaysuchthingsandlikegeneralizeallwomenintoonecategorybecause,youknow,um,notallofusarethatwayandtalkandtalkanddon'tshutupnordowefeelitimportanttotellyoulikeeverylittlethinggoingoninourlivesbutlikewhenyousitthereatdinnerandjusttextandpostonforumsandignoreuswellwe'rejusttryingtolikefindsometopicthatmightbeofinteresttoyouthatmaybejustmaybeyoucouldparticipateinconversationcuzwhenwegetlikemarriedandhavebabiesiwanttoknowwhatkindoffatheryou'relikegoingtobeandifyoucan'tliketalktomeatdinnerwheni'mtellingyouaboutwhatsnookididonthelatestepisodeofjerseyshore,heylookachicken,thenhowamigonnaknowifyou'regoingtolikebeinvolvedinourkidslivesandreadthembooksandteachthemhowtocall311or911whensomeonelikepunchesourminivanortipsyourmotorcycleoverandwehavetolikecallthepolice.......






;D

[laugh] [laugh] [laugh]

what she said
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Ddan on September 27, 2011, 03:19:53 AM
Quote from: factorPlayer on September 26, 2011, 11:18:44 PM
You forgot

- Outside your local Planned Parenthood office (my personal favorite)


Family reunions
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: TiNi on September 27, 2011, 03:24:53 AM
Quote from: SBK boy on September 27, 2011, 03:19:53 AM
Family reunions

[laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: zooom on September 27, 2011, 04:20:57 AM
Quote from: factorPlayer on September 26, 2011, 11:18:44 PM
You forgot

- Outside your local Planned Parenthood office (my personal favorite)


unless you are Jay cruising with Silent Bob ( yes, I had to go with the Dogma movie reference!)

Quote from: kopfjäger on September 26, 2011, 11:33:29 PM
If You're not single you have no dog in this fight, just say'n  ;)

not true...see excerpt below

Quote from: zooom on September 26, 2011, 11:07:50 AM
So, you have multiple reasons nowadays for dating... what is a date nowadays and how do people do it? Whether you have people who have been together for years and need to reconnect or reignite on a "date night" .....

now add in your 0.02 as you certainly do indeed have a dog in this fight as it were...
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 27, 2011, 05:01:44 AM
Quote from: The Bacon Junkie on September 27, 2011, 12:36:40 AM
[laugh] [laugh] [laugh]


you actually read through all of that???? 

You ARE marriage material!!!
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 27, 2011, 05:52:27 AM
Quote from: SBK boy on September 27, 2011, 03:19:53 AM
Family reunions

I was dis-invited from a family reunion hosted by our surname Genealogists (I gave them a pile of research on my family branch)

for suggesting that I would bring condoms with the family crest on them

they thought our branch fell off the tree around 1860....I am sure they wish it had now

stuffy self-important bastids...

we're so make the beast with two backsing inbred I am surprised we don't have hip dysplasia
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: The Bacon Junkie on September 27, 2011, 07:13:30 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on September 27, 2011, 05:01:44 AM

you actually read through all of that???? 

You ARE marriage material!!!

Is that a proposal?  :-*






[bacon]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 27, 2011, 07:20:00 AM
Quote from: The Bacon Junkie on September 27, 2011, 07:13:30 AM
Is that a proposal?  :-*






[bacon]

nah I am just pimping you to the members  [thumbsup]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: The Bacon Junkie on September 27, 2011, 07:21:05 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on September 27, 2011, 07:20:00 AM
nah I am just pimping you to the members  [thumbsup]

I like your idea better than mine...   


;D




[bacon]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: fastwin on September 27, 2011, 07:41:43 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on September 27, 2011, 05:52:27 AM
I was dis-invited from a family reunion hosted by our surname Genealogists (I gave them a pile of research on my family branch)

for suggesting that I would bring condoms with the family crest on them

they thought our branch fell off the tree around 1860....I am sure they wish it had now

stuffy self-important bastids...

we're so make the beast with two backsing inbred I am surprised we don't have hip dysplasia

[laugh] [laugh] [laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: KnightofNi on September 27, 2011, 07:59:49 AM
very interesting topic.

