a new life

[cyrus buelton]

i want suggestions as to where is the best place to find a job and fairly cheap rent.

Is this thread a joke or are you being for real?



Best place to find a job and cheap rent?


Good lord man. TALK TO YOUR WIFE.

Have you made a priority list? How about a budget? (I am good with spreadsheets if you need help)

Do you have debt? What are your current fixed expenses? What are your current variable expenses?

401k?

College Fund for children?

How much do you have saved in an emergency fund that doesn't get touched?





If those are your two priorities.........then your mode of thinking is twisted.

I would think your first question is:

where is the best place for my children to attend school abroad?

That might be more reasonable.

[lethe]

Actually his goal is possible as it's my situation. However it means a commute of such length that people will question your sanity.

[duccarlos]

Outside of the US? Not many options out there. I would say you move south to North Carolina or Atlanta. North Carolina specifically is still relatively cheap and the job market is good.

[jc.cyberdemon]

Is this thread a joke or are you being for real?



Best place to find a job and cheap rent?


Good lord man. TALK TO YOUR WIFE.

Have you made a priority list? How about a budget? (I am good with spreadsheets if you need help)

Do you have debt? What are your current fixed expenses? What are your current variable expenses?

401k?

College Fund for children?

How much do you have saved in an emergency fund that doesn't get touched?





If those are your two priorities.........then your mode of thinking is twisted.

I would think your first question is:

where is the best place for my children to attend school abroad?

That might be more reasonable.

have you ever heard of being spontaneous? you think i should look into finding a place that has schools before i find a job or a place to live? do i have debt? hell yes . expenses? they far exceed my income. emergency fund? lol!!!! its always an emergency living from paycheck to paycheck never mind when you get paid on friday and im make the beast with two backsing pennyless by saturday morning.

[cyrus buelton]

have you ever heard of being spontaneous? you think i should look into finding a place that has schools before i find a job or a place to live? do i have debt? hell yes . expenses? they far exceed my income. emergency fund? lol!!!! its always an emergency living from paycheck to paycheck never mind when you get paid on friday and im make the beast with two backsing pennyless by saturday morning.

Being spontaneous applies to when you have no baggage my man. (wife considered not baggage.......kids are. Not meaning that in a negative way at all, you just have two small humans to care for)


1. Schools? Yes. You have to educate your children. Why would you find a job and place to live with a shitty education system for your children?
2. Debt - Get out of it. Pay it off.



If you expenses exceed your income then you are leaving WAY beyond your means.


I have spoken my piece and given you sound financial advice. Take a personal finance class or if you have a radio, listen to a guy name Dave Ramsey. He actually gives good advice while pitching his company.

I can't give you family advice as that has to come from discussions between you and your spouse.

[jc.cyberdemon]

im just gonna stop crying and get back to make the beast with two backsing work.....

[Popeye the Sailor]

I can't speak for the economy, but it sounds like you've trapped yourself and are feeling mired.


It's time to get your debts paid down so you no longer feel so trapped and overwhelmed. First things first-make a budget. Where is the money going, and where should it be going?


Living paycheck to paycheck will make you miserable-guaranteed.


Take a temporary second job, start paying off the debts-sell off some of the toys. Get out of debt, save some emergency funds, pack up, and find a new home. It can be done.


What skills do you have, if any?

[jc.cyberdemon]

like i said i think ill just shake the sand out of my vagina and keep on going

[Popeye the Sailor]

like i said i think ill just shake the sand out of my vagina and keep on going

est of luck, but please consider making a plan/budget, or you'll just wake up someday and realize you're forty and no better off (I hope you're not already forty).

[Triple J]

like i said i think ill just shake the sand out of my vagina and keep on going

If your expenses far exceed your income, then this won't help. You need a plan.

However, if you just hate your job but are OK, then welcome to the club! 

Good luck. 

[il d00d]

Eh, I think this is a venting thread disguised as a question about places to live thread.  I am sure people here can help with one or the other, but you gotta be clear and honest about which one you want to address, how, and how realistic it is to do that.

Unfortunately, the solution most people offer to not having the funds or skills to deal with budget issues is always this:  have the funds or skills to deal with personal budget issues.  What you should know -or be reminded of- is that there isn't a silver bullet.  So, when people say "put together a budget"  take that as "this problem is difficult, but not insurmountable and this is the first step toward getting there" and not "why are you failing when the solution is obvious?"

Looks like you are moving on from the topic, so I will wish you luck.  Keep your head up.

[desmoworks]

It's tough to make a big change for sure. I wasn't happy with my situation for a myriad of reasons so I left with a split second decision and relocated to LA - looks to be the best decision I've ever made. It was hard though as Hannah and I had to leave our families behind (who we are close with) and I left a solid income from the business I built (and now abandoned in order to start over). I still had my other business, desmoworks, though to keep money coming in so relocating wasn't a problem financially since I still had income. desmoworks wasn't my main source of income though... it is at the moment, but that will change again once we establish the new business.

Lots of things to consider, but it is pretty obvious when a change is needed and as long as you are smart about it then a change can be a great thing!

[muskrat]

Try looking into Texas, the job market here is still booming and housing is WAYYYYY cheaper than NH.  Sure you'll suffer for two to three months of the year with heat but you can ride year-round and it really does feel like a whole other country.

[cyrus buelton]

What is your profession?

Do you have an education?

a lot of where you can/could potentially move will depend on your profession, if you have one. You might have many different skill sets, which can open you up to more options.

[DucofWestwood]

i can appreciate your situation but i want to echo what someone said earlier ... don't assume that moving to a new city and changing jobs will make you happy.  i moved from NY to LA, had a good job, was living by the beach, ostensibly a good life by all measures, and still wasn't happy.  came to realize that it was a lot of other stuff in my life that was causing that.

find someone to talk to (your wife of course, but also maybe a professional ... therapist, not a prostitute).  don't get me wrong, a change of locale can definitely help, but you don't want to make a big move and find out it wasn't the answer to your problems.