Joining the Club...

[Adamm0621]

It's all over but the crying... no, I didn't wreck my Monster.  I'm getting divorced.  Five years of marriage down the drain, and one three year old boy who won't get to see his father very often.  To top it all off, I've still got another six months left in Afghanistan. 

My R&R is only two weeks away, but now I get to spend that time doing paperwork and dividing up the finances (oh, and no sex with the wife).  I plan on spending at least a week in Kentucky trying to sort things out, and then a week in Florida visiting family and going to the beach. 

If anyone knows any moderately attractive women who are willing to properly welcome a soldier home from combat, let me know.  This is bullshit.  FML...

[He Man]

sorry to hear dude. thats gotta not be cool to come back from serving your country and coming home to family problems. i hope it wasnt something dumb and stupid.

best of luck.

[muskrat]

Sorry to hear.  Been there but without kids.  It will get better! 

[Heath]

Did you try to work things out?  Did she give a reason?  Sorry dude

[zooom]

seems some of the spouses that stay at home maintaining...can't...and that is where more issues come up in similar situations....


sorry to hear it man!...it ain't easy...but there are resources at your disposal.

[cokey]

Is She hot?  Gotta marry the 5s maybe 6s..  a 4 if she has a nice body..  uggos stay for the most part..

[avizpls]

 

Thank you for what you do for our country. I genuinely wish you the best in handling this. 

[Monster Dave]

To top it all off, I've still got another six months left in Afghanistan. 

Without a doubt that must be really hard to deal with - especially given your distance from your family. But listen, while you're still in Afghanistan try and stay focused. Get home safely and then deal with "life".

You'll come out on top, trust in yourself and in what you're doing - both for yourself and for your country. If your soon to be ex-wife wasn't able to give you what you needed, then this is an opportunity for you to look for a partner who is strong enough and will support you.

Try and keep your head on strait for the next few weeks. It'll all work out.

[avizpls]

^ he said what I felt, but better than if I tried to say it myself.

[corey]

Despite things at home being rough, know that there are many of us back here in the states who TRULY appreciate what you are doing for us in the field.
Thanks man.

[DucofWestwood]

very sorry to hear that, man.  i've got a 3-yr old boy too and i imagine dealing with your situation locally would be very tough, let alone from the other side of the world.  hang in there and lean on your friends/family for support.  thanks for your service and stop in here anytime you need to vent.

[Bladecutter]

Adamm3406,

Sounds like she decided to pull a long distance breakup on you.
Since she's proven to be weak willed, and couldn't even tell you in person, you can rest assured that she isn't the right woman to have in your life.

When you are back home for good, get your life established wherever you wind up, get yourself a great job, and then file for sole custody of your child. You don't want your son raised by a weak woman. You can get through the next several months easier just with the thought of you raising your kid, and wanting to see how he turns out in life.

BC.

[Adamm0621]

This has been in the works for a while now.  Two days before I left for Afghanistan, she told me that she didn't know if she wanted to stay married anymore.  She said that she didn't know if she loved me anymore, or if she wanted to be married.  She wanted to use the year while I am deployed to decide whether or not to stay married.  Two days after I left, I found out from a friend of her's that she's cheated on me three times since we got married.  The past four months have been hell.

I decided to try to hang on and work things out if possible, simply for the sake of my son, and because I still love her.  It's been driving me nuts the past few months not knowing how things we're going to be when I got home.  She wouldn't say "I love you" on the phone anymore, and she wanted to sleep in different rooms while I am on leave.  I took all of this in stride in the hopes that we would be able to work through our problems so that my son wouldn't have to grow up with divorced parents.  She finally made her decision the other day... it wasn't the one that I was hoping for.

If I thought that she was a bad parent, then I would definitely be trying for custody.  That's not the case, and even after everything that she has put me through, I'm still not that big of an asshole to take our son from her.  It will be an un-contested divorce, so once the paperwork is submitted and signed, we should be divorced 60 days later.  I'm hoping to have all of this behind me by September.

I wish things would have turned out different... but I guess that's life.  I'm just going to enjoy the time with my son and try to use my leave productively.  I've got a female friend in Florida who's already agreed to be my wingman at the bars (and nothing is better than having a female wingman), so that should play out nicely.

Thanks for all of the well wishes.  I'll keep everyone posted.

[IZ]

   No good but it sounds like you've accepted it and it's time to move on.  It sucks that you have a son involved though.  I hope you can be there for him often.  Good luck.  I'm sure Sept can't come soon enough!   

[Howie]

My best to you and your son. Now it is time to work on getting home safe and sound.