I have found myself wondering what the hell do do with girls myself.
The dinner and a movie thing just seems so out of date and boring now. i am trying things like going for a bicycle ride, taking a short class on something (dancing, rock climbing, bomb making, ect..) or even going out to see a band. on a real date i will either cut way back on the drinking or avoid it. (unless it's going poorly, then i drink like a fish to make it better or worse depending on your POV  [cheeky])

traditional dating seems to be long gone. it may be the circles i run in, it may be my age and the mindset of those at the same point in their lives.
agreed that a bar is not to pick up someone for more than a few nights encounters.

now I need to make a disclaimer. i am not looking for anything substantial. i am looking for a warm body that is relatively attractive to make myself feel better about my own position in life right now. I'm in what Rat defined as the hooking up before the nervousness part. it seems a lot of people just want to get laid. the end game is to gain access to the emotions, but the actual sex part starts off as relatively emotionless. then again, see my previous statement on emotional involvement.
I believe the actual dating part comes into play when you see the person and feel something in a place other than your pants. when you want to see them because they are fun to hang out with and not because they are willing to get naked with you. when actual friendship starts to creep in and you notice more emotion that's when it becomes more of a dating situation.
or the sex part is the dating and it goes to actual relationship afterwards.
I'm very confused by it all and talking through it here hasn't helped me. lol
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: yamifixer on September 27, 2011, 09:11:17 AM
I have never understood the dinner and a movie date. Here is a person that you want to spend time with and talk to so you go and sit silently in the dark with for 2 hours. Is it just me?

Title: Re: dating....
Post by: He Man on September 27, 2011, 09:44:52 AM
Quote from: Stella on September 26, 2011, 11:53:03 PM
ok so I can't let this one go. ilikedon'tknowwhyyousaysuchthingsandlikegeneralizeallwomenintoonecategorybecause,youknow,um,notallofusarethatwayandtalkandtalkanddon'tshutupnordowefeelitimportanttotellyoulikeeverylittlethinggoingoninourlivesbutlikewhenyousitthereatdinnerandjusttextandpostonforumsandignoreuswellwe'rejusttryingtolikefindsometopicthatmightbeofinteresttoyouthatmaybejustmaybeyoucouldparticipateinconversationcuzwhenwegetlikemarriedandhavebabiesiwanttoknowwhatkindoffatheryou'relikegoingtobeandifyoucan'tliketalktomeatdinnerwheni'mtellingyouaboutwhatsnookididonthelatestepisodeofjerseyshore,heylookachicken,thenhowamigonnaknowifyou'regoingtolikebeinvolvedinourkidslivesandreadthembooksandteachthemhowtocall311or911whensomeonelikepunchesourminivanortipsyourmotorcycleoverandwehavetolikecallthepolice.......






;D

hahahaah  [laugh] I think we need to break up. dont worry we can still be friends. [beer]

Seriously though, i didn't mean to generalize women like that, there are definitely some really cool down to earth girls, but as many as there are good wholesome girls to date, theres just as many who live in a fantasy world with no  ethics or any sense of pride for who they are.

btw, How the hell do you punch a minivan???
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Monsterlover on September 27, 2011, 09:59:34 AM
Quote from: Stella on September 26, 2011, 11:53:03 PM
ok so I can't let this one go. ilikedon'tknowwhyyousaysuchthingsandlikegeneralizeallwomenintoonecategorybecause,youknow,um,notallofusarethatwayandtalkandtalkanddon'tshutupnordowefeelitimportanttotellyoulikeeverylittlethinggoingoninourlivesbutlikewhenyousitthereatdinnerandjusttextandpostonforumsandignoreuswellwe'rejusttryingtolikefindsometopicthatmightbeofinteresttoyouthatmaybejustmaybeyoucouldparticipateinconversationcuzwhenwegetlikemarriedandhavebabiesiwanttoknowwhatkindoffatheryou'relikegoingtobeandifyoucan'tliketalktomeatdinnerwheni'mtellingyouaboutwhatsnookididonthelatestepisodeofjerseyshore,heylookachicken,thenhowamigonnaknowifyou'regoingtolikebeinvolvedinourkidslivesandreadthembooksandteachthemhowtocall311or911whensomeonelikepunchesourminivanortipsyourmotorcycleoverandwehavetolikecallthepolice.......






