Joining the Club...

[RAT900]

It turns out that my quote wasn't received quite as well on Facebook... Some people have no sense of humor.

Not in this day and age...they'll think you were contemplating a 9MM solution to your marital status


probably had a dozen or two of them report you


the words "guns" and "divorce" should never be used in the same paragraph or document


same as using "Knife" and "Penis" in the same sentence....but I think knife and penis are more allowable and won't get anyone reported

[Adamm0621]

Not in this day and age...they'll think you were contemplating a 9MM solution to your marital status

I'm offended by how easily people get offended... where are my rights?  Besides, I'm more of a 40 S&W type of guy... However the new gun that I want is the Taurus Judge...  They just came out with a new Public Defender model that has a polymer frame.  Combine that with Winchester's new ammo that they began producing for the Judge, and it's just too much for me to turn down.

Gun Link:
http://www.taurususa.com/product-details.cfm?id=693&category=Revolver&toggle=&breadcrumbseries=

Ammo Link:http://thetruthaboutguns.com/2010/06/robert-farago/winchester-pdx1-410-shotgun-ammoselling-like-hotcakes/

[RAT900]

A lightweight hand-cannon that shoots grape shot....excellent concept!!!  

I can appreciate the idea and the execution.

Perfect for the well-placed shot OR the general direction shot.

Performance Results can only be the best kind...messy, final and ugly

[triangleforge]

I'll just add a couple of thoughts to the (generally  ) good advice in the past several pages...

First, thank you for what you're doing and for keeping yourself & your soldiers safe - redundant, I know, but it bears repeating.

Second, be generous when you can, stand firm when you need to, and don't be too pissed off to simply ask politely for what you need from her. Anger has its place, but in a negotiation it's usually the one who keeps his/her head that comes out in front. It was a hard lesson for me to learn when I was going through divorce that not everything has to be a fight, and that there were a lot of things that I was the one turning INTO a fight -- much to my surprise, it turned out she wasn't the only one who wanted to re-hash the entire relationship over every little mundane decision we had to make. Once I let go of that, everything got about 50% easier - and because she still wanted to drag everything into every discussion, I was able to negotiate from a much stronger position.

Finally, remember that it gets better, but only if you want it to get better. She probably did change some - I know my wife did - but the things that attracted you to her in the first place are going to attract you to others. Quite possibly, that includes the stuff that went wrong, too - it's not by accident that you see guys marrying essentially the same woman over and over again. She's given you a couple of gifts: most importantly, a son. She's also given you the gift of an opportunity to learn some things about yourself and apply them to the rest of your life. In my case, I only wish I'd accepted that gift fifteen years or more earlier than I did. 

[Veloce-Fino]

It turns out that my quote wasn't received quite as well on Facebook... Some people have no sense of humor.

Holy shit man, can't believe you said that.


You know all those completely insane gossiping women are talking about that now.

I can hear them now "he literally said he was going to kill her"

[Heath]

You need to watch what you post online.  May make the divorce very easy for her and hard for you.

[Veloce-Fino]

I'm offended by how easily people get offended... where are my rights?  Besides, I'm more of a 40 S&W type of guy... However the new gun that I want is the Taurus Judge...  They just came out with a new Public Defender model that has a polymer frame.  Combine that with Winchester's new ammo that they began producing for the Judge, and it's just too much for me to turn down.

Gun Link:
http://www.taurususa.com/product-details.cfm?id=693&category=Revolver&toggle=&breadcrumbseries=

Ammo Link:http://thetruthaboutguns.com/2010/06/robert-farago/winchester-pdx1-410-shotgun-ammoselling-like-hotcakes/

Forget the judge.

S&W makes a much higher quality firearm.  *2.6 ounces heavier & it's alloy & stainless, not polymer.

http://www.smith-wesson.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/Category4_750001_750051_768152_-1_757992_757992_image

[RAT900]

I'll just add a couple of thoughts to the (generally  ) good advice in the past several pages...

First, thank you for what you're doing and for keeping yourself & your soldiers safe - redundant, I know, but it bears repeating.

Second, be generous when you can, stand firm when you need to, and don't be too pissed off to simply ask politely for what you need from her. Anger has its place, but in a negotiation it's usually the one who keeps his/her head that comes out in front. It was a hard lesson for me to learn when I was going through divorce that not everything has to be a fight, and that there were a lot of things that I was the one turning INTO a fight -- much to my surprise, it turned out she wasn't the only one who wanted to re-hash the entire relationship over every little mundane decision we had to make. Once I let go of that, everything got about 50% easier - and because she still wanted to drag everything into every discussion, I was able to negotiate from a much stronger position.

Finally, remember that it gets better, but only if you want it to get better. She probably did change some - I know my wife did - but the things that attracted you to her in the first place are going to attract you to others. Quite possibly, that includes the stuff that went wrong, too - it's not by accident that you see guys marrying essentially the same woman over and over again. She's given you a couple of gifts: most importantly, a son. She's also given you the gift of an opportunity to learn some things about yourself and apply them to the rest of your life. In my case, I only wish I'd accepted that gift fifteen years or more earlier than I did. 

  well put

especially the issue of who we are attracted to...we can only change how we deal with that inherent attraction

[dolci]

You need to watch what you post online.  May make the divorce very easy for her and hard for you.

Very very true - esp. when custody is involved.

[Dragsterhund]

If you pass through BAF, let me know. We'll grab a meal.

[Adamm0621]

If you pass through BAF, let me know. We'll grab a meal.

Wish I would have got this sooner... I left BAF on the 6th... was there for less than 24 hours.  I'll hit you up on the return.

[Adamm0621]

I spent a great father's day with my son today.  I can't believe that I have to leave him again in a few days... and that because of the divorce I won't get to be there for the majority of his life.  It's sort of a bitter end to what was a great day.  I think I'm going to go drink now.

[Stella]

Are you tired of people telling you to "hang in there"? 
It seems so lame but it's about all I can add since I don't have any experience in what you're going through.

Hugs.....

[RAT900]

I spent a great father's day with my son today.  I can't believe that I have to leave him again in a few days... and that because of the divorce I won't get to be there for the majority of his life.  It's sort of a bitter end to what was a great day.  I think I'm going to go drink now.

Most family courts will let the kids call the shots on which parent to live with around age 12....

all parental quality of life considerations being equal

and yes dropping them off and leaving alone sucks....

sucks for them even more

[Adamm0621]

Back in Afghanistan... six more months until I get to hold my son again.  I feel like I'm in a holding pattern.  The divorce will be final in a month or so, but I can't even begin fixing my life until I get back to the states.

Everything that I've ever wanted out of life, everything that I've hoped for, and worked for has just been taken from me, and now I have to start over...  I'll never understand why someone would do this to someone else.  I don't know how to do it, or where to begin.

Hoping that tomorrow is better than today...