;D

Longest word i've ever seen

[laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Adamm0621 on September 27, 2011, 10:20:44 AM
Is it considered a date if you pay them upfront for services to be rendered, but afterwards they try to give you your money back and hand you their phone number?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: KnightofNi on September 27, 2011, 10:43:52 AM
Quote from: Adamm0621 on September 27, 2011, 10:20:44 AM
Is it considered a date if you pay them upfront for services to be rendered, but afterwards they try to give you your money back and hand you their phone number?

no, that is just a Penthouse Forum story.  ;)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: fastwin on September 27, 2011, 10:45:50 AM
This thread is an interesting read. It makes me glad that I am not in the dating world any more. Just as it makes me glad that I am not going through the high school years in this day and time. [bang]

Like the way my 9th grade step son got dumped by his date the morning of his big high school homecoming dance last Saturday. [roll] The little b@#ch kept sending out smoke signals that she probably wanted out of the date but junior just wasn't reading them right and wasn't listening to me or Mom. He was too gaga with excitement over the date and dance.

Mom and I couldn't do anything but sit back and watch the train wreck. His "date" refused to wear her corsage at the football game and wouldn't sit with him. Instead she sat behind him in the stands and got another guy to put his arm around her and snuggle... making sure junior saw it all. :P The guy doing the "hugging" even admitted to junior that the girl got him to act that way just to piss him off. It worked. His boat was sinking fast.

Then she got together with her girlfriends that night and made up lies about some things he supposedly said about her and text-ed him that because of these "alleged statements" she wasn't going to the dance with him! He tried to save it and told her he didn't say those things and wanted to go with her but it was a done deal by then and unsavable. Given the way she treated him I would have given him carte blanche to call her anything he wanted! I would have even given tips on what to call her!! [evil] Wow...

Did I mention I'm glad I'm not dating or in high school!! [laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: MikeZ on September 27, 2011, 11:16:42 AM
Quote from: fastwin on September 27, 2011, 10:45:50 AM
This thread is an interesting read. It makes me glad that I am not in the dating world any more. Just as it makes me glad that I am not going through the high school years in this day and time. [bang]

Did I mention I'm glad I'm not dating or in high school!! [laugh]
Had to deal with my teenage daughter crying and all upset cause her friend got dumped and the friend didn't think life was worth living any longer.
I just told her most parents would pay to have the limited problems they have in high school.
They are nothing compared to the problems we all go through as adults.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: fastwin on September 27, 2011, 12:08:48 PM
My answer to problems as an adult is the same one I had in high school. Go out in the garage, work on the bike, then go for a ride. [laugh] [Dolph]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 27, 2011, 12:13:38 PM
Quote from: fastwin on September 27, 2011, 12:08:48 PM
My answer to problems as an adult is the same one I had in high school. Go out in the garage, work on the bike, then go for a ride. [laugh] [Dolph]

I "sleep at" problems these days that I don't wish to deal with

used to drink at them but that had cumulative downsides

so I figured out how to pass-out on shit I don't like  

same basic results...nothing gets resolved

and it is still there or there and getting worse when I wake up

but without the accompanying hangover [cheeky]

I should add that I have outlived more problems than I ever solved (or made worse trying to solve)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: fastwin on September 27, 2011, 02:02:03 PM
I like the outlived vs solved comment! [laugh] [thumbsup]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Stella on September 27, 2011, 06:23:30 PM
Quote from: He Man on September 27, 2011, 09:44:52 AM
hahahaah  [laugh] I think we need to break up.

ohnoyoudon'tmisterifyouthinkyou'regoingtobreakupthatquicklywithmeaftertheothernightyoubetterthinkagainbecauseyoupromisediwasyourfavoriteandyoutalkedabouttheholidaysandmeetingmyfamilyandandand......

:-*




No worries.  I have a tendency to barge through doors that are open only a crack.    ;)




Title: Re: dating....
Post by: TiNi on September 27, 2011, 06:25:03 PM
Quote from: Stella on September 27, 2011, 06:23:30 PM
ohnoyoudon'tmisterifyouthinkyou'regoingtobreakupthatquicklywithmeaftertheothernightyoubetterthinkagainbecauseyoupromisediwasyourfavoriteandyoutalkedabouttheholidaysandmeetingmyfamilyandandand......

:-*




No worries.  I have a tendency to barge through doors that are open only a crack.    ;)






[laugh] [laugh] [laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: He Man on September 27, 2011, 06:48:26 PM
Quote from: Stella on September 27, 2011, 06:23:30 PM
ohnoyoudon'tmisterifyouthinkyou'regoingtobreakupthatquicklywithmeaftertheothernightyoubetterthinkagainbecauseyoupromisediwasyourfavoriteandyoutalkedabouttheholidaysandmeetingmyfamilyandandand......

:-*




No worries.  I have a tendency to barge through doors that are open only a crack.    ;)






like whatever!  ;)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: KnightofNi on September 28, 2011, 08:27:51 AM
Quote from: He Man on September 27, 2011, 06:48:26 PM
like whatever!  ;)



dude....psychoooooooooooooo.

run away!


[laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: lawbreaker on September 28, 2011, 09:04:04 AM
Quote from: Adamm0621 on September 27, 2011, 10:20:44 AM
Is it considered a date if you pay them upfront for services to be rendered, but afterwards they try to give you your money back and hand you their phone number?

Piller ?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: The Bacon Junkie on September 28, 2011, 09:06:03 AM
Quote from: lawbreaker on September 28, 2011, 09:04:04 AM
Piller ?


  [laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: He Man on September 28, 2011, 09:07:59 AM
Quote from: King Tut on September 28, 2011, 08:27:51 AM

dude....psychoooooooooooooo.

run away!


[laugh]

if you're friend is advising that she nuts, you best better believe it!
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: KnightofNi on September 28, 2011, 09:53:53 AM
Quote from: He Man on September 28, 2011, 09:07:59 AM
if you're friend is advising that she nuts, you best better believe it!

and if her friends are advising you that she is nuts along with explaining that nobody they know would dare date the girl...drop it like it's hot.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: KnightofNi on September 28, 2011, 10:04:17 AM
Quote from: King Tut on September 28, 2011, 09:53:53 AM
and if her friends are advising you that she is nuts along with explaining that nobody they know would dare date the girl...drop it like it's hot.

i have to ammend this slightly.
apparently there are times when the friend telling you the girl you are seeing is nuts is a ploy to get you to herself.

be careful out there kids.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: sugarcrook on September 28, 2011, 02:37:38 PM
Men have created a lot of misery for ourselves by believing that one woman is somehow significantly different from another.   ;D
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Monsterlover on September 28, 2011, 03:12:17 PM
What's that noise?

It's like. . .

like. .

a sort of cracking noise ..

What the.. . .?

OH GOD!  THE ICE. . .

IT'S SO THIN!!

WE'RE DOOOMED!!!!!!!!
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ManaloEA on September 28, 2011, 06:57:34 PM
Quote from: sugarcrook on September 28, 2011, 02:37:38 PM
Men have created a lot of misery for ourselves by believing that one woman is somehow significantly different from another.   ;D

But this one is different... Really, she is different. She is THE ONE...

...



...


[bang]

[drink]  [drink]  [drink]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Stella on September 28, 2011, 11:19:50 PM
 [popcorn]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: The Bacon Junkie on September 28, 2011, 11:34:18 PM
With her long hair falling
And her eyes that shine
Like the midnight sun...

oh,oh...  She's the One






[bacon]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 29, 2011, 01:31:51 AM
Few people fall in love with the reality of each other....

just the illusion, the idea, the ideal,

all the shit that has nothing to do with who or what the person is about

only what their looks and expressions convey

the reality part is what keeps matrimonial attorneys in business
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Adamm0621 on September 29, 2011, 01:40:31 AM
Quote from: lawbreaker on September 28, 2011, 09:04:04 AM
Piller ?

Oh christ... have I really sunk that low?  This just shows that no one gives a damn anymore.  Otherwise, there should have been some sort of intervention.






Sorry Piller... I love you :-*
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Adamm0621 on September 29, 2011, 01:45:53 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on September 29, 2011, 01:31:51 AM
Few people fall in love with the reality of each other....

just the illusion, the idea, the ideal,

all the shit that has nothing to do with who or what the person is about

only what their looks and expressions convey

the reality part is what keeps matrimonial attorneys in business

That's exactly why the "Cash Transaction" relationships are so rewarding...

1. You know upfront that she's only interested in your money.

2. She can't really hide the fact that she's a whore.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: timeforpoptarts on September 29, 2011, 04:10:45 AM
Paintball.

I just figured it is much better to give women a medium to shoot at me that most likely won't put me in a meat wagon.

I've learned in my limited dating experiences that it is much better to be the bastard self of mine. Sure, I am a nice guy, but I can be a real asshole stickler at some things, and I will argue a point until I am blue in the face. Most people put on a facade and only show their true colors after a few months of serious relationship. That never works for me, plus I think it is quite disingenuous, so just being myself generally garners me the women that actually will put up with my intolerable shit.

Still haven't found one yet that rides, though. :)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: rgramjet on September 29, 2011, 05:18:06 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on September 29, 2011, 01:31:51 AM
Few people fall in love with the reality of each other....

just the illusion, the idea, the ideal,

all the shit that has nothing to do with who or what the person is about

only what their looks and expressions convey

the reality part is what keeps matrimonial attorneys in business

What is "reality" in this make-up laden, enhanced society we live in?

Title: Re: dating....
Post by: rgramjet on September 29, 2011, 05:26:58 AM
A perfect summation.

I'm gonna git you sucka - Cherry scene 1 & 2 (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=N-1C6QlvHl8#)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: fastwin on September 30, 2011, 10:35:15 AM
 [laugh] [laugh] [laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on September 30, 2011, 11:31:42 AM
I think I met that one's sister
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 03, 2011, 05:54:46 PM
Quote from: zooom on September 26, 2011, 11:07:50 AM
what is a date nowadays and how do people do it?

Penis in vagina is still popular, but many don't limit anymore.


I can send you videos if you're unclear.


WWSDD?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: The Bacon Junkie on October 03, 2011, 07:41:49 PM
Quote from: peeny on October 03, 2011, 05:54:46 PM

WWSDD?


[laugh] [laugh] [laugh]





[bacon]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 03, 2011, 07:51:02 PM
Quote from: peeny on October 03, 2011, 05:54:46 PM
Penis in vagina is still popular, but many don't limit anymore.


I can send you videos if you're unclear.


WWSDD?

anal
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Stella on October 03, 2011, 08:28:05 PM
How 'bout we not get another thread locked.


;)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Adamm0621 on October 04, 2011, 01:11:44 AM
Quote from: Stella on October 03, 2011, 08:28:05 PM
How 'bout we not get another thread locked.


;)


Party pooper. :-*
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on October 04, 2011, 03:15:23 AM
Quote from: ducatiz on October 03, 2011, 07:51:02 PM
anal

did you mean annual ?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: rgramjet on October 04, 2011, 04:20:32 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on October 04, 2011, 03:15:23 AM
did you mean annual ?

No, that would be in the "Married" thread...
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: zooom on October 04, 2011, 04:24:50 AM
Quote from: peeny on October 03, 2011, 05:54:46 PM
Penis in vagina is still popular, but many don't limit anymore.


I can send you videos if you're unclear.



videos not needed thank you....

am talking more in the wooing/connecting/reconnecting activities department before coital types of engagement....since most have seemed to pass that entirely....
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on October 04, 2011, 05:10:10 AM
you need to watch this one...this guy has all the answers!!!!

The World to Come (http://www.youtube.com/user/RestoredCOG?v=nX0nUGYoaZc&feature=pyv&ad=10555139987&kw=courtship#)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: fastwin on October 04, 2011, 07:20:17 AM
Quote from: rgramjet on October 04, 2011, 04:20:32 AM
No, that would be in the "Married" thread...

Zing!!!! [laugh] [laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: KnightofNi on October 04, 2011, 08:44:39 AM
Quote from: zooom on October 04, 2011, 04:24:50 AM
videos not needed thank you....

am talking more in the wooing/connecting/reconnecting activities department before coital types of engagement....since most have seemed to pass that entirely....

here's another question...where do people go to meet these potential dates.
i know a lot of my friends are doing the online thing. it seems to be random happenstance that people meet and start dating.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 04, 2011, 08:45:23 AM
Quote from: zooom on October 04, 2011, 04:24:50 AM
videos not needed thank you....

am talking more in the wooing/connecting/reconnecting activities department before coital types of engagement....since most have seemed to pass that entirely....

People just randomly start estalking via facebook then move on to constantly texting...while at work, driving, and on dates with other people. Or they do the online dating thing where you see three of your exes and laugh at how old the photos are and how the description omits various important items like "gets too drunk to get it up" or "has the herpes".  

There is of course craigslist, with various categories:
Casual encounters: These people would like to have sex with someone else who is desperate.
Dating: These people would like dinner, then sex with someone else who is desperate.
Strictly Platonic: These people would like to have sex with you and not tell their significant other. Dinner is optional, drinks are not.

Modern dating is essentially having sex with strangers until you meet one that doesn't throw you out in the morning, or the morning after that. There is no aspect of it that isn't terrifying, especially with the utter lack of STD testing most people do in between lovers. The pullout method is just as popular as ever, except it comes with the HIV now. It's even worse with the prevalence of social media because like every new female celebrity, someone, somewhere has a tape of her making the beast with two backs. Best hope he doesn't post it on xtube.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 08:47:11 AM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 08:45:23 AM
People just randomly start estalking via facebook then move on to constantly texting...while at work, driving, and on dates with other people. Or they do the online dating thing where you see three of your exes and laugh at how old the photos are and how the description omits various important items like "gets too drunk to get it up" or "has the herpes".  

There is of course craigslist, with various categories:
Casual encounters: These people would like to have sex with someone else who is desperate.
Dating: These people would like dinner, then sex with someone else who is desperate.
Strictly Platonic: These people would like to have sex with you and not tell their significant other. Dinner is optional, drinks are not.

Modern dating is essentially having sex with strangers until you meet one that doesn't throw you out in the morning, or the morning after that. There is no aspect of it that isn't terrifying, especially with the utter lack of STD testing most people do in between lovers. The pullout method is just as popular as ever, except it comes with the HIV now. It's even worse with the prevalence of social media because like every new female celebrity, someone, somewhere has a tape of her making the beast with two backs. Best hope he doesn't post it on xtube.

Boy, you must be fun at the neighborhood spouse swapping parties....
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: KnightofNi on October 04, 2011, 08:50:57 AM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 08:45:23 AM
People just randomly start estalking via facebook then move on to constantly texting...while at work, driving, and on dates with other people. Or they do the online dating thing where you see three of your exes and laugh at how old the photos are and how the description omits various important items like "gets too drunk to get it up" or "has the herpes".  

There is of course craigslist, with various categories:
Casual encounters: These people would like to have sex with someone else who is desperate.
Dating: These people would like dinner, then sex with someone else who is desperate.
Strictly Platonic: These people would like to have sex with you and not tell their significant other. Dinner is optional, drinks are not.

Modern dating is essentially having sex with strangers until you meet one that doesn't throw you out in the morning, or the morning after that. There is no aspect of it that isn't terrifying, especially with the utter lack of STD testing most people do in between lovers. The pullout method is just as popular as ever, except it comes with the HIV now. It's even worse with the prevalence of social media because like every new female celebrity, someone, somewhere has a tape of her making the beast with two backs. Best hope he doesn't post it on xtube.

so how do you really feel dave?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 09:02:53 AM
Quote from: King Tut on October 04, 2011, 08:50:57 AM
so how do you really feel dave?
(http://ecdn0.hark.com/images/000/002/418/2418/original.jpg)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 04, 2011, 09:03:23 AM
Quote from: King Tut on October 04, 2011, 08:50:57 AM
so how do you really feel dave?

I'll write your match.com profile for you for free. Guaranteed the first broad to respond will sleep with you.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 09:26:35 AM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 09:03:23 AM
I'll write your match.com profile for you for free. Guaranteed the first broad to respond will sleep with you.


given that match.com is known as bootycall.com that's not a big deal
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 04, 2011, 09:40:37 AM
Quote from: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 09:26:35 AM
given that match.com is known as bootycall.com that's not a big deal

Shhhh-the boy could use some luck these days, especially with the kilt thing. There's a reason the only photo with him wrapped around anyone else has me in it. Tragic.


Title: Re: dating....
Post by: DucMouse the Mighty on October 04, 2011, 09:42:37 AM
 [popcorn]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: r_ciao on October 04, 2011, 10:08:55 AM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 09:03:23 AM
I'll write your match.com profile for you for free. Guaranteed the first broad to respond will sleep with you.


so that's what i'm missing...
i've been romantic and gentlemanly.  maybe i should just write that i want to "get busy".
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 10:54:59 AM
Quote from: r_ciao on October 04, 2011, 10:08:55 AM
so that's what i'm missing...
i've been romantic and gentlemanly.  maybe i should just write that i want to "get busy".

write that you like nice walks on the beach during sunset while wearing a dog collar and pony plug.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on October 04, 2011, 11:02:27 AM
Quote from: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 10:54:59 AM
write that you like nice walks on the beach during sunset while wearing a dog collar and pony plug.


[laugh] [laugh] [clap] [clap]   choke collar
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: MikeZ on October 04, 2011, 11:02:56 AM
Quote from: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 10:54:59 AM
write that you like nice walks on the beach during sunset while wearing a dog collar and pony plug.
Would make more sense for a bridle then a dog collar and pony plug don't you think?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on October 04, 2011, 11:08:37 AM
Quote from: MikeZ on October 04, 2011, 11:02:56 AM
Would make more sense for a bridle then a dog collar and pony plug don't you think?

fashion consultant?  ;D
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducpainter on October 04, 2011, 11:11:33 AM
Amusing that all the old married guys are most active in this thread.

Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 11:13:32 AM
Quote from: MikeZ on October 04, 2011, 11:02:56 AM
Would make more sense for a bridle then a dog collar and pony plug don't you think?

What do you think "dog and pony show" means?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 04, 2011, 11:18:48 AM
Quote from: ducpainter on October 04, 2011, 11:11:33 AM
Amusing that all the old married guys are most active in this thread.



Ah, the chief of pickups, who wordlessly seduced his woman with nothing more'n a haircut.

I defer to your expertise.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducpainter on October 04, 2011, 11:23:04 AM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 11:18:48 AM
Ah, the chief of pickups, who wordlessly seduced his woman with nothing more'n a haircut.

I defer to your expertise.
Want me to teach you how to take care of a rat problem too?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 04, 2011, 11:25:04 AM
Quote from: ducpainter on October 04, 2011, 11:23:04 AM
Want me to teach you how to take care of a rat problem too?

Near as I can tell you're putting up a new house and letting them have the old one.



Would rather learn to paint.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducpainter on October 04, 2011, 11:27:49 AM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 11:25:04 AM
Near as I can tell you're putting up a new house and letting them have the old one.



Would rather learn to paint.
I wish it was just rats for the old house's problems...
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: MikeZ on October 04, 2011, 11:39:40 AM
Quote from: ducpainter on October 04, 2011, 11:11:33 AM
Amusing that all the old married guys are most active in this thread.



Happily divorced here and it's my 1 year anniversary of it being officially done/ filed/ over.
Life is good  ;D
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on October 04, 2011, 12:00:28 PM
Quote from: ducpainter on October 04, 2011, 11:11:33 AM
Amusing that all the old married guys are most active in this thread.



The voice of experience is always of great value

whether that experience was great or disastrous

it can serve as a beacon of hope or a dire warning
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducpainter on October 04, 2011, 01:14:22 PM
Quote from: RAT900 on October 04, 2011, 12:00:28 PM
The voice of experience is always of great value

whether that experience was great or disastrous

it can serve as a beacon of hope or a dire warning
They say things change.

Is our experience current enough?

...and no one ever warned me...

they let me hang myself.

I'm going to return the favor. ;D
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 04, 2011, 01:20:30 PM
Quote from: r_ciao on October 04, 2011, 10:08:55 AM
so that's what i'm missing...
i've been romantic and gentlemanly.  maybe i should just write that i want to "get busy".

(http://demotivationalfunnypics.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/the-girl-paradox-hot-girl-idiot-nice-annoying-smart-ugly-only-dates-assholes-funny-graphs.jpg)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: KnightofNi on October 04, 2011, 01:40:25 PM
I shall only respond to dave in this post since i deem his responses funniest
also, my screen si doing that wierd thing when i type to much and it won't show me what is being typed

Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 09:03:23 AM
I'll write your match.com profile for you for free. Guaranteed the first broad to respond will sleep with you.

would love to see it. i havne't been doing too badly on my own, and would rather just buy her drinks instead of paying for a dating site if all i'm going to do is have sex with her.

Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 09:40:37 AM
Shhhh-the boy could use some luck these days, especially with the kilt thing. There's a reason the only photo with him wrapped around anyone else has me in it. Tragic.

don't knock the kilt. It has gotten me much more action than most realize. also, you are the only one I have pics with that can go public because i thought we had something special  :'(

Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 01:20:30 PM
(http://demotivationalfunnypics.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/the-girl-paradox-hot-girl-idiot-nice-annoying-smart-ugly-only-dates-assholes-funny-graphs.jpg)

so what you are telling me is I need to figure out how to be an asshole so i can date the hot smart girls?
and i will need to drink so i can deal with how annoying they are...
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 02:16:12 PM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 01:20:30 PM
(http://demotivationalfunnypics.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/the-girl-paradox-hot-girl-idiot-nice-annoying-smart-ugly-only-dates-assholes-funny-graphs.jpg)

I love pretending to be an asshole.. 

:-)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: r_ciao on October 04, 2011, 04:52:28 PM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 01:20:30 PM
(http://demotivationalfunnypics.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/08/the-girl-paradox-hot-girl-idiot-nice-annoying-smart-ugly-only-dates-assholes-funny-graphs.jpg)

now that i reflect on past relationships, that is pretty damn accurate.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: The Bacon Junkie on October 04, 2011, 06:30:23 PM
Quote from: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 02:16:12 PM
I love pretending to be an asshole.. 

:-)


You pretend..?   




;)






[bacon]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 07:14:44 PM
Quote from: The Bacon Junkie on October 04, 2011, 06:30:23 PM

You pretend..?   

yup, except at work and then i drop the drawers and go to town

Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 04, 2011, 08:24:54 PM
Quote from: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 07:14:44 PM
yup, except at work and then i drop the drawers and go to town



Stop talking about work in the dating thread.
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 08:26:46 PM
Quote from: peeny on October 04, 2011, 08:24:54 PM
Stop talking about work in the dating thread.

whodat?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on October 05, 2011, 07:50:53 AM
Quote from: ducatiz on October 04, 2011, 07:14:44 PM
yup, except at work and then i drop the drawers and let them go to town on my hungry sphincter



Fixed it for you!!!
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Monsterlover on October 05, 2011, 08:10:41 AM
[laugh]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 05, 2011, 09:31:03 AM
Quote from: RAT900 on October 05, 2011, 07:50:53 AM
Fixed it for you!!!

"them":

(http://img.funtasticus.com/2008/nov/090120cheerleaders/hot-cheerleaders-2026.jpg)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on October 05, 2011, 12:27:47 PM
Quote from: ducatiz on October 05, 2011, 09:31:03 AM
"them":

(http://img.funtasticus.com/2008/nov/090120cheerleaders/hot-cheerleaders-2026.jpg)

Indeed those saucy tarts look like they know how to handle you with a speculum  [cheeky]
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: zooom on October 05, 2011, 12:34:56 PM
Quote from: Stella on October 03, 2011, 08:28:05 PM
How 'bout we not get another thread locked.


;)

I just want to reiterate this sentiment....
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: ducatiz on October 05, 2011, 12:51:54 PM
Quote from: RAT900 on October 05, 2011, 12:27:47 PM
Indeed those saucy tarts look like they know how to handle you with a speculum  [cheeky]

speculum hell.. didn't i mention the pony tail thingy above?
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: RAT900 on October 05, 2011, 01:15:03 PM
OK


(http://i230.photobucket.com/albums/ee91/visigoth9/5014994-301680.jpg)
Title: Re: dating....
Post by: Popeye the Sailor on October 05, 2011, 02:18:59 PM
Quote from: zooom on October 05, 2011, 12:34:56 PM
I just want to reiterate this sentiment....

You can, but there's not much more to discuss.